handsome, educated, sweet, owns his own home, owns properties, takes me out, adores me and has stuck around for 3 months even though we haven't been intimate, but he is white.
erplexed
I have been hoping and praying for a good manI don't know for how long, but I thought it would be a black man. I have never dated out of my race so this is new to me. He has never dated a black woman, but he seems to have no problem with it - I feel awful and most of all I feel like a sellout
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I am annoyed with myself because this last year has not been a good year with me and black men. For the last 8 months I had been threatening to make the switch, but to be completely honest it was all talk(be careful of what you ask for you just may get it!). In fact, when I met this guy I assumed he & I would just be platonic friends who hang out, but after our date last week I realized he wants more from me like a relationship and I am now paralyzed with fear.
I'm not crazy I know a good man is hard to come by, but the color factor is really eating me up. I have spoken to my friends and they have told me to not be a fool and just go with it and see what happens.....easier said than done!!! In fact, some of them have jokingly said that if I don't want him that they will gladly take him. It doesn't help that over the years my mother has always suggested, "Don't marry a white man because all they will do is marry you, take out a large life insurance policy unbeknowst to you and then kill you
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I was talking to my friend the other day and she said any man who sticks around beyond 30 days and doesn't get the booty is a keeper- funny, but in my neck of the woods so true. Ladies I am hoping what I am feeling is normal, but then on the other hand if it isn't I do not want to waste this man's time. Please talk some sense in me(if it is at all possible)
erplexed The man past the 90 day probationary period. He is financially stable, TAKES YOU PLACES and your afraid of being treated like a queen? Puleez help me undastand chile..... your afraid of being happy???? Puleez help me undastand dis.... Chile, you done hit da lottery!!! *Throws confetti* 
Great post!Umm....help me understand this *scratchin tracks cuz a sista is baffled*
I firmly believe that every woman deserves happiness. If he takes you out, that means he's not ashamed to be with you, first of all. Second, if he wants to take things to the next level, I honestly do not see a problem with it at all. You only live once. Enjoy it. White men take care of their women. You have their babies, and they want you to sit at home while they take care of everything. Hate to say this about the brothas, but dem bamas wanna drop da sperm off, and have you sitting up at the courthouse tryna file some papers n what not. Oh, and ain't no sittin at home while the brotha go out and work...you betta have a job *laffin*...fa real.
The man ADORES you. How many of those brothers have you dated ADORED you. You deserve it. Don't miss out on a good thing. Next news, you be on this board asking..."what did I do wrong and how do I get him back." Chile puleez...don't play. Be happy. Don't worry about what others say. Let a white man, asian man, or any color of a man adore me, spend time and take me out. I wouldn't be on this thread asking this question...I would be in his arms..... DO YOU AND ENJOY LIFE. You only get one.
I love this!!!LOL, wedding? I know my limits on broadcasting my business
) for being in an IR. I guess I have it good. 
Wow, where do some of you live? I've never had any stares or negative comments (that didn't come from family
Anyway since this thread is old... Anyone love filling in/guessing the blank when you see this on the "recently updated list?"
Me: "Gay!"
In DC.
handsome, educated, sweet, owns his own home, owns properties, takes me out, adores me and has stuck around for 3 months even though we haven't been intimate
I have been hoping and praying for a good man
I am annoyed with myself because this last year has not been a good year with me and black men. For the last 8 months I had been threatening to make the switch, but to be completely honest it was all talk(be careful of what you ask for you just may get it!). In fact, when I met this guy I assumed he & I would just be platonic friends who hang out, but after our date last week I realized he wants more from me like a relationship and I am now paralyzed with fear
I'm not crazy I know a good man is hard to come by, but the color factor is really eating me up. I have spoken to my friends and they have told me to not be a fool and just go with it and see what happens.....easier said than done
I was talking to my friend the other day and she said any man who sticks around beyond 30 days and doesn't get the booty is a keeper
Again, I am soooo happy for you that you've finally found someone...that you can call the 'One'.
When the time comes for the families to know and meet etc. pray about it. Either way, IF he's truly for you, nothing will stop it.
j/k
If you are getting what you truly want and need from a relationship why does it matter. For real!!
Sometimes, you have to spend time with someone that treats you really well to elevate your expectations of what you deserve and expect in a relationship. He may be your catalyst for change. Showing you that there are good, consistent, reliable, honest, loving men out there. He may be setting the bar for your future relationships.
This is what my first white man did for me. I was also the first black girl he ever dated. I learned so much from him and vice versa. I always credit him for showing me what I really wanted in a man and he showed me that men like him existed. We changed each others lives in so many ways. We are still very close friends and always will be. For real!!
Sidenote:
I remember the first time we were intimate, he was so nervous. He said "I have never been with a black woman before" and I replied "Hell, neither have I," we laughed and then we got busy
too funny!
