I met a wonderful man who is.....

Islandgurrl said:
I so second your post, love knows no color. You've found someone by chance that likes you for you - that is a plus. Months from now you'll look into his eyes and see him for the person he is - not his color. As long as he is not mistreating you and he has a descent head on his shoulders and the feelings are mutual - honey child you have nothing to worry about. I say throw your red towel in and surrender to your heart. Remember you only live once - follow your heart. If it feels right to you, then it's probably. Do not let anyone tell you how to live your life. At the end of the day when the door is closed - YOU are the only one that can live your life. Don't worry baby - BE HAPPY! I am happy for you and what is to come!
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Islandgurrl,

Since I first started this thread my thoughts and opinions of dating out of my race have changed a great deal- I am not 100% there yet, but I've made great progress since then thanks to all the great advice from all of you. I can recall on our 1st and 2nd date looking around the restaurant for "reactions" and now when we go out I am too focused on looking in his pretty baby blues to really care about who thinks what. He is such a wonderful, special being that I thank God for bringing "Prince Charming" into my life whether it be a temporary or permanent arrangement:yep:- I just know that everything happens for a reason.
 
Overjoyed said:
Islandgurrl,

Since I first started this thread my thoughts and opinions of dating out of my race have changed a great deal- I am not 100% there yet, but I've made great progress since then thanks to all the great advice from all of you. I can recall on our 1st and 2nd date looking around the restaurant for "reactions" and now when we go out I am too focused on looking in his pretty baby blues to really care about who thinks what. He is such a wonderful, special being that I thank God for bringing "Prince Charming" into my life whether it be a temporary or permanent arrangement:yep:- I just know that everything happens for a reason.
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Who cares?????? Just kidding lol, How's was yesterday??????
 
Overjoyed,

I'm loving this thread!:grin:
Ahh, such a sweet budding love story :lick:.
Your LHCF sisters have spoken, we're in your corner, rooting (all the best).
Go with your gut feeling.
Cheers!
 
princessnad said:
What did you guys do on your date?
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We went out to dinner again and was supposed to do a movie after, but that never took place. The topic of intimacy finally did come up and I told him that I am not so willing to give myself to him because sex changes things and I do not want to rush into something without looking first. He told me that he cannot understand why a women like myself is single. When I asked him the same question he said he knows why he is single and that is because he chose to be a workaholic/focus on his career and though he has accomplished a great deal for a 36 year old that he has missed out on alot. We're supposed to get together next week, but I am going to his home for the first time-I better put on my draws with the padlock!
 
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Swanky said:
Overjoyed,

I'm loving this thread!:grin:
Ahh, such a sweet budding love story :lick:.
Your LHCF sisters have spoken, we're in your corner, rooting (all the best).
Go with your gut feeling.
Cheers!
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I feel like my "relationship" with him is a reality TV show, but I enjoy sharing this wonderful experience with all of my sistas.
 
Overjoyed said:
I feel like my "relationship" with him is a reality TV show, but I enjoy sharing this wonderful experience with all of my sistas.
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Sort of feels like that for me;...a great real life experience for you but a great vicarious thrill for me to witness how it's giving you happiness. God speed and gentle sailing.:yep:
 
That's nice things are going so well. Don't feel like you have to broadcast your relationship business if you don't feel comfortable about it. Just invite us to the wedding when the time comes :grin:. J/K
 
drasgrl said:
That's nice things are going so well. Don't feel like you have to broadcast your relationship business if you don't feel comfortable about it. Just invite us to the wedding when the time comes :grin:. J/K
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LOL, wedding? I know my limits on broadcasting my business:grin:and I don't mind sharing the basics. I'm sure there are many young ladies in my situation....decent women with so much to offer to a man, but cannot find a decent one. I never imagined in a million years that I would find myself 36 years old, childless, manless unable to find a decent man. None of my female friends are married and we all sing the same song, "God please send me a good man". Life is funny because a couple of weeks ago I was telling one of my single girlfriends that I have a feeling that God has someone so special for me and he is going to be such a perfect fit that it will all become crystal clear to me as to why it took so long for us to come together. :yawn:
 
Awwww, your situation reminds me of my situation nine years ago. I was in the same boat as you but only younger. I prayed to the Lord to send me a really good man who will treat me the way a woman should be treated, and he answered my prayer. I didn't know i would have found him on the Internet - so not me at the time - but..., as long as you are open-minded, one never knows where the blessing will come from. I am so happy - 9 years later - and it gets only better. You seem like a great person - no wonder why I am rooting for you. Every good woman deserves a good man, and I am confident yours is the making - keeping fingers crossed for you! and yes, I love the mini basic updates - as long as the news is positive:grin:.

Overjoyed said:
LOL, wedding? I know my limits on broadcasting my business:grin:and I don't mind sharing the basics. I'm sure there are many young ladies in my situation....decent women with so much to offer to a man, but cannot find a decent one. I never imagined in a million years that I would find myself 36 years old, childless, manless unable to find a decent man. None of my female friends are married and we all sing the same song, "God please send me a good man". Life is funny because a couple of weeks ago I was telling one of my single girlfriends that I have a feeling that God has someone so special for me and he is going to be such a perfect fit that it will all become crystal clear to me as to why it took so long for us to come together. :yawn:
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Update: I met a wonderful man who is.....

My wonderful man is just as wonderful as the first day he entered my life:grin:. We are still taking it slow-we don't speak on the phone everyday or see each other everyday, which is something I am not used to- it feels good. In past relationships I felt I had to see the person and talk to the person everyday in order to keep them interested, but now I am learning that is not so true. Just recently he made the comment, "I have waited for this for the last 37 years" a couple of times. Well yesterday I asked what that really meant and he replied, "I have waited for a love like this all my life":kissing4:

My only concern is our respective families. My mother knows that I am seeing a white guy and is still trying to brainwash me into believing I am making a bad choice by throwing "white men scenarios' at me. On the other hand he hasn't said much about his family except how they are always questioning him about why he isn't married and when he will get married:nono:. In fact, he said he is convinced his mother as well as the rest of the family thinks that he is gay:perplexed. I don't need anyone to tell me that his family is not going to be accepting of him dating a black woman and as time goes on I do not want to be kept a secret.

Why am I so concerned about our families you ask??? Because I really believe this could be "the one":yep: and it is very obvious we completely avoid the topic. He is the type to keep things quiet and say nothing while I am the type to speak whatever is on my mind. But otherwise for now I am as happy as a clam and I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
 
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Overjoyed said:
My wonderful man is just as wonderful as the first day he entered my life:grin:. We are still taking it slow-we don't speak on the phone everyday or see each other everyday, which is something I am not used to- it feels good. In past relationships I felt I had to see the person and talk to the person everyday in order to keep them interested, but now I am learning that is not so true. Just recently he made the comment, "I have waited for this for the last 37 years" a couple of times. Well yesterday I asked what that really meant and he replied, "I have waited for a love like this all my life":kissing4:

My only concern is our respective families. My mother knows that I am seeing a white guy and is still trying to brainwash me into believing I am making a bad choice by throwing "white men scenarios' at me. On the other hand he hasn't said much about his family except how they are always questioning him about why he isn't married and when he will get married:nono:. In fact, he said he is convinced his mother as well as the rest of the family thinks that he is gay:perplexed. I don't need anyone to tell me that his family is not going to be accepting of him dating a black woman and as time goes on I do not want to be kept a secret.

Why am I so concerned about our families you ask??? Because I really believe this could be "the one":yep: and it is very obvious we completely avoid the topic. He is the type to keep things quiet and say nothing while I am the type to speak whatever is on my mind. But otherwise for now I am as happy as a clam and I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
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Again, I am soooo happy for you that you've finally found someone...that you can call the 'One'. :grin:

When the time comes for the families to know and meet etc. pray about it. Either way, IF he's truly for you, nothing will stop it. :yep:
 
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kia said:
Again, I am soooo happy for you that you've finally found someone...that you can call the 'One'. :grin:

When the time comes for the families to know and meet etc. pray about it. Either way, IF he's truly for you, nothing will stop it. :yep:
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Thank you, girly! :grin:
 
Maybe they will be so glad you are a woman they won't mind that you are black. :lachen: ok j/k comedy there.

When the time comes you are going to have to have a conversation and come to an agreement about how your respective families will be handled.
 
I've been following along and waiting for updates. I'm glad you keep us posted.

As for the race thing, that's true, there is no sense in worrying about something that isn't even an issue at the moment. I am very happy for you and I hope things work out for the best.
 
darkangel25 said:
I've been following along and waiting for updates. I'm glad you keep us posted.

As for the race thing, that's true, there is no sense in worrying about something that isn't even an issue at the moment. I am very happy for you and I hope things work out for the best.
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Ditto. Don't sweat it. My man's mama doesn't like it so much but that's fine with me because I know my man isn't having it. He's just about me and doesn't listen to some people's foolishness. Besides she lives thousands of miles away so she's not all in our business anyway.
 
I am so glad to read updates in this thread. When I first read the initial post, I was touched by your honesty because if I was on a date with a White man I would be checking to see who was looking at me and would struggle with feeling like I was selling out (or, that I was perceived as a sell-out). To know that you believe that he is the One is so heartening to me because it truly shows that love is colorblind once you are willing to step out on faith and cast fear aside. I know that your mother will come to see things as you do and I'm not too worried about his family. I'm so happy for you, Overjoyed! What a fitting username for a wonderful situation! :rosebud:
 
Wow, your relationship is growing and your LHCF sisters are sharing the moments too! How wonderful it is to be in love.

When the time is right, you both will discuss the "family" element. There is nothing that you can do to make your mom think differently- only time will make her "comfortable" with your blossoming relationship. Ultimately, as long as you both love and respect each other, how ever your families think won't break the bond that you two have formed.

Congrats on admitting that he is "the one", Overjoyed!
 
I understand, where you are coming for, but if you are attracted to him and he is treating you the way. I would keep him. I know what your mum said and she does wish the best for you, but sometimes her best is not in your best interest. You deserve to have a lovely man and you thank God for him.
 
I just wanted to tell you that my hubby and I are originally from east TN where people are very small minded. His parents used to be totally against the idea of him dating outside his race. When I met them, I was just myself bc thats the only person I know how to be. I think his mom and I clicked because we are both nurses.

Anyway, these days they genuinely LOVE me to death, insist on my calling them mom and dad, and cant say enough good things about me and how lucky their son is to have me. At first I thought they were just being nice to my face, but they really mean it. His mom even gave me her diamond anniversary band as a wedding gift. My husband was married before and she never made such a nice gesture towards his ex-wife. As a matter of fact, she was very open about not liking her.

So sometimes people do come around. You dont even have to force it, sometimes it happens naturally. They will see how happy he is and how can they not be happy for him?
 
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