I met a wonderful man who is.....
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phynestone
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Overjoyed-
Are you still on the forum? I'd like an update about this budding relationship.
Are you still on the forum? I'd like an update about this budding relationship.
Distorted Barbie
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I say give him a chance. On your next date or get together watch the movie "Something New" LOL!!!
"Let go and let flow" quote from the movie....LOL!!!
Gurl, I was gonna say the same thing...Give it a shot. Just bc u've never tried something before doesn't mean that u won't like it.
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Detroit2Dallas
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handsome, educated, sweet, owns his own home, owns properties, takes me out, adores me and has stuck around for 3 months even though we haven't been intimate, but he is white.
erplexed
I have been hoping and praying for a good manI don't know for how long, but I thought it would be a black man. I have never dated out of my race so this is new to me. He has never dated a black woman, but he seems to have no problem with it - I feel awful and most of all I feel like a sellout
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I am annoyed with myself because this last year has not been a good year with me and black men. For the last 8 months I had been threatening to make the switch, but to be completely honest it was all talk(be careful of what you ask for you just may get it!). In fact, when I met this guy I assumed he & I would just be platonic friends who hang out, but after our date last week I realized he wants more from me like a relationship and I am now paralyzed with fear.
I'm not crazy I know a good man is hard to come by, but the color factor is really eating me up. I have spoken to my friends and they have told me to not be a fool and just go with it and see what happens.....easier said than done!!! In fact, some of them have jokingly said that if I don't want him that they will gladly take him. It doesn't help that over the years my mother has always suggested, "Don't marry a white man because all they will do is marry you, take out a large life insurance policy unbeknowst to you and then kill you
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I was talking to my friend the other day and she said any man who sticks around beyond 30 days and doesn't get the booty is a keeper- funny, but in my neck of the woods so true. Ladies I am hoping what I am feeling is normal, but then on the other hand if it isn't I do not want to waste this man's time. Please talk some sense in me(if it is at all possible)
WOW, this is me. Except I dont have a problem with his race, I thought I would because I am so race conscious but it hasnt. He's amazing. I'm smiling now just typing this. I met him last month when I hit his car
and it was a connection right off jump street. He lives two doors down, I had never seen him and he had never seen me and my girls. So far its one of the best experiences I've had with a man.We arent being completely intimate (we cuddle and kiss and he will rub some part of me while we are together an arm, leg, foot, back or something its so sweet) and he has no problem with us not having sex, no pressure at all. I'm his first interracial and he is mine.He hasnt officially met my girls but he was introduced when he came and helped me move soon furniture yesterday.
We arent an item yet but I know he's not going anywhere anytime soon, we just connect and its so....intense, its weird. Dont be scared to date your guy, stop looking at him as a white guy and just look at him as a man. I think a lot of times black women are so used to race and race relations and carrying the weight of our ancestors that we constantly see in black n white. WE tend to get in our own way. I'm still learning to not.
Above all dont do something your not comfortable doing but do allow yourself to be open to new things. I keep trying to find something to dislike about this man but I swear he is in it to win it and just a overall good guy. He went and got me and the girls some panera bread earlier today for lunch. He's baking brownies later on I'm making pasta.
I felt the same way you feel now. Eventhough I was attracted to him I didnt think I would like him this much. I got called all kinds of names by my so called guy friends, only one told me he was happy for me all the others talked about me, bad. Hurt me deep. Because I am the last person that you would think would be with a white man, but here I am, happy as a canary. Because I cant live my life for someone else, I had to see for myself if this guy was for me.
Whatever your choice is I wish you happiness, but skin color is not as deep as we think it is and cultural differences can be overcame depending on the person. I had my honey watching color purple the other day and we have talks about race and history. Your not selling out to anyone and you deserve to be happy no matter what color your casanova is. I'm just enjoying my todays with no pressures about our tomorrows. Just riding the wave and so should you, you may be pleasantly surprised.
Detroit2Dallas
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o shoot i just realized this is old lol
TRUKARISMA
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ladies i Knew this thread was old, thought Overjoyed might be lurking around and pop up to give us an update on the relationship. Oh well.
Crystalicequeen123
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Umm....help me understand this *scratchin tracks cuz a sista is baffled*
I firmly believe that every woman deserves happiness. If he takes you out, that means he's not ashamed to be with you, first of all. Second, if he wants to take things to the next level, I honestly do not see a problem with it at all. You only live once. Enjoy it. White men take care of their women. You have their babies, and they want you to sit at home while they take care of everything. Hate to say this about the brothas, but dem bamas wanna drop da sperm off, and have you sitting up at the courthouse tryna file some papers n what not. Oh, and ain't no sittin at home while the brotha go out and work...you betta have a job *laffin*...fa real.
The man ADORES you. How many of those brothers have you dated ADORED you. You deserve it. Don't miss out on a good thing. Next news, you be on this board asking..."what did I do wrong and how do I get him back." Chile puleez...don't play. Be happy. Don't worry about what others say. Let a white man, asian man, or any color of a man adore me, spend time and take me out. I wouldn't be on this thread asking this question...I would be in his arms..... DO YOU AND ENJOY LIFE. You only get one.
LOL!!!!
I'm sorry.....but you crack me UP [mention=4945679]ThatJerseyGirl!!![/mention] 
Btw....any updates from anyone??
Overjoyed?? Detroit2Dallas??? Updates anyone??
I think your stories are sweet and I want to know what happened to the men in your relationships....
Detroit2Dallas
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Um yeah, that relationship is old news lool. It was fun while it lasted but he was tooo...intense...so yeah been there done that, dated a mexican guy, got past that, now I'm as single as Jesus Christ (I'm sorry lol i got that from #1 Ladies detective Agency smh)
Crystalicequeen123
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Thanks for the update Detroit2Dallas...
SO sorry it didn't work out for you though.
Was he just coming on too strong? Was there any way you could have told him to slow it down a bit? Detroit2Dallas
Could you please tell us his zodiac sign?
Detroit2Dallas
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I dont believe in zodiac signs so I dont know.
And to be honest I think he was infatuated with my skin/color/texture etc. and he ALWAYS wanted to kiss me, I started feeling like massa and kizzy lol. It inspired me to make my youtube video http://www.youtube.com/user/esha112681?feature=mhee#p/u/4/tbdnpT-mr3A
And to be honest I think he was infatuated with my skin/color/texture etc. and he ALWAYS wanted to kiss me, I started feeling like massa and kizzy lol. It inspired me to make my youtube video http://www.youtube.com/user/esha112681?feature=mhee#p/u/4/tbdnpT-mr3A
UmSumayyah
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You're quite the stunner. You have a sweet voice, too.
That's my "I watched 25 seconds" comment.
I'll be back after I watch the rest.
That's my "I watched 25 seconds" comment.
I'll be back after I watch the rest.
greenandchic
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Umm....help me understand this *scratchin tracks cuz a sista is baffled*
I firmly believe that every woman deserves happiness. If he takes you out, that means he's not ashamed to be with you, first of all. Second, if he wants to take things to the next level, I honestly do not see a problem with it at all. You only live once. Enjoy it. White men take care of their women. You have their babies, and they want you to sit at home while they take care of everything. Hate to say this about the brothas, but dem bamas wanna drop da sperm off, and have you sitting up at the courthouse tryna file some papers n what not. Oh, and ain't no sittin at home while the brotha go out and work...you betta have a job *laffin*...fa real.
The man ADORES you. How many of those brothers have you dated ADORED you. You deserve it. Don't miss out on a good thing. Next news, you be on this board asking..."what did I do wrong and how do I get him back." Chile puleez...don't play. Be happy. Don't worry about what others say. Let a white man, asian man, or any color of a man adore me, spend time and take me out. I wouldn't be on this thread asking this question...I would be in his arms..... DO YOU AND ENJOY LIFE. You only get one.
I know this thread is old as dirt, but this had me dying. !
TrueToHair
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