The question for me is Why are you with this man?
What has he done for you?
How does he show that he loves you?
What makes him worth to be with you?
I have always thought I was/am the prize in a relationship. When people asked me when we got married why I didn't get him a gift and he had gotten me one, I explained "I am the gift, I married him, what more should he expect?" And I believe that. He should be honored that I have choosen to spend my life with him.erplexed
We need to put more value on ourselves and stop letting men mistreat us like this. If my husband even even thought to form his lips to ask me something like this I would shoot him dead and use him as fertilizer in my garden.
Now its nearly 7 months that we been talking
Did you ask him why he felt the need to go on this trip with this woman? Why did the woman think it was okay to ask someone's boyfriend to go on a trip with them?
YOUR KIDDING RIGHT?!
u mean to tell me some man--fixed his mouth to ask you this?
ok we r on punked--bring the cameras out---Ashton where r u?
cuz i know this has to be a joke
Some women don't care if a man is in a relationship. To them it's ego to know that they were able to get the attention of another woman's man. Not all women are 'sister' conscious. It's all about them (No matter what color/race they are).Exactly. He must have made her feel comfortable enough to ask (i.e. she doesn't know he's in a "serious" relationship)
I'm so mad I feel like slapping the crap out of the next man that walks by just for the heck of it
Some women don't care if a man is in a relationship. To them it's ego to know that they were able to get the attention of another woman's man. Not all women are 'sister' conscious. It's all about them (No matter what color/race they are).
And it's sad; they have no bounds of respect for someones's feelings. The man is no better, but still there are women out there who just don't care.
On the other hand, she, this airline attendant could be desperate and don't have her hair in check like we do here and she'll take any man who comes 'sniffing' her way, cause this man is a dog.
This is so true. I have women running my husband down and I'm sure there's women after him that I don't know about since he doesn't tell me and I have to hear it in the streets.
Some women are attracted to attached men.
My bf whom i have been with for 4 yrs in Feb 09 asked me how i felt about him going on holiday with another woman. I know her but he used to fancy her (i think he still does) and he thinks she's wife material. She is a air hostess and had a ticket at a discounted rate to go anywhere in the world. For me its the principle of going away with another woman for pleasure alone for days is not appropriate especially because i have ahd issues with trusting him in the past and we are trying to work on our relationship.
I explained to him that im not telling him what to do but that is not the type of relationship i choose to have and i would neither find that appropriate. I explained to him that if he went i dont know if i would feel comfortable continuing with the relationship. After argument, he decided to not go, but i have since spoken to a mutual friend who said he spoke to him and he thought i should have done something for him to show him that i appreciate the sacrifice. I'm really upset about this as if one of my male friends asked me to go on holiday with them , i wouldnt even discuss it with my bf as i know he would feel funny about another man asking his gf to go on holiday alone, and i wouldnt want their to be tension in the future between them. so without a doubt i would decline as i feel that one-on-one holidays like that should be kept between you and your man unless your going with family, or your single and therefore have no one else to take into consideration.
The whole appreciating him for NOT going on holiday with another woman really p****d me of cuz of all the things i been through i havent been rewarded for he's simply now treating me the way someone should be treated in a relationhip with respect and consideration the same way you would want for yourself.
Im soooo mad How would you feel if your man asked you to go on holiday with another woman and then asked for a reward of extra apprecitation for NOT GOING
Again, it stems from that same craptastic belief that there only 4 good black men on this earth, 3 of whom are married.
And it's really kinda circular.
Single chicks, like myself, see "good" men giving their women what they want and thinks "I want THAT" not realizing that the reason why ya'll married chicks get what you want is because you set expectations and parameters. "He must be a good man".
...yes, and the good woman he's married to made his behind rise to the occassion or step aside for someone who would...
He says the same thing.
WOW, Just WOW!!!
That 10 to 1 ratio is really getting to some men heads!!!!!
no it was rude of him to ask. he should give you a token of appreciation for not dropping him.
I would dump his a$$ as fast as I could possibly get him OUT of my hands!
What nerve! HE IS NOT INTO YOU!
And then a friend feels you should REWARD him for not going on a trip with ANOTHER woman? Omigod!
What give him butt sex? What? What should the REWARD be? You should have asked!
My bf whom i have been with for 4 yrs in Feb 09 asked me how i felt about him going on holiday with another woman. I know her but he used to fancy her (i think he still does) and he thinks she's wife material. She is a air hostess and had a ticket at a discounted rate to go anywhere in the world. For me its the principle of going away with another woman for pleasure alone for days is not appropriate especially because i have ahd issues with trusting him in the past and we are trying to work on our relationship.
I explained to him that im not telling him what to do but that is not the type of relationship i choose to have and i would neither find that appropriate. I explained to him that if he went i dont know if i would feel comfortable continuing with the relationship. After argument, he decided to not go, but i have since spoken to a mutual friend who said he spoke to him and he thought i should have done something for him to show him that i appreciate the sacrifice. I'm really upset about this as if one of my male friends asked me to go on holiday with them , i wouldnt even discuss it with my bf as i know he would feel funny about another man asking his gf to go on holiday alone, and i wouldnt want their to be tension in the future between them. so without a doubt i would decline as i feel that one-on-one holidays like that should be kept between you and your man unless your going with family, or your single and therefore have no one else to take into consideration.
The whole appreciating him for NOT going on holiday with another woman really p****d me of cuz of all the things i been through i havent been rewarded for he's simply now treating me the way someone should be treated in a relationhip with respect and consideration the same way you would want for yourself.
Im soooo mad How would you feel if your man asked you to go on holiday with another woman and then asked for a reward of extra apprecitation for NOT GOING
Are you 100% sure he wasn't playing games trying to *** with you? Make you jealous? Men who are insecure can get trifling, immature and petty.
One of my nieces went out of the country without her BF and all of a sudden gets these mysterious texts from someone who claimed to be sleeping with her BF, pregnant with his kid, and all kinds of craziness. Niece was tripping because her cell # was brand new and only a few ppl had it. She had been with the BF for over a year, and the first time she's away from him, this? I told her it's her BF playing games because a real woman would have confronted her face to face, in person, or if over the phone, with a voice call and not texting like that. Men can be silly like that.