You are not alone.
I was dating a guy for about 4 months and the relationship never really got off to where we were ready to move to a...well, real relationship. He always had this thing on his mind about moving to another state for work to make more money and find a better job.
He would be rooming with this chick who he had a thing with way back in the day and he told me it was no big deal for him since she was like a sister. (Rooming with her is part of his wanting to move since he could save money by not paying rent but only supplementing the bills. Yeah I know...supposedly her job provides free housing). I did not feel comfortable with this at all but it seemed I would be unreasonable since he talked of the move from the jump.
Anyway, he went to interview for a job there and stayed for almost 6 weeks beating the pavement looking for a job, etc. I tried to be okay and stayed in touch with him while he was there but I was always unhappy about the situation. He finally came back to GA without a job in this other place. I didn't really know what to do but we continued to hang out. 2 days after he got back he got a call from the other state saying he got the job. He was gonna go which really pissed me off because my feelings had been taken on a roller coaster ride from trying to figure out what he would do. The day he was to call back and accept the job, he broke his leg. So now he couldnt go. A couple weeks after that he gets laid off from his job in GA
We are not in the same city now but we still talk daily. I still don't know where this is going. If he could be out of state working and living with that woman right now, I know that he definitely would which is why I don't know why I still hold on. Seems I been putting myself thoughts and feelings on the back burner all the time in this situation. Oh well....