chronicity
Well-Known Member
<shrug> Different strokes for different folks. Once upon a time (when I was high school, I shared a similar mentality) I used to believe a man could love me without showing he could provide for me. Do you know where that got me? No where...
As long as you understand that a man can still love and provide for you without going through Valentine's Day rituals, then you shouldn't have any problems.
This is just a hunch but you and your BF are never going to see eye to eye on this issue if you equate gift-giving with care-giving and he (for whatever reason) is philosophically against the very sentiment you hold so strongly. Neither one of you are right or wrong, just different. Only you know whether you can handle this difference.
Let me ask you this: If he is the type of guy who jumps up to clean the ice off your windshield at 5 o'oclock in the morning, checks on you if you're sick, cooks a candle-lit dinner for you on your birthday, or runs you a nice bubble bath after you've had bad day (in other words, acts of service), would you still have a problem with him if he wasn't into doing anything for Valentine's Day? It's possible that he is that guy.