. His behavior was unacceptable. My dh is sociable too but the minute I walk up he is introducing me to whomever he is talking to and making me the center of attention. I can't believe he was chatting up that chick in your presence. Most men would love to be dating a beautiful woman like you and fight to keep you.
I am so happy for you 
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We in the same boat. Its amazing how letting go of dead weight, strings you back into action. You dont want a man like that period. Even if he ask'd to be with you again, he'll do it again. Let go and let God.
I dated an ex-NFL player before and a football player of another league. They both though they were God's gift to women. I think I'll stick to non-status men from now on. These cats think they can do what they want and you'll just stick up with it because they hot stuff. To the left n*gga...to the left...
Hopefully, their kind will learn one of these days. I'm sure he won't forget the day a woman stood up to him. Also, I hope others will follow suit, and not make him feel like the world revolves only around him.
I am so proud of you! Well done
What an Idiot.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Shootz..he didn't see a lot wrong with most of his behavior. Throughout our relationship, he had problems seeing things that he did as being wrong. I kept asking well do you really think if you were to explain it to someone else, that they wouldn't think you were in the wrong. He couldn't comprehend that.
Last year at this same restaurant, I ran into a guy that I dated. I told him hello, and kept it moving. This is what my ex said when I flipped the scenario. He asked me, "So what if I came in the restaurant, and you were talking to that guy. What if you kept talking to him even after I arrived. Would you still feel the same way about it?" I looked at him kinda crazy when he asked that because I realized he just wasn't getting it. I told him, "IF I ever did that, I would think the same thing. It's DISRESPECTFUL! I would have more sense to not do that to you." I told him that I know he wouldn't sit idly by and allow me to do that to him either. That's when he said understood.
We in the same boat. Its amazing how letting go of dead weight, strings you back into action. You dont want a man like that period. Even if he ask'd to be with you again, he'll do it again. Let go and let God.
I dated an ex-NFL player before and a football player of another league. They both though they were God's gift to women. I think I'll stick to non-status men from now on. These cats think they can do what they want and you'll just stick up with it because they hot stuff. To the left n*gga...to the left...
That's exactly what I was thinking. Shootz..he didn't see a lot wrong with most of his behavior. Throughout our relationship, he had problems seeing things that he did as being wrong. I kept asking well do you really think if you were to explain it to someone else, that they wouldn't think you were in the wrong. He couldn't comprehend that.
Last year at this same restaurant, I ran into a guy that I dated. I told him hello, and kept it moving. This is what my ex said when I flipped the scenario. He asked me, "So what if I came in the restaurant, and you were talking to that guy. What if you kept talking to him even after I arrived. Would you still feel the same way about it?" I looked at him kinda crazy when he asked that because I realized he just wasn't getting it. I told him, "IF I ever did that, I would think the same thing. It's DISRESPECTFUL! I would have more sense to not do that to you." I told him that I know he wouldn't sit idly by and allow me to do that to him either. That's when he said understood.
Of course, it wasn't that I was rude. I just wasn't willing to put up with his crap. He wanted a 'yes' woman, which I clearly wasn't. I remember him saying if a man had a choice out of two women; one that's willing to do what he wants, and not question it or another that will do it, but always has some objection, then the man would be more willing to choose the one that goes along with everything like the lady on Coming to America. This fool even said, "if I said jump", then that good woman will say, "how high"
. Yep. I told him then that if that's what he was looking for then I wasn't the one. What the heck was I even thinking?!!!
I just have to say, this is one of the best threads I've read in this forum in a long time; I feel empowered just by reading what you did, Ediese.
I'm really proud of you. I know that you still have strong feelings for him, but my prayer for you will be that you continue to stand firm in your resolve to not get back together to him. As others said, it's great that you found out sooner rather than later what he's really all about and how unworthy he is you as a woman. I honestly am thrilled that you said it with a smile, with a pep in your step, and that are not backing down. If you ever feel discouraged or weak you can always count on your LHCF sistahs to remind you of this great moment where you took a stand for the sake of your own self esteem and self-essence.
That huge stressor is off my back.
I'm sure it was probably the other way around. Here he was the one asking ME if I did self introspection. Because oblivious to me, he said my actions/attitude were just plain rude. Hopefully, he'll learn one day.
You're absolutely correct. I kept thinking that here I was praying to God to let my FH find me, and when I met him so unexpectingly, I was positive that my prayers were answered. The truth is that I'm really happy for the experience. I'm not totally over him, but I'm on my way.
Ediese, I just want to say that I am so proud of you, many women would stayed and taken most of his treatment, but you knew that you weren't happy and acted on it. I really like that, and I know it hurt and is probably still hurting, but after you said you walked out with a smile on your face, I started smiling too. You definitely did the right thing, and I applaud you lady. You have a beautiful inside and out and deserving of so much more.
