Brwnbeauti
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That's a dangerous view to have....trust the sex is coming. It's just like any other courtship.
I think the secret friend is worst.
That's a dangerous view to have....trust the sex is coming. It's just like any other courtship.
^^^The moral sense you portray here is not biblical, sorry. Lying means not confronting the spouse of the affair. You can even lie to yourself that it's "OK" to do such.
I couldn't. Not really a moral dilemma for me. I just don't like to knowingly put myself in situations where I could end up on the Next 48 or Snapped or Inside Edition, etc. I don't want to get caught up in anyone's "War of Roses". You never know what type bullisht people have going on. I feel like if I were to ever take on the role of mistress, I would have to focus all of my attention on him and keep tabs on his wife. Lest I slip up and end up with my throat slit.
I just... I know how I would be if my future husband had a mistress. It wouldn't end pretty.
I see you in here sunnieb
before you became the prototype for happy wives, ever played the bad girl?
And dont shoot me for the next question....its just hypothetical lol.....
but, hypothetically speaking, how would you react if your husband suddenly lost his damn mind and ever stepped out on you?
you know what, let's keep the ball rollin... since I just asked for the thoughts of a seasoned wife, how about the thoughts of a new wife? Menina Preta speak chick. lol
I just don't know if I can inflict that kind of pain on the wife.
yea I'm not into the bible. it sux.
This is where you are confusing. You just got through talking about attracting like-people into your circle and how that outweighs any new ideas you might have taken on in your early years as an adult. You did mention conservative society and that you attract christians (I'm assuming, of a certain caliber and not name-only). Then you talk about your own personal brand of morality and ask what lying is. Well, that's confusing.
Sins of commission and omission and all the gray areas in between when you know something is holding back information that is detrimental to another...that's still lying. Anyone can fall in love with a married man but that's a singular event. If you don't think it's problematic and indicative of a moral condition, then I don't know what to say. I've been attracted to someone married but I didn't pursue anything because I knew it was wrong. You often cannot help your feelings....it's what you do with them that is the problem. And christians nor the bible sux...what sux is sin and all people do that. What's horrible in my book is women's inhumanity towards other women. And adultery is a bad thing in just about every society and religion and areligious people everywhere. I'm not pulling straws from a hat.
^^^Oh, ok. You made it seem like your personal values and total circle are primarily bible belt. I'll say this, every man leads his own life. Just having the title of a christian doesn't make anybody one automatically in the biblical sense. Same for other religions. Shrugs. Don't become defensive, it was for clarification. What I was responding to was the confusion because I thought you were saying one thing. I get it...your culture is christian. That's nothing new or weird. Hey, I have my own religious prejudices. Shrugs.
But about moral code, I do remember you coming down hard on divorcees and you implying they are poor in values because they broke "the contract." I don't see how anybody, religious or not, can justify adultery. Tis all.
Contracts are sometimes dissolved. Honey, the disloyal one is the one to break the contract and that begins long before the paperwork. My priest said so.
I always feel like those people are lying about the reasons they are still married. That didn't answer the question but I had to say lol. I just don't think they are being transparent.For those women who say they would never date a married man, do you feel the same about dating someone who is 'technically' still married. For whatever reason, haven't filed for divorce?
For those women who say they would never date a married man, do you feel the same about dating someone who is 'technically' still married. For whatever reason, haven't filed for divorce?
The only truth is what can be proved. Everything else is hearsay.
Divorce is actively disloyal. Unless you are getting your arse beat, your spouse makes an unthinkable decision that endangers your life or that of your children---there is no excuse for divorce. Divorce is also being a quitter. You should be able to handle whatever challenges life throws your way.
Jesus loves winners.
For those women who say they would never date a married man, do you feel the same about dating someone who is 'technically' still married. For whatever reason, haven't filed for divorce?
For those women who say they would never date a married man, do you feel the same about dating someone who is 'technically' still married. For whatever reason, haven't filed for divorce?
For those women who say they would never date a married man, do you feel the same about dating someone who is 'technically' still married. For whatever reason, haven't filed for divorce?
SOO I can speak on this. Being a mistress ehhh not knowingly. Now I have deceived people.
I dated a lot and never told any one of those guys I was still married. Me and the ex had been separated for several years. We lived completely separate lives.
Our reasons for not get a divorce ehhh. I don't really know, but I know I felt soo much better once I got that paperwork in my hands.
Technically still married just means that door is always open.