Amarilles
Well-Known Member
I don't think that I knowingly can.
However I did almost get sucked in once. Met a married guy at the gym a few years back, though he of course never said he was married, didn't wear his ring to the gym. He was so charming, read me like an easy-read. He mentioned a daughter once which made me think hmm.. I asked a bit about her and he mentioned a wife so matter-of-factly, so I reacted matter-of-factly too and treated him as such, even if we definitely had a spark. That one night where I found myself driving to the gym in my nice work clothes because he begged for me to come see him, that night I knew it'd be the last time that I'd see him. I could almost feel feelings for him rising, but I kept my cool and saw him that night, and we hung out at the gym parking lot until our 2 cars where the lasts one in that entire lot. And indeed it was the last time I saw him. I deleted his number and ignored his every text/call, and that was that.
Now that I'm married I'm glad that I was never inappropriate with him, despite some of his comments and compliments. In a way I would never knowingly do it because I wouldn't want it done to me, but that experience made me see how easy it can be to get suckered in to an unexpected situation, so I'm much less judgy. I don't know how women knowingly do it though.
However I did almost get sucked in once. Met a married guy at the gym a few years back, though he of course never said he was married, didn't wear his ring to the gym. He was so charming, read me like an easy-read. He mentioned a daughter once which made me think hmm.. I asked a bit about her and he mentioned a wife so matter-of-factly, so I reacted matter-of-factly too and treated him as such, even if we definitely had a spark. That one night where I found myself driving to the gym in my nice work clothes because he begged for me to come see him, that night I knew it'd be the last time that I'd see him. I could almost feel feelings for him rising, but I kept my cool and saw him that night, and we hung out at the gym parking lot until our 2 cars where the lasts one in that entire lot. And indeed it was the last time I saw him. I deleted his number and ignored his every text/call, and that was that.
Now that I'm married I'm glad that I was never inappropriate with him, despite some of his comments and compliments. In a way I would never knowingly do it because I wouldn't want it done to me, but that experience made me see how easy it can be to get suckered in to an unexpected situation, so I'm much less judgy. I don't know how women knowingly do it though.