Yeah, that sucks. DH is only signed up for a 3 year contract. He's intel so he should be getting some great offers after. He mentioned I could have whatever I wanted after that.
oke:..it's possible that I'm breaking him
Going into Intel is a VERY smart move, however, please let him know that he may be better off if he signs another contract so he could acquire at least 10 years of experience. 3 years in not enough time to learn and master the career field and intel is a constant emerging field, due to technology. The longer he stays in the most likely will be able to grab a couple high bonuses which factors in his time in grade.
Also, because he is in Intel, he will often come home not being able to tell you anything about how his day went, so don't expect a lot of "after work shop talk" many couples can engage in. OR even on the phone. Even when he gets deployed or goes on TDY's he will most likely be sworn into not discussing anything. Believe it or not but marrying him made you a soldier as well, just from an extended standpoint. In addition to marrying him, you married into a community.
I would also encourage you to take advantage of your spousal preference into government jobs. When you PCS, you have up to a year to use your spousal preference when applying for jobs. The Army branch is a great employer as a civilian.
Two more important things to always have with you as a mil spouse:
1. Power of attorney
2. Copies of his orders, even if they are training rips.
These will become a source of security and empowerment for you during times when you are living a part. Those orders with you on them, indicate that you have a support system that you can take advantage of when your husband is unable to conduct military business for you. Yes he is your pillar as husband, but there will be times when you will have to be his and take care of business on your own. If he is slow to this, then guide him through this process and he'll catch on.
Oh and know his MOS. Learn it by researching stuff on the internet, that way when does share things, you can relate and understand. Google is your friend and you can find tons of information about a military career field online.
You may know these things already, but I'm just providing them just in case you didn't. I'm telling you the life of a military spouse (esp from what I seen on the Army side) can be VERY STRESSFUL on a marriage.
Oh and a little secret I learned is to treat your husband like he is the Colonel or General.
If he needs to you call and make an appointment, support him. If he's working a night shift and you can meet him on base, take him dinner or lunch. When ya'll move into together, send baked goodies for him to take to his unit. Every military husband looks for the upmost support from their wife, it really gives them fuel for them to carry on during good and bad spells within their career. I'm not saying be a doormat or let him disrespect you though.
And if you join the FRG, stay away from the gossipy ones. Offer your skills, volunteer to organize fundraisers or programs, and refrain from bad mouthing your spouse around other mil spouses. Trust me it's very easy to get into this and see your husbands job and employer as the enemy. Especially during times where he was put the Army first before all.
Regarding your living situation, if you have a dependent ID and you have access to a base, you an stay at the lodging on base. Those rates are very inexpensive like $35 a night and may be a better alternative and save money. If you need help locating one, let me know I can look a few up for you.
Hugs