fattyfatfat
Well-Known Member
JMO, but no one should be going to a collection agency for rent.
I havent read through all of the replies, so sorry if some of this is repeated.
I think finances can ruin a relationship/marriage -- especially if one person is only thinking of themselves and their money.
What could help is making a list of all of your expenses such as rent, food, things for the baby, car payments, insurance, gas, utilities, etc to help him to see that it takes the two of you to make everything work smoothly. Show it to him so maybe he can see that he shouldnt be spending money on xbox 360's and such. Show him the bills as soon as they come in the mail and write the due date on the calendar. He is responsible for the bills too.
Or maybe he needs to see the consequences of him not paying the bills on time. It took my friends lights getting cut off to understand that bill paying isnt optional. Try to pick him up less from work. Does he have a cell phone? Let it get cut off. He isnt understanding all of this because you are there to catch him when he falls. Your mom is right, do not let him put anything in your name. You see he is careless with his expenses and he could be worse with yours.
My advice may not be good because I havent been in a situation like this. But please talk to him ASAP. You have a child together and he needs to act like a man and handle all of his responsibilities. Keep saving your money in case you have to move on.
I hope I dont sound harsh!
I havent read through all of the replies, so sorry if some of this is repeated.
I think finances can ruin a relationship/marriage -- especially if one person is only thinking of themselves and their money.
What could help is making a list of all of your expenses such as rent, food, things for the baby, car payments, insurance, gas, utilities, etc to help him to see that it takes the two of you to make everything work smoothly. Show it to him so maybe he can see that he shouldnt be spending money on xbox 360's and such. Show him the bills as soon as they come in the mail and write the due date on the calendar. He is responsible for the bills too.
Or maybe he needs to see the consequences of him not paying the bills on time. It took my friends lights getting cut off to understand that bill paying isnt optional. Try to pick him up less from work. Does he have a cell phone? Let it get cut off. He isnt understanding all of this because you are there to catch him when he falls. Your mom is right, do not let him put anything in your name. You see he is careless with his expenses and he could be worse with yours.
My advice may not be good because I havent been in a situation like this. But please talk to him ASAP. You have a child together and he needs to act like a man and handle all of his responsibilities. Keep saving your money in case you have to move on.
I hope I dont sound harsh!
