Can This Marriage Work? Long Post!

Is this worth fixing?

  • No, get out while you can!!

    Votes: 23 38.3%

  • Yes, it can still be fixed if proper guidance is followed.

    Votes: 37 61.7%
  • Total voters
    60
  • Poll closed .
TamedTresses said:
This is what I was thinking, but I didn't want to post it. I didn't want to offend the OP. And, of course, I could be wrong.
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Ain't no shame! There are girls here who are dancers and stuff. They just don't whip out crazy stories with obvious holes in them. Just saying...

And we were all thinking it. Though this was second to a web cam girl. The oldest profession was 3rd in line, but I was trying to work out the logistics.

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EtherealEnigma said:
Ain't no shame! There are girls here who are dancers and stuff. They just don't whip out crazy stories with obvious holes in them. Just saying...

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Yeah, but it seems like she wasn't comfortable in saying what it is that she does for a living. I'm not saying she should be ashamed, just that I didn't want to be the one to mention it. And, of course, I don't know that she actually does that for a living...just crossed my mind.
 
shockolate said:
ARE YOU A ***** *** OPERATOR?
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My porn blocker is blocking those the two words before operator but I can assume it's phone love :rofl:. I considered that before because I had multiple guys tell me that my voicemail sounded like a porn star or phone sex operator :look:.
No way I could do it living with my mom and bro :rofl: :rofl:. I'm quite shy so I probably would get nervous and mess up or laugh. I'd also probably become disgusted and feel like a hooker lol. But, if worst came to worst I'd do it sooner than strip. And I would probably kill myself before prostitution, real talk :yep:.
 
SerenavanderWoodsen said:
My porn blocker is blocking those the two words before operator but I can assume it's phone love :rofl:. I considered that before because I had multiple guys tell me that my voicemail sounded like a porn star or phone sex operator :look:.
No way I could do it living with my mom and bro :rofl: :rofl:. I'm quite shy so I probably would get nervous and mess up or laugh. I'd also probably become disgusted and feel like a hooker lol. But, if worst came to worst I'd do it sooner than strip. And I would probably kill myself before prostitution, real talk :yep:.
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You have a porn blocker???!? Goodness, woman, why?! :lol:
 
This is yet another perfect example of when keeping it real goes terribly wrong.

Dang. Another one bites the dust, I wonder if this thread will survive Sunday? Hmmmm.....

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OP: If you don't want to explain your line of work, can you at least confirm whether your pay is scalable? Is there a max payout in terms of how much you can earn in a pay cycle, or could you take on more work in order to double your monthly income? I'm trying to see if there is a way you could increase your earnings so that you could begin to establish savings and emergency funds for your future?

If your screen name is your birth year, you are 25-26 depending on your birthdate. Given your age and background, we really need to work on making sure you as a grown woman, are not one delayed (not even missing altogether, but just delayed) paycheck away from homelessness.

Perhaps establishing safety nets would give your DH some confidence in your ability to be responsible, that way he'd feel comfortable opening a joint account (assuming you don't have one already) that you could draw from in times of need such as this. You two are partners, not father and child, and your behavior has given him a level of power over your survival that is risky for a young woman with no capability for self-reliance. He owes you the utmost as a provider, and I don't think he's faultless. However, based on the way this thread is playing out, I'm just not seeing this situation as polarized in terms of good guy vs. bad guy as I originally thought.
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
@ajoke where is it so I can read it lololol

This can't be real. So whatchu do datchu can't tell us. Puleez don't tell us dat u be online web cammin but nekkid from a shelta wif da people layin on their cots in da background tryna get some sleep...
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Hollerinnn!!!!!!!! :lachen:I was thinking the same thing!
 
curlycoquette said:
OP: If you don't want to explain your line of work, can you at least confirm whether your pay is scalable? Is there a max payout in terms of how much you can earn in a pay cycle, or could you take on more work in order to double your monthly income? I'm trying to see if there is a way you could increase your earnings so that you could begin to establish savings and emergency funds for your future?

If your screen name is your birth year, you are 25-26 depending on your birthdate. Given your age and background, we really need to work on making sure you as a grown woman, are not one delayed (not even missing altogether, but just delayed) paycheck away from homelessness.

Perhaps establishing safety nets would give your DH some confidence in your ability to be responsible, that way he'd feel comfortable opening a joint account (assuming you don't have one already) that you could draw from in times of need such as this. You two are partners, not father and child, and your behavior has given him a level of power over your survival that is risky for a young woman with no capability for self-reliance. He owes you the utmost as a provider, and I don't think he's faultless. However, based on the way this thread is playing out, I'm just not seeing this situation as polarized in terms of good guy vs. bad guy as I originally thought.
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I totally don't buy your story enough to say he is at fault. It sounds like you are doing what you want and treating him as an ATM rather than a mate and then getting irritated when the ATM has stopped coughing up money. If he told you not to do something and you went ahead and did it anyway you have to bear full brunt of that responsibility. He is your husband not your SUGAR DADDY - there is a big difference.

Your DH is in a position where he CAN'T be working efficiently in harms way wondering when (not if) he'll have to bail your *** out due to your own behaviour. Please consider your effect on his future safety when you make your decisions.

You have now chosen to be in a shelter due to your own selfishness and narcisism while making everyone feel that he is a douche for having you there while you have options but you are just not getting your own way. IMO you are engaging in emotional blackmail in an attempt to get him to relent and give you your way. Personally, KUDOS for him putting his foot down - some times tough love is needed. Maybe you'll learn from this and after sufficient couples counseling be able to have a good relationship.
 
Well she did say she was an ex-sugar baby. :lol: She also mentions it in this post.


Maybe she's dabbling in it again. But then again, she would be making mire than $1600 a month right?
 
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Sasha299[/USER];14340833]I totally don't buy your story enough to say he is at fault. It sounds like you are doing what you want and treating him as an ATM rather than a mate and then getting irritated when the ATM has stopped coughing up money. If he told you not to do something and you went ahead and did it anyway you have to bear full brunt of that responsibility. He is your husband not your SUGAR DADDY - there is a big difference.

Your DH is in a position where he CAN'T be working efficiently in harms way wondering when (not if) he'll have to bail your *** out due to your own behaviour. Please consider your effect on his future safety when you make your decisions.

You have now chosen to be in a shelter due to your own selfishness and narcisism while making everyone feel that he is a douche for having you there while you have options but you are just not getting your own way. IMO you are engaging in emotional blackmail in an attempt to get him to relent and give you your way. Personally, KUDOS for him putting his foot down - some times tough love is needed. Maybe you'll learn from this and after sufficient couples counseling be able to have a good relationship.
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Thanks for stating this. This is what I wanted to express a few days ok but I couldn't manage to do it in an eloquent manner. You expressed much of what I wanted to say.
 
Sasha299 said:
I totally don't buy your story enough to say he is at fault. It sounds like you are doing what you want and treating him as an ATM rather than a mate and then getting irritated when the ATM has stopped coughing up money. If he told you not to do something and you went ahead and did it anyway you have to bear full brunt of that responsibility. He is your husband not your SUGAR DADDY - there is a big difference.

Your DH is in a position where he CAN'T be working efficiently in harms way wondering when (not if) he'll have to bail your *** out due to your own behaviour. Please consider your effect on his future safety when you make your decisions.

You have now chosen to be in a shelter due to your own selfishness and narcisism while making everyone feel that he is a douche for having you there while you have options but you are just not getting your own way. IMO you are engaging in emotional blackmail in an attempt to get him to relent and give you your way. Personally, KUDOS for him putting his foot down - some times tough love is needed. Maybe you'll learn from this and after sufficient couples counseling be able to have a good relationship.
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Hey, did you mean to quote me? :grin:
 
pookaloo83 said:
Well she did say she was an ex-sugar baby. :lol: She also mentions it in this post.


Maybe she's dabbling in it again. But then again, she would be making mire than $1600 a month right?
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I can't with Pook finding out OP used to be a sugar baby! Lol

OP, are you a troll? This can't be life. I am flabbergasted!

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I feel like all of ya'll are tardy for the party. Soon as I read "talent for extracting money from men" and "ex sugar-baby" I was like, oh.....ok, one of them.

Unfortunately I have relative like the OP (sugar baby), she isn't married but in one calendar year she managed to "extract" something in the neighborhood of 20k from various men. I know for a fact that with a few of them, they had never even met.

Part of the whole "sugar baby" talent is knowing how to play on the emotions and inspire the desire to so called protect & provide in men. I've seen this relative pull the shelter card as well. it's amazing how gullible some men are. I wouldn't believe some of her stories had I not witnessed first hand.
 
Random: Whatever happen to the poster from a few years ago who was (coincidentally) also married to someone in a military but wasn't shy about the fact that she was a web cam girl. IIRC, lots of people were hitting her up for advice on how to get started
 
We will never know what the OP does. If she hasn't spilled the beans by now, she never will. SMH If it is LEGAL it shouldn't matter. I guess that is why her pay checks are always "FUNNY".
 
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