You've Never Been To His Place - What Does That Signal?
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Phoenix11
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That still isnt any better.Why did she purchase a home with someone she wasnt married to?
Even if your senario is whats going on with OP's friend, I would still question his judgement. Buying a home with someone you're not married to isnt very wise. That said, she still should drop him. Too much baggage.
Off Topic: What happened with you and your evasive Professor?
They were engaged to be married. Bought the house prior to the wedding and things fell thur.
Growinpainz
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Even if he did not invite her over due to a filthy place, she should not want to be with someone so lazy and nasty anyway.
Tarae
New Member
Right. It doesn't take 3 years to clean a house
Forget the fact that she hasn't even been to his place. She's "engaged" to someone who gave her a fake address. The better question is what's going on with her, not him?
Right. It doesn't take 3 years to clean a house
Forget the fact that she hasn't even been to his place. She's "engaged" to someone who gave her a fake address. The better question is what's going on with her, not him?
Her mom passed a few months ago and this is her first Christmas without her. And she lives in a part of the country away from the rest of the family. I think some of what's happening on her part may be loneliness and being vulnerable. For some people having something familiar is better than not having a man or going through the hoops of trying to break in another one. Another relative mentioned the situation and said that when we all got together next month we would have a gentle talk with her about it.
ellennicole
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His place could be super messy.That's what happened to me when I was first going out with my bf. He would not let me see his place for a couple of months. Then finally he let me see it and boy I wished I hadn't. I never went back. His place was so dirty and messy.
That hapepned to someone I know. She was dating a guy for 2 years and he'd never let her in his house. He finally confessed that he was really messy and was embarassed.... he finally invited her over (and she saw for herself). Now, he's always inviting her over.....
I hadn't read the fake address part of this story.. that sounds really suspect. At least my friend's boyfriend gave her his address. She brought some soup by when he was sick and he at least came to the door.. he just wouldn't let her in. . .
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Princess4real
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Right. It doesn't take 3 years to clean a house
Forget the fact that she hasn't even been to his place. She's "engaged" to someone who gave her a fake address. The better question is what's going on with her, not him?
I know somebody and it took their man 14 years before he invited her over to his place.
There will always be somebody that knows somebody that comes in with a reason for why a woman should believe a man's bullish. 
ETA: This crap is unacceptable and who would even want a man like this??? Why are we sooo desperate? Forgot to mention, they got married and lived happily ever after.
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gabulldawg
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I'm wondering the same thing, Princess. 
These types of threads are really making me ---> 
These types of threads are really making me ---> 
caribeandiva
Human being
These women sound insecure to put up with that much bs.
prettypuff1
New Member
Right. It doesn't take 3 years to clean a house
Forget the fact that she hasn't even been to his place. She's "engaged" to someone who gave her a fake address. The better question is what's going on with her, not him?
I missed that little nugget of information....
OP please tell your friend he is married beyond belief
naturalmanenyc
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A guy that I met this weekend has a live-in GF (9 years) and he cheats. He told me & my sister that the women never come to his home and that they don't even ask to come over. I guess they know but don't want to confront the reality of the situation - he's married or living with a woman.
ScorpionQueen
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Haven't been to his place after being together for 3 years?
Signals BAD news to me..
He has something to hide..he would be out like last night's trash for me..something ain't quite right there.
Signals BAD news to me..
He has something to hide..he would be out like last night's trash for me..something ain't quite right there.
DKO
Active Member
Plain and simple, he's not into her and he's got some chicks on the side or he is married.
TayMac
Well-Known Member
I feel sorry for her because she doesn't value herself enough to realize that she deserves more and can indeed have better. It's one thing if they just "messin' around" but to marry someone like this...oh no! She have given him the freedom to lead a double life...is she sure that his name is his "real name"?
As the saying goes..fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. She left and went back so it's on HER.
As the saying goes..fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. She left and went back so it's on HER.
Right. It doesn't take 3 years to clean a house
Forget the fact that she hasn't even been to his place. She's "engaged" to someone who gave her a fake address. The better question is what's going on with her, not him?
Right! He lied and gave her a fake address. That right there would be the deal breaker for me.
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