Why are you REALLY with your SO ?

[Everything Zen]

The REAL reason is:

1. He makes me laugh.
2. He has the best bear hugs.
3. He isn't afraid to be affectionate in public or even in front of his friends.
4. He's patient with me and understanding of my "issues".
5. He's got the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen.
6. He's intelligent and not a follower - but a leader and that's important as the head of a household.
7. He has a kind heart and would help a complete stranger even if it inconvenienced him personally.
8. He doesn't keep records of wrongs.
9. He involves me in all facets of his life and makes me feel like I am the most important thing to him (even if I might actually be 3rd on the list).
10. He isn't to proud to apologize if he makes a mistake.
11. He's always super eager to rub my feet, my neck, run me baths, cook for me (even though he cannot cook and I prefer to be in the kitchen).
12. He listens and I mean REALLY listens to me when I need to talk.
13. He holds me when I'm sleeping and rubs my hair and just stares at me in the morning (and I pretend I'm still asleep because it feels good).
14. We have everything in common. He can finish my sentences and we almost always want to do the same things.
15. I love him.
16. His body is hawt.

ETA: So many great things about this man so when people assume I'm with him for the reasons I sarcastically stated above or when they think I'm bragging because he's white - I just scoff and think to myself - if I had these qualities in any man - even a green man with fuschia polka dots, I'd take him and not look back.

Also, when I went to his house this past weekend, he had put a huge portrait of us over the fire place in addition to little pictures of us as a couple throughout his house. He said he was preparing for me to move in (after the wedding) and he wanted to make it "our" home. That made me feel super special and although I acted like - cool, thanks - I was really like awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!

OKAY!!! I get that one a lot too...

 

[infojunkie]

Two things:

First) I'll answer the question. I voted for love. It has to be love because this rough patch has turned into a rough quilt! Even when I don't want to care my heart hurts when he's not feeling good or he's having a blue day. This man is not only the father of my children (and I mean a REAL father) but he loves him some me. Even when I'm not lovable, he'll try to get all riled up and put his foot down and then 10 minutes later it's "baby" this and "baby" that. I'm spoiled rotten. I don't clean. In fact anything around the house that I don't want to do, I don't have to. He washes the boys' clothes and sometimes mine if I don't stop him (just makes me look extra bad). When I need space I get it but when I need him to put it down he can do that too (I think he was a porn star in a former life ). I prayed to God for a husband and he sent me MY husband. So yeah, in it's simplest form, in spite of the ups and downs, I love my man.

Now, if only he'd hit the Lotto tomorrow, I could happily live the rest of my life without so much as a backwards glance at another man.

Second) These sentiments are beautiful ladies, but when was the last time you told your man what you're telling us?

 

[Everything Zen]

Two things:

First) I'll answer the question. I voted for love. It has to be love because this rough patch has turned into a rough quilt! Even when I don't want to care my heart hurts when he's not feeling good or he's having a blue day. This man is not only the father of my children (and I mean a REAL father) but he loves him some me. Even when I'm not lovable, he'll try to get all riled up and put his foot down and then 10 minutes later it's "baby" this and "baby" that. I'm spoiled rotten. I don't clean. In fact anything around the house that I don't want to do, I don't have to. He washes the boys' clothes and sometimes mine if I don't stop him (just makes me look extra bad). When I need space I get it but when I need him to put it down he can do that too (I think he was a porn star in a former life ). I prayed to God for a husband and he sent me MY husband. So yeah, in it's simplest form, in spite of the ups and downs, I love my man.

Now, if only he'd hit the Lotto tomorrow, I could happily live the rest of my life without so much as a backwards glance at another man.

Second) These sentiments are beautiful ladies, but when was the last time you told your man what you're telling us?

Sending him one text message at a time all of these sentiments and more right now...

 

[SouthernTease]

I love him... he is my soulmate.
We belong together.
Plus he ADORES me...
and let's me have my way... well...
most of the time

 

[infojunkie]

Sending him one text message at a time all of these sentiments and more right now...

Whoa girlfriend! Unless you ready to throw down tonight you betta leave that man alone!!:wink2::wink2:

 

[Everything Zen]

Whoa girlfriend! Unless you ready to throw down tonight you betta leave that man alone!!:wink2::wink2:

TOO LATE!

 

[infojunkie]

TOO LATE!

 

[lana]

I'm with him for love. Because when my heart hurts so does his. Because everyday his actions tell me he loves me. Because he's all man with big hands and broad shoulders and muscles that look like mountains but when he holds me close it's with the gentlest touch. Because he knows that I change each day, growing into who I will become and he accepts that and still knows me. Because he is my best friend, even over my girls and he says he wants to stick with me forever and he means it. Because he fears God and believes God is watching over our love. Because he sings to me even though he can't sing just to make me laugh. Because he has eyes only for me and appreciates the things I do for him. Because his imperfect love - loves me - perfectly.

 

[lexi08]

I'm with him for love. Because when my heart hurts so does his. Because everyday his actions tell me he loves me. Because he's all man with big hands and broad shoulders and muscles that look like mountains but when he holds me close it's with the gentlest touch. Because he knows that I change each day, growing into who I will become and he accepts that and still knows me. Because he is my best friend, even over my girls and he says he wants to stick with me forever and he means it. Because he fears God and believes God is watching over our love. Because he sings to me even though he can't sing just to make me laugh. Because he has eyes only for me and appreciates the things I do for him. Because his imperfect love - loves me - perfectly.

How sweet. He sounds like a keeper.

 

[xxCami]

lmfao.
im scared to ans.. this one being that so many people feel that I have care in the world about past posts.. in the ot forum lol ..

 

[MizAvalon]

This was a beautiful thread.

 

[freshlikemoi]

Girl, it is LOVE foremost, but it is also stability, the fact that he is an educated black man getting his MBA, and I am getting my masters (Education is key). Also, I think he and I would have some good looking babies. But like I said Love is foremost, we've been through alot so his education, and good looks didn't and won't pay the bills.

 

[myronnie]

1. I am physically attracted to him and his sexy body
2. He is the sweetest guy out there i have met! Such a sweetie!
3. He makes me laugh!
4. He is a real gentleman.
5. We get each other!

 

[chocolatemom_of_3]

1. Stability
2. Commitment
3. Best of the options I had
4. Good father
5. Good earning potential
6. good sex

I wouldn't even put love on the list. i love him, but is is far from the reason I am still married to him. I make decisions based on logic, not some undefinable emotion. I know I am the exception not the rule, and I'm cool with that.

 

[upandcoming]

1. Fun
2. Passionate about life
3. Very social, good with people
4. Really a southern gentleman
5. Good student, good future outlook

 

[fivetimestwo]

My reasons (in order of importance)

1. My kids
2. Love (not in love)

 

[SparkleDoll]

He adores me
He's attentive
A true gentleman
Highly educated
Very successful

 

[nucienuce1]

He makes me want to be a better me.
He stays prayful.
He loves my kids.
He is so intelligent.
He makes my eyes cross during.....lol

 

[Lovestyr]

I will have to admit ladies financial security influences my decison to get involved with anyone. Call me whatever u please however I am quite aware of what it requires for prosperity. If that do not have that quality of a stable income or career. There will be no relationship

 

[cupcakes]

Hes my dream guy. hes sweet, understanding, affectionate, caring. hes intellectual, finanacially stable, whine and dines me, treats me like a queen and worships the ground i walk on. hes faithful, he cooks, he cleans, he writes me poetry and hes a 10 in bed. AndHes gorgeous tall dark muscular. Hes always there for me. Hes christian, we share the same goals, he finishes my sentences, and he reads my mind. It was like love at first site we are soul mates.

 

[Blkrose]

The REAL reason is:

1. He makes me laugh.
2. He has the best bear hugs.
3. He isn't afraid to be affectionate in public or even in front of his friends.
4. He's patient with me and understanding of my "issues".
5. He's got the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen.
6. He's intelligent and not a follower - but a leader and that's important as the head of a household.
7. He has a kind heart and would help a complete stranger even if it inconvenienced him personally.
8. He doesn't keep records of wrongs.
9. He involves me in all facets of his life and makes me feel like I am the most important thing to him (even if I might actually be 3rd on the list).
10. He isn't to proud to apologize if he makes a mistake.
11. He's always super eager to rub my feet, my neck, run me baths, cook for me (even though he cannot cook and I prefer to be in the kitchen).
12. He listens and I mean REALLY listens to me when I need to talk.
13. He holds me when I'm sleeping and rubs my hair and just stares at me in the morning (and I pretend I'm still asleep because it feels good).
14. We have everything in common. He can finish my sentences and we almost always want to do the same things.
15. I love him.
16. His body is hawt.

ETA: So many great things about this man so when people assume I'm with him for the reasons I sarcastically stated above or when they think I'm bragging because he's white - I just scoff and think to myself - if I had these qualities in any man - even a green man with fuschia polka dots, I'd take him and not look back.

Also, when I went to his house this past weekend, he had put a huge portrait of us over the fire place in addition to little pictures of us as a couple throughout his house. He said he was preparing for me to move in (after the wedding) and he wanted to make it "our" home. That made me feel super special and although I acted like - cool, thanks - I was really like awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!

Number 13 got be teary eyed

 

[french toast]

1. He loves me unconditionally.

2. He's my best friend.

3. He truly just adores me and will do anything to please me.

4. He's the sexiest man I've ever laid my eyes on!!!!

5. Extremely intelligent!!!!! We have the most amazing conversations about anything and everything. I admit, at first I just assumed he'd be a bit pretentious graduating from very prestigious schools (both undergrad and law school) and me being in school for fashion. Him being corporate and me being the complete opposite actually compliment each other very well.

6. His willingness to listen and admit if he's wrong.

7. Making serious changes with his career for the better of our relationship. He travels overseas a lot for business and has decided to look into firms in the states that will reduce his travel time significantly. (Mind you, I've been willing to compromise and sacrifice for the sake of our relationship if he chooses to stay where he is, but he wants us to be closer)

8. Last but certainly not least. We have the most insane sexual connection I have ever encountered. He's so passionate and attentive. We can't keep our hands to ourselves anytime we are near each other. Not to mention we have both gotten into tantric sex.


I could go on and on.....

 

[Supervixen]

Can we get a multiple response poll, and an "AMBITION MAKES ME SO HORNY" option?

Well, I love him:

1. He's a kind man.
2. He is HELLA AMBITIOUS and DRIVEN.
3. We grew up similarly...somewhat spoiled and sheltered, but with very loving and involved parents and grandparents who stressed education.
4. I know this piece is cliche, but he also inspires me to be better.
5. Our families...
Before I knew him, I knew about him from our families being connected. We can trace our families knowing each other back to my grandmother going to high school with his great-aunt, and college with his great-uncle. My mother knew his father, as they worked together. We have mutual family friends.
6. We are good reflections of each other.

I won't get into the superficialities of why I'm with him though.

 

[Transformer]

Waiting to divorce in a state that doesn't require a full year of non-cohabitation. I want it to be a surprise!

 

[ChasingBliss]

1. He loves me unconditionally.

2. He's my best friend.

3. He truly just adores me and will do anything to please me.

4. He's the sexiest man I've ever laid my eyes on!!!!

5. Extremely intelligent!!!!! We have the most amazing conversations about anything and everything. I admit, at first I just assumed he'd be a bit pretentious graduating from very prestigious schools (both undergrad and law school) and me being in school for fashion. Him being corporate and me being the complete opposite actually compliment each other very well.

6. His willingness to listen and admit if he's wrong.

7. Making serious changes with his career for the better of our relationship. He travels overseas a lot for business and has decided to look into firms in the states that will reduce his travel time significantly. (Mind you, I've been willing to compromise and sacrifice for the sake of our relationship if he chooses to stay where he is, but he wants us to be closer)

8. Last but certainly not least. We have the most insane sexual connection I have ever encountered. He's so passionate and attentive. We can't keep our hands to ourselves anytime we are near each other. Not to mention we have both gotten into tantric sex.


I could go on and on.....

Whew! Love this.

 

[Denise11]

Y'all are giving me a toothache. All of this sweetness. Lol

 

[krikit96]

Because I got pregnant.

I was breaking up with him that night, we argued... I kicked him out... he showed up 20 minutes later with a test...

So I stayed because I got pregnant and decided he wasn't that bad, just was raised fatherless in a house full of women and was the baby. He's a good guy, just SPOILED! and NERVE WRECKIN!!!!

But then I got preggers again 2 years later and we got married. 3 kids later, here we are... been married for almost for years come november and we have a 5, 3 & 1 y/o.

 

[latebloomer]

Because i love him...but i'm sayiong this right now with a sadness in my heart. We're going through a rough patch now and i dont know if it will sort itself out.

But on a good day,
1. he listens to me moan about my bad days after asking me how my day was.
2. he rubs my feet and massages myt back.
3. buys me painkillers every month when i'm on my period.
4. loves my cooking and cooks occasionally for(i love cooking anyway)
5. is great in bed
6. Loves my family as much as i love his
7. Is very ambitious and always supports me in my goals and dreams
8.Always finds a way to make me feel beautiful
9. Even takes my weave out and just laughs at my hair, when i'm looking all busted....lol
10. we have ur own language and create words that no one else understands
11. Will do stupid things like have water fights in the house and play around like dumb kids.
12. overall i love him and he is a good person.

I wonder if things will work themselves out, I've been with him going on 6 years in Feb......no children or married yet, but i dont think we're ready yet we're are still quite young, i'm not in any rush.

 

[IWantBSl09]

The REAL reason is:

1. He makes me laugh.
2. He has the best bear hugs.
3. He isn't afraid to be affectionate in public or even in front of his friends.
4. He's patient with me and understanding of my "issues".
5. He's got the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen.
6. He's intelligent and not a follower - but a leader and that's important as the head of a household.
7. He has a kind heart and would help a complete stranger even if it inconvenienced him personally.
8. He doesn't keep records of wrongs.
9. He involves me in all facets of his life and makes me feel like I am the most important thing to him (even if I might actually be 3rd on the list).
10. He isn't to proud to apologize if he makes a mistake.
11. He's always super eager to rub my feet, my neck, run me baths, cook for me (even though he cannot cook and I prefer to be in the kitchen).
12. He listens and I mean REALLY listens to me when I need to talk.
13. He holds me when I'm sleeping and rubs my hair and just stares at me in the morning (and I pretend I'm still asleep because it feels good).
14. We have everything in common. He can finish my sentences and we almost always want to do the same things.
15. I love him.
16. His body is hawt.

ETA: So many great things about this man so when people assume I'm with him for the reasons I sarcastically stated above or when they think I'm bragging because he's white - I just scoff and think to myself - if I had these qualities in any man - even a green man with fuschia polka dots, I'd take him and not look back.

Also, when I went to his house this past weekend, he had put a huge portrait of us over the fire place in addition to little pictures of us as a couple throughout his house. He said he was preparing for me to move in (after the wedding) and he wanted to make it "our" home. That made me feel super special and although I acted like - cool, thanks - I was really like awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!

Does he have a twin? LOL

 

[LisaLisa1908]

There are many reasons, so I picked other.

Love is wrapped up in it, but it wasn't the only reason. I've loved other men and they had flaws that I wasn't willing to deal with, so I had to let them go. There's so much more to him than just love.