SelahOco
I have
no problem with him paying for things,
I just don't get the argument that because there
might be kids in the future
if you get married that should happen. Kids or no kids doesn't define weather I'm (or anyone) Is "traditional" or not. More than likely he will out earn me, he will be older, and I have a health/physical disadvantage to the point where we wont be the typical "professional couple" given I can't even work full-time at this point...
I'm not saying that because a couple might have children, the man should pay for all dates.
My comments are in response to the idea that women's fight for equality negates the value of a man paying for dates, opening doors, etc.
A man paying for a date during courtship provides an intangible value that helps a woman decide whether or not she can trust a man to provide for her, care for her, put her first etc. Sure, we don't articulate it that way, but it makes you feel special that he wants to spend time with you and is willing to foot the bill to make sure that you have a good time.
When a man reduces courtship to an argument about a woman's "equal rights" the argument is faulty. Equal rights was about a lot of things, but equal rights does not effect the male/female relationship dynamic completely (or at all in my opinion).
The same man that makes you buy your own movie ticket, will marry you and split the bills with you. But does he cook? Does he make your plate and bring it to you? Does he do laundry? Does he clean the refrigerator? Does he mop? Do yall take turns doing this? Is it equal?
If the answer to all of that is yes, then let me know what happens when you have children.
Does he carry a child? Take maternity leave a from a job he loves? Breastfeed? Serve as primary caregiver? Have to ask for your "help" with the child? Return to work after 6 weeks and still do all of the above and pay his "half" of the rent? Do yall take turns doing this? Is it equal?
The equal rights argument does not hold up past paying the bill, imo. And I disagree that having children has no impact on how "traditional" a couple is. Children have a way of forcing certain traditional gender roles whether the couple likes it or not.
I'm just saying, for young women who feel like a man has a right to ask her to pay half because of women's rights....be careful buying into that reasoning, because it does not hold up.
The REASONING is faulty, IMO.
Men give women certain intangibles, but women do the same for men. There is a give and take there that warrants a man properly courting a woman (of that's an intangible that she values).
if you don't want to spend money then you shouldn't be dating. If it was something small like buying the popcorn if we go to the movies I wouldn't mind, but how are you doing to ask me out and then expect me to pay
What a wonderful feeling to feel like such a girl. 
erplexed Boy bye I paid the $40 and left. I distaned myself and he couldn't take a hint so I was finally going to explain it to him and before I could get it out he say's he's gone and to hit him up when I'm talking about something.
