He texted me as I was about to fall asleep saying "Are you okay?" I was thinking...does he think I'm here sad and crying?
I responded, Yes, why wouldn't I be? Are you? And he said "I don't know...yeah"
He went on to say he felt like I was trying to control the situation by getting him to talk, making suggestions. I said trying to have a conversation is not trying to be in control...were we supposed to sit there in silence? And me suggesting that he take off his hat and coat was just me trying to be a good host, make him feel comfortable. Seeing where this was going, I said "I apologize if I made you feel uncomfortable"--I'm a nice person, and obviously those weren't my intentions.
That evening, when I asked him the question and he responded by telling me to look it up, I went on to say "I don't want to look it up on the website. I want to hear it from you. That's what people do, they converse" etc. He said he felt like I was having a control freak hissy fit. Sigh. Ok.
Seeing that this was going nowhere, we said goodnight. Maybe 10 min later I get another text: "How did you expect that night to end?"
I responded by saying after his previous sexual comments, idk if I would have taken it that far
, but I was ok with kissing (we've given pecks before), touching. After all, we're adults. It's okay.
I asked him the same question. He responded:
"When you opened the door, you look so pretty that I wanted to kiss you right then and there and then make you cum so I could hear you moan."
He then said:
"Hit me up when you're ready for that"
Yall I wrote a paragraph. If that's the case, why were you on the couch frozen?? Why were you talking about boundaries and freaking out when I touched you?
Long story short: He said he was trying to process everything but it was too much.
Our conversation is still going on. I don't have my phone with me right now, but I'm trying to get him to understand that I'm not judging him. It seriously sounds like he's an aspie, or has some type of anxiety issues.
Yall I kinda feel bad for him. I still say I'm not up for a project, but I don't want to hurt him either.