Bachelorette
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I just hope he eats well.
..lots of fruits
cos that's a breaker for me.
..lots of fruits
cos that's a breaker for me.
So he tells me it's not 'good'
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Silkycoils
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*** it, I'm not embarrassed to talk about it. I enjoy it (although I am currently celibate and have been for a long time) and I'm pretty sure I'm "the ish" at it. The #1 reason is b/c I enjoy it. Why do I enjoy it? Because it makes me feel good to give pleasure. I also think I have some type of oral fixation (I used to suck my two fingers for years).
Anywho, I've taken a few pole dancing classes (slightly off topic, but stay with me) and one of the things they say is that you have to "love the pole". That's it in a nutshell. When you're "loving the pole" you can't help but get into it. You're not worried about "stuff getting into your mouth", etc.
I think that some women have hangups about "giving brains" b/c they fear the end result.
#1 If it's really nasty to you, have your man/husband eat more fruits (pineapples, bananas and peaches are great) and "it" will not taste nasty. (If I'm lyin', ya'll can e-smack me)
#2 Before you start you can politely ask him to tell you when he's about to *ahem* and then use your hands to coax the rest *ahem*
Also, most men want a "Lady in the streets, ____ in the sheets" so do that ish! If you want me to elaborate, PM me, but Ima just tell you that stuff you might find "nasty", they LOVE. Tis all.
Anywho, I've taken a few pole dancing classes (slightly off topic, but stay with me) and one of the things they say is that you have to "love the pole". That's it in a nutshell. When you're "loving the pole" you can't help but get into it. You're not worried about "stuff getting into your mouth", etc.
I think that some women have hangups about "giving brains" b/c they fear the end result.
#1 If it's really nasty to you, have your man/husband eat more fruits (pineapples, bananas and peaches are great) and "it" will not taste nasty. (If I'm lyin', ya'll can e-smack me)
#2 Before you start you can politely ask him to tell you when he's about to *ahem* and then use your hands to coax the rest *ahem*
Also, most men want a "Lady in the streets, ____ in the sheets" so do that ish! If you want me to elaborate, PM me, but Ima just tell you that stuff you might find "nasty", they LOVE. Tis all.
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Ediese
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I hear you loud and clear but honestly speaking... is anyone deriving pleasure out of the act itself? Its not like coloring where you are both getting something out of it. Its done for your SO's enjoyment. Best case scenario is you make him happy and it improves the entire production.
Someone let me know if I'm wrong here. Maybe my crayon licking apparatus is defective...
Yes. It is very pleasurable for me when I do it. When I was younger, let's say 4 years ago, I absolutely detested the act. I couldnt' stop gagging. However, as I've gotten older and matured lol, I love to do it. Deep throat is nothing.
I started getting into it when Super Head came on the scene. I watched so many videos just trying to get my technique down, and it definitely improved my skills. You kinda have to figure out what the guy likes too. Some guys like all the extra spitting on the crayon, loud sucking noises, deep throat, two hand action etc. Don't want to be too graphic, but I can actually control how long I have to be down there.
I must say I've gotten tons of positive feedback verbally and um..physically. I think the pleasure for me is actually seeing their response to it, and getting turned on even more. 
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tiara76
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assuming that copying what somebody else is doing will not make it great for men....most porn stars are acting men as well as the women.....you can tell when they are into each other and some actually are, but its evident the interaction between them is not so much "acting" as truly enjoying each other
its the feeling and energy behind the act that men respond to
not the act itself
if he's feeling you and he's feeling like you are feeling him then he will love it
I would take a guess and say its not that your skills are "wack" or not good enough, its that he can feel you are not into it and it doesn't get him excited, because its the genuine feeling that men thrive off of
Curlybeauty
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Yes. It is very pleasurable for me when I do it. When I was younger, let's say 4 years ago, I absolutely detested the act. I couldnt' stop gagging. However, as I've gotten older and matured lol, I love to do it. Deep throat is nothing.
I started getting into it when Super Head came on the scene. I watched so many videos just trying to get my technique down, and it definitely improved my skills. You kinda have to figure out what the guy likes too. Some guys like all the extra spitting on the crayon, loud sucking noises, deep throat, two hand action etc. Don't want to be too graphic, but I can actually control how long I have to be down there.
you hit this one right on the head (lmao no pun intended) this is me all the way..i love to know that i'm making him sit on cloud 9 and that gets me where i need to be if you get my drift...but i guess this all makes sense that we see eye to eye cause we both love to do it...and i def agree on the fruit thing..
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These are my sister's sentiments as well. She enjoys it as 'becky' being her favorite part of sex.
I enjoy doing it for my SO but to be honest with you, I never knew until this relationship that it was a right/wrong way to do it.
In my experience the guy was just thrilled that I went down there and that was turn on enough. Off to get my weight up tho'...
Bunny77
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Hmmm... I don't really think there's a wrong way to do it either...
But I think that different men like different things, and you two just have to figure out what works best, so that it can go from being aight to GREAT!
Which means communication and practice!
tiara76
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.02 more cents
there really isn't a right or wrong way to do it....thats why communication is so important...everybody doesn't like it the same way, u may have a technique that drove the last man crazy and turns the next man off....learn each other and know what he likes and be open to try different ways if thats what you want to do
Jade Feria
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That is the truth. It is. the. truth.*** it, I'm not embarrassed to talk about it. I enjoy it (although I am currently celibate and have been for a long time) and I'm pretty sure I'm "the ish" at it. The #1 reason is b/c I enjoy it. Why do I enjoy it? Because it makes me feel good to give pleasure. I also think I have some type of oral fixation (I used to suck my two fingers for years).
Anywho, I've taken a few pole dancing classes (slightly off topic, but stay with me) and one of the things they say is that you have to "love the pole". That's it in a nutshell. When you're "loving the pole" you can't help but get into it. You're not worried about "stuff getting into your mouth", etc.
I think that some women have hangups about "giving brains" b/c they fear the end result.
#1 If it's really nasty to you, have your man/husband eat more fruits (pineapples, bananas and peaches are great) and "it" will not taste nasty. (If I'm lyin', ya'll can e-smack me)
#2 Before you start you can politely ask him to tell you when he's about to *ahem* and then use your hands to coax the rest *ahem*
Also, most men want a "Lady in the streets, ____ in the sheets" so do that ish! If you want me to elaborate, PM me, but Ima just tell you that stuff you might find "nasty", they LOVE. Tis all.
I genuinely enjoy doing it for my man. In turn he tells me (numerous times) that I'm the best that ever did it. I think that's really the key. He told you himself that you act like it's a chore, so it seems like the enthusiasm is what's lacking. The technique usually doesn't matter as much as the enthusiasm does, as long as you're not doing something crazy like biting. When you're about to start lick it like a lollipop. One thing I might do that gets my guy is when I start at the jewels (always remember to mind the stepchildren!!) and make my way all the way up with one continuous lick, then take it all in with a 'mmmm', as if it were my first meal after a month-long famine. Um...PM me for more tips, but
the key is really the excitement of actually doing the act. Comment on how good he tastes to you (after he has eaten his fruits of course). Switch it up too, as some of the other ladies have suggested.
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IrrationalThoughts
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BroadstreetBully
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So uh...I heard this 'tip' that has to do with the guy drinking a Cherry Icee from Burger King before 'Becky'. Apparently it makes things taste different.
Summer_Rain
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Maybe it's called "Becky" because the Beckys of the world are known for being good at it?
Summer_Rain
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I wholeheartedly 1000% DISAGREE with the statements that there isn't a right or wrong way to do it. There is absolutely the wrong way to go about getting your Becky on.
tiara76
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what is the wrong way?
SelahOco
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I agree! The only wrong way is one that doesn't please him or makes you uncomfortable to the core.
If he wants you to bite it and you can get into that...knaw away at it.
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Summer_Rain
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I'm surprised so many ppl are saying that there is no 'wrong' way
IMO there are some universal no-no's to being a good Becky. Excess use of teeth, a case of cotton/dry mouth, being to rough with your hands....I can think of many others but it would require me to get very graphic and this thread would get locked
tiara76
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lol some dudes like it rough and like teeth.....
if ur mouth is dry doesn't mean u are doing it wrong..just means ur mouth is dry and some lubrication is needed
Summer_Rain
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giving head with a dry mouth is a no-no. I'm not commenting on why the mouth is dry, but just the fact that it makes for a wrong bj.
PeopleTalkDaily
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this was very informative>>
off to check out blogs
off to check out blogs
GreenD
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I got something for you read, Tickle His Pickle by Dr. Sadie Allison, http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_1...pickle+by+sadie+allison&sprefix=tickle+his+pi. Just so you know it has illustrations too.You should be good to go in all things concerning that realm. I got the book at a toy party and read through it and even tagged some pages to either try and/or keep in mind. Some things you'll obviously have to filter out, because you will sound like a Becky and not a you!! LOL!! Just try to relax and get excited by seeing him enjoy it.
I'll admit I'm not a fan of being/doing a "Becky", but I've been told I'm pretty good at it. I certainly wasn't always this way (because I thought it was nasty, and I'm a good Christian girl, etc.), but when I was told once that it was the bomb.... well I got a little bit more confident with it. LOL!! So I do what I do!! Again, I'm no Corrinne Stephens, but I keep the hubby happy. Singing to the tune of Drake, "I'm the best he ever had!!!". LOL!! PM me for details.
You'll be fine, but good Becky starts with a open mind, so try to change your perception of it first and don't focus on the fact that you have a crayon in your mouth!!
I'll admit I'm not a fan of being/doing a "Becky", but I've been told I'm pretty good at it. I certainly wasn't always this way (because I thought it was nasty, and I'm a good Christian girl, etc.), but when I was told once that it was the bomb.... well I got a little bit more confident with it. LOL!! So I do what I do!! Again, I'm no Corrinne Stephens, but I keep the hubby happy. Singing to the tune of Drake, "I'm the best he ever had!!!". LOL!! PM me for details.
You'll be fine, but good Becky starts with a open mind, so try to change your perception of it first and don't focus on the fact that you have a crayon in your mouth!!
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I get what he's saying here, but can't really expound without TMI.
Yeah me too
Men want you to be sitting around and whip it out and go to work. They want LOTS of sounds, LOTS of talking with it, like you LOVE it.I would appreciate the feedback. I also hear sex tips, suggestions are best given outside of the bedrooom. I doubt he tried to make you feel insecure but you asked so he told you.....This is why men dont like to often share with women because when they do, it's almost too honest for us. Don't make him feel like he can't talk to you about things-even if it was just sex, he was willing to share that little bit.
I don't think any of us had a problem with him telling her about it (heck, I'd do it with a man too), but in the initial post, when she asked for tips, he said he didn't want to give her any because it took away from the spontaneity. I think the problem was that he said something and then left it at that when she asked what she could do.
But, she's come back and clarified how the conversation started and all that, so that provides a different perspective.
I will say that I have had men tell me the things that they like (not just with that, but in general) so that I could act accordingly. And it wasn't done in a "You're not doing this well, so try this instead," fashion.
Maybe it's just me (or maybe it's because I'm not dealing with brothas most times -- just saying since you mentioned brothas specifically
I don't know it seems to me that most men don't want to have to TELL YOU they want you to get freaky when approaching fellatio, but that's what they want. I have had frank convos with men and they all seem to want you to "want it". That's why alot of men want certain things but won't ask for it--ok yea some men will ask for it too though
sunshinebeautiful
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Hmmm... I don't really think there's a wrong way to do it either...
But I think that different men like different things, and you two just have to figure out what works best, so that it can go from being aight to GREAT!
Which means communication and practice!
Different men do indeed like different things.
I once dated a man that I felt inspired to give him the best 'becky'... and it showed.
We broke up. Tried a similar technique with a new guy I was dating and he was like, "No, do it like this." It's really not a problem. Just different guys with different likes.
Just keep on with the communication and practice and you will find out how HE likes it.
LisaLisa1908
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Becky? What? LMAO I swear to GOODNESS folx will use a term for ANYTHING!
OP, sit down with your SO outside of the bedroom and have a little talk. Ask him what he likes and what he doesn't like. Then later on, jump him.
OP, sit down with your SO outside of the bedroom and have a little talk. Ask him what he likes and what he doesn't like. Then later on, jump him.
GreenD
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Different men do indeed like different things.
I once dated a man that I felt inspired to give him the best 'becky'... and it showed.
We broke up. Tried a similar technique with a new guy I was dating and he was like, "No, do it like this." It's really not a problem. Just different guys with different likes.
Just keep on with the communication and practice and you will find out how HE likes it.
I think as far as the whole good/bad, right/wrong Becky it's important to keep one thing in mind. If men (and most do) like tight, warm, and wet/moist things around their crayon, like well you know...other parts of the body, then the same goes for your mouth. So you to some extent need to imitate that. I'm sure you can do pretty much anything with that one thing in mind. Just Becky without p________n with a guy I think is no good, unless they like putting their crayons in big sharpeners.
IMO this is the basic rule, but your technique is all about you and what your guy prefers and that is the variable. It's the same with intercourse, if you got the basic idea down of what's supposed to happen, then the rest is between you two with the likes and dislikes and the other elements of the act. You just got to learn the person you're with and go from there, as vice versa.
SelahOco
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Yeah me too
I would appreciate the feedback. I also hear sex tips, suggestions are best given outside of the bedrooom. I doubt he tried to make you feel insecure but you asked so he told you.....This is why men dont like to often share with women because when they do, it's almost too honest for us. Don't make him feel like he can't talk to you about things-even if it was just sex, he was willing to share that little bit.
Different men do indeed like different things.
I once dated a man that I felt inspired to give him the best 'becky'... and it showed.
We broke up. Tried a similar technique with a new guy I was dating and he was like, "No, do it like this." It's really not a problem. Just different guys with different likes.
Just keep on with the communication and practice and you will find out how HE likes it.
Becky? What? LMAO I swear to GOODNESS folx will use a term for ANYTHING!
OP, sit down with your SO outside of the bedroom and have a little talk. Ask him what he likes and what he doesn't like. Then later on, jump him.
Some of my favorite people...Just wanted to say HI!!!!
Summer_Rain
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Yup - that's the point I wanted to make earlier. There are basics and then there are techniques. You can't even enter the realm of techniques until you've covered the basics. If you don't understand the 101's of Becky, well...I'll just stop typing.
Jade Feria
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LOL @ the tiptoeing.
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