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Last night my SO and I stayed up late talking about a variety of things and we got on the topic of 'becky', for lack of acceptable terms and he told me my performance wasn't the best.
I told him that he knew coming into the rlshp that I did not have a lot of experience in that area and I asked him to show me what he liked. He said he is not comfortable with coaching me b/c that takes the thrill away and make it feel like work.
I'm glad to know how he feels but I'm a lil' crushed and embarrassed. He told me that it's not a big deal to him and that he can be happy without it and I don't believe that.
I know he likes it and I wish I could snap my fingers and be better but I think that knowing how he feels I show up to the job with a self-defeated attitude. I just don't know what it is, I think he/I both need to hit the refresh button on the ‘becky' idea and start anew.
My being a tyro and trying to improve is prolly not a turn on for him. I woke up this morning with a weight of unresolved feelings, I couldn't stop thinking about it all night. Although he claims he is good, it doesn't ease my conscious to know that I'm not pleasing him in that area or could prolly never will.
I think all the skill enhancing tips at this point will not do me much good considering I doubt I could lose the inhibition to have fun with it to satisfy him.
Thanks for listening,
I told him that he knew coming into the rlshp that I did not have a lot of experience in that area and I asked him to show me what he liked. He said he is not comfortable with coaching me b/c that takes the thrill away and make it feel like work.
I'm glad to know how he feels but I'm a lil' crushed and embarrassed. He told me that it's not a big deal to him and that he can be happy without it and I don't believe that.
I know he likes it and I wish I could snap my fingers and be better but I think that knowing how he feels I show up to the job with a self-defeated attitude. I just don't know what it is, I think he/I both need to hit the refresh button on the ‘becky' idea and start anew.
My being a tyro and trying to improve is prolly not a turn on for him. I woke up this morning with a weight of unresolved feelings, I couldn't stop thinking about it all night. Although he claims he is good, it doesn't ease my conscious to know that I'm not pleasing him in that area or could prolly never will.
I think all the skill enhancing tips at this point will not do me much good considering I doubt I could lose the inhibition to have fun with it to satisfy him.
Thanks for listening,