Single Christian Women's Support Thread

pre_medicalrulz said:
That is so true! She is pretty.
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She is pretty! I think some of her outfits are questionable though IMO (ie too short/tight/revealing :look:)

I also disagree with her advice on wearing a ring on your ring finger to symbolize that you belong to God. That might actually detract a potential suitor. What decent man would approach a woman wearing a ring on her wedding finger? Also, I disagree with her stance on online dating. You can be "found" online. Just because you are online doesn't mean you are doing the seeking. However, I generally think her advice is good.
 
Now that I know better and deeply understand the importance of purity and waiting for marriage
I've been struggling with a lot of guilt about past relationships
I feel like I failed myself and God
 
Belle Du Jour said:
:look: I know I'm not the only one who saw a few engagement and baby announcements on FB. :look:
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Actually, someone I know who was perpetually single started dating a guy 1 to 1.5 years ago and they got engaged. She's an older woman and I was really happy for her. Stories like that remind me to stay my butt right on in line for my blessing :lachen:

Don't underestimate the power of other people's joys and success (especially if they are walking by faith)! It inspires me to trust God more and more. :yep: I regularly read Christian courtship stories :look:
 
^^^Same here. One of my older friends who has been single for AGES just texted me about her wedding in 2013. I was SOOO happy for her because I remember her almost giving up and never really dating anymore. She's 34 going on 35.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
This post from Heather's blog is right on time:

Where is my ring?

:look: I know I'm not the only one who saw a few engagement and baby announcements on FB. :look:
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Thanks for posting! I came across her new post yesterday, and just did a quick skim. I'll try to read it fully today. I usually like her posts but have been shying away from reminders of being "single" ... but this should be worth a read. Lol.
 
^^^It's worth the read loolalooh, I wrote this part down: Marriage is ministry and if you were lazy with your walk with God while single when you get married, you'll get smacked in the face by the EFFORT that it takes to make a marriage GOOD & last.
 
Maracujá said:
^^^It's worth the read loolalooh, I wrote this part down: Marriage is ministry and if you were lazy with your walk with God while single when you get married, you'll get smacked in the face by the EFFORT that it takes to make a marriage GOOD & last.
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Oh, wow! That's pretty heavy. Thanks, Maracujá! I'll get to reading. :)
 
i love the lindseys but i find it unnecessary for her to be selling lipsticks, bracelets, rings etc and her husband writing a book when they've barely been married two years, it seems to me they are starting to exploit their followers with all these products.
 
cyrealla said:
i love the lindseys but i find it unnecessary for her to be selling lipsticks, bracelets, rings etc and her husband writing a book when they've barely been married two years, it seems to me they are starting to exploit their followers with all these products.
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I think you have a good point. They are also starting a church however, I'm not sure either of them have gone to divinity/ministry school (at least, I haven't read this in their bios). I don't intend to buy anything from them but I do enjoy the posts on her blog. :yep: I do get that "prosperity vibe" from them although they haven't explicitely said that. :look:

Also, the length of time that they married is not necessarily off-putting because I think they are more talking about how to get married in the will of God and the single Christian market is sorely lacking in this area. This seems to have crossed over even into the Catholic setting. I'm just glad Christians are addressing that our experiment with worldly dating practices has left a generation of women and men single and if we don't do something about it, future generations are at risk!

Every Sunday, they pray for people to come to the priesthood but hello, we need to pray for marriage FIRST and for people to have babies in the first place and grow them up in the way they should go. No babies=no future parishioners=no future priests. Sorry, I went off on a tangent. :look:
 
Belle Du Jour said:
I think you have a good point. They are also starting a church however, I'm not sure either of them have gone to divinity/ministry school (at least, I haven't read this in their bios). I don't intend to buy anything from them but I do enjoy the posts on her blog. :yep: I do get that "prosperity vibe" from them although they haven't explicitely said that. :look:

Also, the length of time that they married is not necessarily off-putting because I think they are more talking about how to get married in the will of God and the single Christian market is sorely lacking in this area. This seems to have crossed over even into the Catholic setting. I'm just glad Christians are addressing that our experiment with worldly dating practices has left a generation of women and men single and if we don't do something about it, future generations are at risk!

Every Sunday, they pray for people to come to the priesthood but hello, we need to pray for marriage FIRST and for people to have babies in the first place and grow them up in the way they should go. No babies=no future parishioners=no future priests. Sorry, I went off on a tangent. :look:
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This is why I love their message. Before Heather Lindsey most of the purity messages I came across were from women who waited for marriage. While that's beautiful, I couldn't relate to them, because I did not wait. Stories about women who did not wait weren't being fully told, because a lot of Christian women are still made to feel ashamed about any hint of a sexual past before marriage.
Then Heather shared her testimony and it resonated. I related, I too was that young woman looking for love in the wrong places, defining my value, worth and attractiveness by the attention I got from men and from my relationships. It was a false sense of love, and I came up empty. Heather spoke about that and I understood. More importantly, she spoke about her repentance and about redemption, about how Jesus redeemed her from sin, about her freedom in Christ, freedom from the shame and guilt of her past. Finally someone was telling my story and the stories of other women who silenced themselves out of shame. It's a testimony about restoration and redemption, about not staying down when you fall down.
So many people can and do benefit from her testimonies.

I don't think the Lindseys are perfect. I take what's for me and refuse what's not for me when I listen to their messages. I like that Cornelius challenges men to be men, to be men who are at Jesus' feet.
 
2 friends of mine got engaged this week, the guy who I thought was interested in me hasn't spoke with me in 2 weeks...trying to be content and not compare myself to all the other women I know who got engaged and/or married this year...off to spend time to God
 
^^^Be glad he's not stringing you along for something. Write him off right now. He just made the way for the real love of your life. Sometimes, we learn something from others ...no meetings are chance.
 
Happy New Year ladies!!! It's a year filled with possibilities, I didn't spend it in Paris like I wanted to but ended up going to church with my mom like I've done for the past three years. It was very nice, I truly enjoyed myself and still plan to go to Paris for the low low price of €25 for the ticket :). I stumbled upon this blog post that I just had to share because I know alot of us ladies make lists of what we want in a mate, sometimes we hang on to it so much that we truly miss what's in front of us:

http://goodwomenproject.com/ama/future-husband-requirements
 
cyrealla said:
i love the lindseys but i find it unnecessary for her to be selling lipsticks, bracelets, rings etc and her husband writing a book when they've barely been married two years, it seems to me they are starting to exploit their followers with all these products.
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I don't understand this post. Why not just be happy for folks ventures. I swear folks always think someone has some ulterior motive for something. Just be happy for people.Who really cares if she only has been married for two years? How is that taking away from her overall message? And some of you ladies wonder why you are still single? Mentality is all wrong. If you don't like her just don't support her. Problem solved.
 
VelvetRain said:
I don't understand this post. Why not just be happy for folks ventures. I swear folks always think someone has some ulterior motive for something. Just be happy for people.Who really cares if she only has been married for two years? How is that taking away from her overall message? And some of you ladies wonder why you are still single? Mentality is all wrong. If you don't like her just don't support her. Problem solved.
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:ohwell:

One of the things I've always appreciated about this thread is that it provides a place of genuine support for single women and a welcome respite from many women's tendency to exert superiority over the unmarried/childless. I personally would like for it to remain that way.

If it must persist, I'd prefer that the "That's why you can't get a man" rhetoric remain in the many other places on the forum where diminishing women's worth/value/desirability based on the fact that they aren't (yet) married is commonplace. Let's not turn this thread into one of them.
 
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VelvetRain said:
I don't understand this post. Why not just be happy for folks ventures. I swear folks always think someone has some ulterior motive for something. Just be happy for people.Who really cares if she only has been married for two years? How is that taking away from her overall message? And some of you ladies wonder why you are still single? Mentality is all wrong. If you don't like her just don't support her. Problem solved.
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Thanks was not enough. Heather and Cornelius Lindsey I love their message and do not get a prosperity vibe from them not at all.
 
VelvetRain said:
I don't understand this post. Why not just be happy for folks ventures. I swear folks always think someone has some ulterior motive for something. Just be happy for people.Who really cares if she only has been married for two years? How is that taking away from her overall message? And some of you ladies wonder why you are still single? Mentality is all wrong. If you don't like her just don't support her. Problem solved.
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I agree with nubiennze. VelvetRain everyone has a right to their own opinion and I'm glad you did state your opinion. However, the bolded statement was not an opinion it was an attack. I don't know if this was your intention or not but it came off very self-righteous and demeaning.

Ladies, let's all be careful with the words we choose. It is 100% ok for us to disagree with each other, but it is not ok for us to attack each other in the process. Be blessed!
 
Today is one of those (difficult) days, but it will pass. Better in God's time than in my time. Better in God's will and under His protection than of my own wish.

Wishing us all fruitful new year!!
 
Some of you really do need to get your head out the clouds and self reflect. I stand by what I said because it clearly needed to be said. In my experience why be upset if what I say doesn't apply to you?
 
I hope this thread doesn't take a sour turn :nono:

Anyway, I promised myself that this year I won't mention dating/marriage too much to those around me.
 
Remember your worth comes from God. He already said you are valuable and worthy. There's no need to try and prove that to anyone. You are who God says you are.
 
Aw lord. I see I done ruffled some feathers. I swear I refuse to sugarcoat anything for anyone. I call it as I see it. I just find it rather interesting for a christian womens thread that a few of you who call yourself christians were not being supportive of another christian womens venture but were questioning her level of genuiness. I know Heather personally so this naturally struck a chord with me. Hmm doesn't seem christ like to me.
 
Well I stand by what I said also.. I like their ministry and can understand the idea of books, but selling lipsticks, rings and bracelets is imo not needed, their message is powerful enough without the extra money making gimmicks which looks to me like they are trying to make a profit out of their growing following.


oh, and I'm sure ur single too so erm yeh :rolleyes:
 
While I love Lindseys and didn't agree with some of the posters, I didn't and still don't see the point in attempting to shame women for being single. Our worth isn't tied to our marital status, we are valuable single or married so i didn't get it. Why is someone's marital status even being used as a weapon against them? :ohwell:

Further no one is above reproach. I didn't see attacking the Lindseys, ppl merely questioned certain tactics, it's o.k. to ask questions. I question messages, sermons, pastors, posters lol....God gave us a brain and mind to use. None of us will ever be above reproach.
 
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