Think of The Veil as a simple metaphor: It is the idea that God places a protective veil over all of us and the purpose of the veil is to hide us from every possible suitor except the one that God intends for us to marry. I call the person God wants us to marry our ‘holy spouse.’
This protective veil makes us ‘unclear’, similar to looking through a Mylar plastic sheet, to those suitors who are not our holy spouse. These suitors may be attracted to us but they hesitate to pursue us fully because they can’t fully see us; we are hidden by the veil. This may feel like rejection but it is really God’s protection.
The Holy of Holies:
I love The Veil reference because of the beautiful meaning of a veil in scripture, especially the Old Testament. For example, if you read from the book of Leviticus, it describes God’s requirements for entering the Holy of Holies. The Holy of Holies is the most sacred room of the Tabernacle and God gave the Israelites very specific instructions on how to build the Tabernacle, who could enter this most sacred room and how they should enter it.
The Old Testament Tabernacle had 3 rooms: the courtyard, the middle room or Holy Place and finally, the Holy of Holies. The design of the Tabernacle was explicitly given by God to Moses. The Holy of Holies was where God dwelt among His people. The Holy of Holies contained the Ark of the Covenant which held the Omer of Manna and the sacred tablets of the Ten Commandments written by the finger God on Mount Sinai.
The Veil:
A thick curtain separated the Holy Place from the Holy of Holies. This curtain, known as the ‘veil’ was made of fine linen and blue, purple and scarlet yarn. There were figures of cherubim embroidered onto it. Cherubim, spirits who serve God, guarded the throne of God.
So, the Holy Place and the Holy of Holies were separated by the Veil. The veil was a barrier between man and God, showing man that the holiness of God could not be trifled with. The veil was a barrier to make sure that man could not carelessly and irreverently enter into God’s awesome presence in the Holy of Holies.
What does this have to do with your holy spouse and saving yourself for marriage?
I think if you will at least humor me on the concept of The Veil, you will see it revealed in the posts of this blog. And, not surprising to me, I have found a good number of secular references all pointing to the same conclusion: Fornication is destructive and Chastity is just plain smart.
Before people get too upset that I am using the term, let me look up the definition of ‘fornication’ to be sure we are all on the same page. Mr. Webster says:
for·ni·ca·tion noun 1. voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.
I want to make sure I am not perceived as being catty when I use this term. I am just differentiating the act of fornication from the marital embrace. Unmarried vs. married.
So, back to Chastity being smart. I am aware that this message will not be accepted by everyone who reads it. But, my heart is with single women. I want you to know that there is a plan and a good reason why you are getting mixed messages from the guy you are interested in or dating. I want you to know that there are rewards for treating the gift of our sexual powers with care and reverence. And, that there are consequences to trifling with God’s design of our sexual powers.
The premise of The Veil theory is that God puts a protective veil over us and the veil is only to be ‘lifted’ by God and only lifted for the one He intends for us to marry, our holy spouse, in God’s specified time according to His specified plan. And only our ‘intended’, our holy spouse, can enter the Holy of Holies (the marital embrace).
And, once God lifts the veil, our holy spouse sees us through the eyes of Love in all our beauty and virtue filled with grace and trust. If, on the other hand, we try to lift the veil ourselves (sexually) prior to marriage and reveal ourselves to someone who is not our ‘intended’, the person will only see us with human eyes, blurred and with all our faults.
The Veil theory proposes that marriages fail and people suffer because they enter marriage with the veil still covering them. They attempted, unsuccessfully, to lift the veil themselves through sexual sin before marriage and the veil, which remains in place, is no longer a protection but is instead a repellent to marital love. Only God can lift the veil.
Unless the veil is removed by God in His time, the veil covers and obscures one’s true and best self and therefore one is never fully seen by their spouse and can never truly be loved. Because they are never fully loved, it leads to insecurity and self-doubt, dissatisfaction and drama. This drives the couple apart and leads to divorce and complaints of dissatisfaction.
Only God can lift the veil in His time through the virtue and power of Chastity. You do not want to attempt to lift the veil yourself through sexual sin before marriage. It is a spiritual veil that you cannot lift. Only God can. Nor do you want to enter into marriage with the veil still concealing your true and best self.
The Veil theory is loosely derived from Blessed John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, St. Thomas Aquinas, Alice and Dietrich Von Hildebrand and others. The Veil is just a metaphor. There is no Catholic doctrine surrounding it nor does anything similar to this metaphor result from a Google search. It is just a metaphor.
The goal in my heart is to encourage you, the single girl, in Chastity and to give you the insight that what feels like rejection from men is really God’s protection. It helps to know that the man who is rejecting you and sending you double messages cannot ‘see’ you so it is impossible for him to love and fully appreciate you…even if he tried.
But what about the man who God intends for you? Will he see you fully? Oh, yes. Will you be loved and cherished? Oh, yes. Wait on the Lord.
Does the concept of the veil ring true to you based on your experience as a single person? In other words, have you dated someone who acted interested but then, for some reason, did not want to move things forward? If so, write to me or leave me a comment below.
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and making a fool of myself
. But I was "that girl" you knew would be at that venue for the night. People came to recognize me because I became a regular.
and stopped him from approaching me for courtship. 
. However, we should also keep in mind that our future husbands may be right around the corner watching us and gleaning from our doings. When we reach a certain maturity in our walk, certain things just have to be shed, in place of things that are wholesome and holy 
. And even if we are not doing something that is bad ... if it's not good, then what is it? The Bible says to keep our "minds on whatever is right, whatever is pure" (Philippians 4:8) ... not on whatever is "not wrong", whatever is "not impure". I hope you're hearing me.
So true, indeed.
I had a wave of fear come over me 
Marriage and motherhood are such HUGE undertakings and you can't just walk away when it gets tough. How do you know that you're ready. Is there really a way to be ready? I was feeling that I was ready but today I had this distinct fear that maybe I really wasn't. Ugh, so confused.
erplexed
