Single Christian Women's Support Thread

My dating life has been non-existent lately. I have been working 6 and 7 days a week. On the days I take off, I'm too exhausted to go out. My birthday is coming up in four months and lately I have been thinking more about my future, especially my finances. So right now one of my main focus is relaunching my business successfully and making it extremely profitable. Dating is just not on my radar right now, but maybe that'll change in the future.
 
Hey ladies, l have been doing a lot of thinking whilst on this journey and yes while we are preparing and waiting for that perfect God-blessed relationship. Do any of you ever think whether God has that planned for you. Sometimes I do wander, and often ask myself why spend so much time getting ready for Mr Right? I supppose I have to get away from the 'life spent in a relationship is a life worth living' mentality. What are your thoughts!

Happy Holidays.
 
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How is everyone doing? I never posted in this thread before, but I followed it and have been encouraged by everyones testimony and response. As a single christian woman, I get encouraged when I speak to others in the same situation, especially those who are actively pursuing a stronger relationship with God above all else.

Be encouraged ladies.
 
I was just thinking about bumping this thread! Since I didn't do it immediately (I believe I was in the car on my way to work at the time) I forgot exactly what I wanted to share though. :ohwell:

I started to post what I do recall of my testimony, but it got incredibly long, so it's now a blog. :grin: Check it out and, if anyone wants me to post it here, I will.
 
It took me about two hours to read this entire thread but I don't regret. Hi Ladies! I'm a single Christian woman, I've been single for almost five years now and I am 25 years old. Just like you ladies my main focus is spending time with the Lord and talking to Him on a daily basis, I know that one day He will bring the man of my dreams to me. I want you ladies to have a nice weekend and I will share more with you ladies on a later date!
 
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I came in here hopeful that you ladies wouldn't be struggling the way I am, lol. I guess the bump is timely so we can be reminded to keep each other in prayer.

Any specific requests? I'm doing a lot better now than I was yesterday when I posted, but I could still use some help/support staying busy with the things of the Lord and not becoming emotionally/mentally preoccupied with lack. I have entirely too much to thank Him for--including being surrounded by people who genuinely love me, marriage or no--to complain about what I don't have. But of course, for this old flesh, there are some incredibly difficult moments. Please pray for me as I pray for you all...
 
nubiennze said:
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I came in here hopeful that you ladies wouldn't be struggling the way I am, lol. I guess the bump is timely so we can be reminded to keep each other in prayer.

Any specific requests? I'm doing a lot better now than I was yesterday when I posted, but I could still use some help/support staying busy with the things of the Lord and not becoming emotionally/mentally preoccupied with lack. I have entirely too much to thank Him for--including being surrounded by people who genuinely love me, marriage or no--to complain about what I don't have. But of course, for this old flesh, there are some incredibly difficult moments. Please pray for me as I pray for you all...
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Thanks for the hugs! Yes, let's definitely keep each other in prayer. I know that we will ultimately be free from struggling so long as we stay focused on Him and His love for us. :)
 
Ealier this summer, God led me to a few books that have encouraged me a lot:

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a very quick but powerful read and it was like $1.

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got this one free (must have been a promotional) but it's worth the $10.

Ladies, don't give up. From C.S. Lewis' Screwtape Letters (where the devil is training a demon on how to attack humans):

“Whatever he says, let his inner resolution be not to bear whatever comes to him, but to bear it 'for a reasonable period'--and let the reasonable period be shorter than the trial is likely to last. It need not be much shorter; in attacks on patience, chastity, and fortitude, the fun is to make the man yield just when (had he but known it) relief was almost in sight.”

Don't fall for it ladies--the devil steps it up in the last hour. Victory is at hand.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
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got this one free (must have been a promotional) but it's worth the $10.

Ladies, don't give up. From C.S. Lewis' Screwtape Letters (where the devil is training a demon on how to attack humans):

“Whatever he says, let his inner resolution be not to bear whatever comes to him, but to bear it 'for a reasonable period'--and let the reasonable period be shorter than the trial is likely to last. It need not be much shorter; in attacks on patience, chastity, and fortitude, the fun is to make the man yield just when (had he but known it) relief was almost in sight.”

Don't fall for it ladies--the devil steps it up in the last hour. Victory is at hand.
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I downloaded this on Kindle after reading that thread. Finally started reading it. It's really good so far. Thanks again.
 
BrandNew said:
Hi sisters,

I was watching this thread for a while and scared to post. Even though I just started dating I still consider myself single.

I don't know if this book was mentioned before but I'm reading When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy. It is truly an amazing book and helping me to lay the foundation for the kind of Godly relationship I am trusting God for. I highly recommend it!! I'm reading it with my best friend and I think it would make a good book club read if anyone is interested.
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Wow, I wrote this 2 years ago. I've been single for 5 years now with no prospects in sight. I'm 24 years old. Watching every one around me, friends and relatives, get married and in relationships (some even younger than me) gets discouraging. I realize that things will happen in God's time...
 
I've been single all of my adult life( :look: I'm only 21 though) Reading through this thread for encouragement.
 
t's always so refreshing to come back to this thread; especially this subforum of the forum overall.

i'm still single and now 25.
it's a lot harder now because people (friends and family) are really starting to ask questions and pry. I feel a lot more stable emotionally, financially, spiritually.

coughand I joined an online dating sitecough :look:

P.S. this book has been convicting me/beating me up spiritually recently:
The Resolution for Women

it is so well written and fitting, please pick it up.


http://www.amazon.com/The-Resolution-Women-Priscilla-Shirer/dp/1433674017
 
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a_ caribbean_dream said:
t's always so refreshing to come back to this thread; especially this subforum of the forum overall.

i'm still single and now 25.
it's a lot harder now because people (friends and family) are really starting to ask questions and pry. I feel a lot more stable emotionally, financially, spiritually.

coughand I joined an online dating sitecough :look:

P.S. this book has been convicting me/beating me up spiritually recently:
The Resolution for Women

it is so well written and fitting, please pick it up.


http://www.amazon.com/The-Resolution-Women-Priscilla-Shirer/dp/1433674017
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MTE, I'm 25 as well and now I'm really thinking of marriage as a possibility. I have a feeling things will pop off in graduate school next year :)

I wanted to read the Resolution for Women! My church's women's group is reading it; I think I'll join them. I thought it was a book for married women only.

I hope my FH has read and follows the Resolutions :)) I LOVED Courageous
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MarriageMaterial said:
WOW I wrote this two years ago. I've been single for 6 years now and no prospects or even a date.

For some odd reason, I'm not even concerned about it.
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Same here. Been single for 6 years, no prospects. Decided to say goodbye to dating after a few fiascos:nono:.
 
Good thread ladies.

I've been single and celibate for 5 years. God is keeping me and He is fullfilling those voids with Him. I don't want nothing unless it's from God.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
Don't fall for it ladies--the devil steps it up in the last hour. Victory is at hand.
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I'd already read this post, but I've definitely needed this confirmation/reminder. I'm going to try to remember to come back after work and share why. The devil has been coming at me, and I hate I didn't think to come here (or to Christ, for that matter :perplexed) sooner. Hopefully I can spare someone else from going through as long/severely as I've been recently...
 
Has anyone read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"? A friend loaned me the book and I was wondering what y'all thought. (Still reading "Finally A Bride".)
 
I have been real hesitant in posting in this thread. I can have a dark cloud effect at times. However, I have been single no man for 7 years. I try and say I don't need a man or I am not something to have one. I read so much now that now I'm sitting in this life thinking maybe I was not one who was called for marriage thus no man ever. It would be easier if I hadn't had certian life circumstances but I have. Some done to me and others done to myself. So the idea of having someone who is on your side and who loves and protects you is desired.

With all of this I know without a shadow of a doubt if it's meant to be it will be. I will have to play active role but it can happen. I won't be mad if it take a bit longer or it doesn't come in the 6'5 broad shoulders career driven sun dipped in chocolate package either.
 
nubiennze said:
I'd already read this post, but I've definitely needed this confirmation/reminder. I'm going to try to remember to come back after work and share why. The devil has been coming at me, and I hate I didn't think to come here (or to Christ, for that matter :perplexed) sooner. Hopefully I can spare someone else from going through as long/severely as I've been recently...
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Remember, Satan wouldn't come after you if he wasn't threatened by something in you or something about to come through you. :yep: Stay strong. Even if all you can say is "Jesus, I trust it you" then let that be your prayer. There is so much going on beneath what our human eyes can see and what our limited minds can comprehend. Jesus is Lord of all. Just remember that. Even if your faith is the size of a mustardseed, God can work with that.
 
I'm posting this comment here. Don't judge me, but I have no where else to go to vent.

But this celibacy until marriage stuff is for the birds (I'm still going to practice). I have been celibate for SEVEN years; I'm tired of taking my "earthly" desires and finding an outlet for them....like exercising (although, my body is getting tight).

I just desire to have my husband here already. I just don't understand why I'm still in this waiting period with no prospects.

I analyze, psycho anaylze and spent hours thinking about how to attract him and still have no clue. I did the 30, 60, 90 day prayers for a husband. Read all the "encouraging" Christian and non-Christian books. I shorten my list, extended my list, threw away the list....nothing! Prayed, cried, prayed, cried, fasted....nothing.

Gave my time, advice, fasted and prayed for other women in (bad/moderate) relationships to better relationships and encouragement for them. Do you know how it feels to hear about other people who found a great CHRISTIAN guyS ALL THE TIME! The type of men, I'm desiring and I have yet to met ONE!

Yes, I know what the bible says and I'm tired of people quoting scriptures to me about this area. I read Ruth, Esther, what Jacob did to get his wife (wives) understand how some of the men of the Bible met their wives, I get the spiritual and natural side of relationships. I understand the relationship I'm suppose to have with Jesus and is doing it.

I'm tired of trying to find activities to keep myself busy, so I won't think about it. Yeah, that worked for a long time, but its not anymore. I'm tired and frustrated of being alone and "enjoying my singlehood". Newsflash!! enjoying singlehood is only enjoyable when you don't want to be in a relationship. Outside of that, it's frustrating....well at least for me!!

I'm ready for my breakthrough in every area of my life. EVERY single area has been in a waiting period for years. I'm just tired of WAITING!

End Rant....
 
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