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Just came back from the bar with a few friends, we went out to celebrate our university winning against Arizona State WOOT!!:grin:

The boldness that is drunk white men was out in full force tonight. Lawd have mercy!:nono: I've never seen anything like it. To know that these are the same men who don't have the balls to approach me when sober and to see them under the influence and their boldness is quite astounding, I've never experienced anything like this before.

I thought people just made these things up but i guess I had to see it to believe it. SMH:spinning::yawn:
 
Where do you get off texting me and calling me repeatedly from 4 am to 5am. I was never your girlfriend....when you had a chance you acted like a bipolar clown (of course I'm grateful to have seen your true colors). When I was calling you bipolar back then, I was just trying to say you had issues...now I think your shyt is clinical. Get help.

What's with SOME of these men? They dont want to snatch you up when they can but as soon as someone else does, they act like they owned you. We were NEVER together, thank God.
 
For future references, I will refer to the student/teacher as Mark.

A little background on Mark. Mark is 43 and has a birthday in November. He retired from the Army almost 4 years ago, so this will be his second career. He has an 18 year old son that recently began college. He's an excellent writer and is great at articulating himself to students and adults. He is very adamant about opening and closing doors for women-he believes that a man should always do that. He's never been married, so that kind of throws suspicion in my mind as to "why not"-but who am I to judge?

Last night when we talked, for the billionth time, we decided that once he has completed his Bachelor's degree in May that he will jump right into working on his Masters degree. Why? Because we want to work on our Doctorate degree TOGETHER. I already have my Masters degree, so I'm just waiting on him to catch up with me. Then we will go for it together. How did we come to this decision? We have both recognized that we sync very well when it comes to teaching and writing and our intelligences/strengths seem to compliment each other.
 
Trying not to over analyze things because we were joking around (I think) but did we just agree to have a baby in 2 years? The strange part is I think I'm actually ok with that. Wait until the mommas hear this one :lachen:

Me: I think I'm going to move back home 'cuz that will help me clear up my debt a lot quicker if I ever have kids and get married, etc. I want to be completely debt free when that happens.
Him: How long will it take you to clear your debt if you do that?
Me: About 2 years. Four if I don't.
Him: Well how many kids do you want to have?
Me: A minimum of 2
Him: You didn't ask me how many I wanted.
Me: How many do you want?
Him: 1
Me: Well I want 2 because I want my child to have a sibling, especially if something ever happens to me or the dad.
Him: Would twins be ok?
Me: Yes but I want a girl and a boy
Him: Ok. I guess I'm going to have to start making some sacrifices to get ready too.

I know he didn't really say it directly but I like to think that's what he meant :grin::lachen::drunk:
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Etherealsmile said:
Just came back from the bar with a few friends, we went out to celebrate our university winning against Arizona State WOOT!!:grin:

The boldness that is drunk white men was out in full force tonight. Lawd have mercy!:nono: I've never seen anything like it. To know that these are the same men who don't have the balls to approach me when sober and to see them under the influence and their boldness is quite astounding, I've never experienced anything like this before.

I thought people just made these things up but i guess I had to see it to believe it. SMH:spinning::yawn:
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I love reading about your experiences because you're down at my Alma mater. Best luck with everything down there!
 
I just realized how often I find myself saying or thinking KIM when it comes to men. Such a simple concept but yet took me yrs to fully get it. I swear it seems like 95% of womens issues with men stem from this. Dude don't want u, ain't right for u, won't commit, get his ish together, etc...KIM. like, it really is just that simple. U will never find the right one if u r always stuck on the wrong one.

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deltadreamland said:
Why? Because we want to work on our Doctorate degree TOGETHER.
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Really together? I guess since I am in a doctorate program, I would NOT want my partner in the same position as me. Maybe it would be cool if he did it before me, but not at the same time.

And why did I automatically think this dude was in his twenties?!

Did you all talk about dating?:grin:
 
Friday night was my date with Match #2. Interesting, the guy had the same birthday as Match #1 (both were also the babies in the family) but had a totally different personality.:perplexed Match #2 is totally obsessed with his work which is business and does not get out much. He contradicted himself soooooo much, he was just not like my agency described.:ohwell: I had to carry most of the conversation rather than it being balanced and he didn't expressed opinions on anything, just recited facts. Since he's 33, I thought he'd be looking for a relationship (also it's what the agency is geared towards) but he's actually not really looking for a relationship and is just interested in meeting people. I could post more about him but I'll leave it at that.

Luckily I had a meeting with my matchmakers also on Friday and we went over my entire profile and made some changes. My mom's looking at other agencies.

Match #1 will not stop texting me even though I told him I was busy this entire weekend. Haven't responded. I had fun on our date but I don't think we're a compatible couple because we disagree on some important issues. I was willing to go out with him again to give him a chance to clarify and tell him where I'm at but now I'm tempted to call him and say I don't want to date him anymore.
 
Its that time again where there is someone i know is either pregnant or getting married. UGH

My ex is trying to contact me AGAIN I was thinking about putting a restraining order against him for stalking. This is crazy when someone tells you that they are not feeling u get the hint don't keep trying to push urself off on someone that is not interested. Major turn offs is when a person keeps trying to make you be in a relationship with them and they have found out things that they just dont like and can not stand for in a man.
 
Keshieshimmer said:
Really together? I guess since I am in a doctorate program, I would NOT want my partner in the same position as me. Maybe it would be cool if he did it before me, but not at the same time.

And why did I automatically think this dude was in his twenties?!

Did you all talk about dating?:grin:
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I actually think it's a brilliant idea to date someone who's doing the same thing you are because it gives you a more supportive and understanding partner. A lot of people do not realize that graduate school is seriously a full time job w/ lil pay, and you have to bring work home w/ you all the time lol.

I know a couple who came into the English PhD program together. They weren't doing the same exact discipline though, so it worked out. I will say that it takes a really special and patient partner to date someone in a graduate program. I know tons of marriages that did not last, because the partner couldn't understand the new changes and pressures the graduate student was under. It's also been my experience that most new relationships do not last graduate school, when only one partner is doing the program or has been in that position in the past.

There are exceptions to the rule. I met my now fiance when I had just started the Master's program, so he got to see me in the middle of finals within the first 3 months of us dating. It hasn't always been easy, but we both learn to sacrifice and plan around schedules. I try to get most of my work done during the week, so I can spend time w/ him on Friday and Saturdays it doesn't always work, but I try. I also let him know when major things are coming up, so he knows to give me some space and let me work.
 
So... This guy that Ive been talking to from POF just texted me and asked how "fishing" was going. That really irritated me! Why is he worried about it? Ugh!
 
Keshieshimmer said:
Really together? I guess since I am in a doctorate program, I would NOT want my partner in the same position as me. Maybe it would be cool if he did it before me, but not at the same time.

And why did I automatically think this dude was in his twenties?!

Did you all talk about dating?:grin:
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We're friends. We're not in a relationship----yet. No, I won't even mention the word dating until after May. And I hope he doesn't mention it before then either, because I have a feeling I won't be able to tell him no.

When I'm working on a degree, I have no problem doing it with someone that I'm seeing, if it should happen to get to that point with us; especially if we work well together.
 
frostydoll said:
I actually think it's a brilliant idea to date someone who's doing the same thing you are because it gives you a more supportive and understanding partner. A lot of people do not realize that graduate school is seriously a full time job w/ lil pay, and you have to bring work home w/ you all the time lol.

I know a couple who came into the English PhD program together. They weren't doing the same exact discipline though, so it worked out. I will say that it takes a really special and patient partner to date someone in a graduate program. I know tons of marriages that did not last, because the partner couldn't understand the new changes and pressures the graduate student was under. It's also been my experience that most new relationships do not last graduate school, when only one partner is doing the program or has been in that position in the past.

There are exceptions to the rule. I met my now fiance when I had just started the Master's program, so he got to see me in the middle of finals within the first 3 months of us dating. It hasn't always been easy, but we both learn to sacrifice and plan around schedules. I try to get most of my work done during the week, so I can spend time w/ him on Friday and Saturdays it doesn't always work, but I try. I also let him know when major things are coming up, so he knows to give me some space and let me work.
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I agree with your post. When I was working on my doctorate degree before :look: , I didn't have a social life at all. I was held hostage by my laptop and my classes. So even though we plan on working on our degree together, that doesn't mean that we are pursuing the same field of study; similar fields yes.
 
The older gentleman is cooking for me tonight...sexy, teaches 8th grade reading, louisiana accent, and willing to cook? pray for me yall..i need to look for my barb- wired panties

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Sorta annoyed because I really just want to stay at home with my Sunday programming of SNapped, Bridezillas, and whatever is on the ID channel but SO wants to hang out. :(
 
He's over his house making me a shrimp n pasta dinner while I work on my dissertation :grin:. I love him :drunk:.

He brings me flowers on the regular, prays with me, supports me and my crazy dreams, helps me work, opens doors (like, gets out of his car and walks around to the passenger side. not that reaching over ****), pays for meals, vacuums my carpet (something about I don't make straight lines), is a social butterfly etc. etc. etc. I have no complaints at all..none!! Well, except I'm three years older than he is and it bugs me...a little :ohwell:.

Somebody shoulda told me 'bout these Morehouse men earlier :lick:.

BTW, we are both PhD candidates. It's working :yep:.
 
Mark just offered to cook me a little something. Tuesday when he comes to school (that sounds so far away), he's going to bring me a grilled cheese with pepperoni, ham and something else on the inside with three kinds of cheeses or something like that he said :look: It really doesn't matter because 1. it sounds sooo good to me and 2. he offered to cook it, so i'm gonna eat it. :yep:
 
deltadreamland said:
Mark just offered to cook me a little something. Tuesday when he comes to school (that sounds so far away), he's going to bring me a grilled cheese with pepperoni, ham and something else on the inside with three kinds of cheeses or something like that he said :look: It really doesn't matter because 1. it sounds sooo good to me and 2. he offered to cook it, so i'm gonna eat it. :yep:
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Girl I am cheezen for ya!
 
the last jerk I wrote about was a Morehouse man...

just adding some variety to the assumptions :look::lol:

Kidding... he was, though...
Actually, is he a Morehouse man if he only went there for a year (and transferred out)? Maybe not. Carry on:yep:
 
So Match #2 just called me. I'm really surprised. I asked him if he wanted to exchange numbers on our date mostly to see what he'd say since he did nothing but spew facts on our date rather than offer any definite opinions on anything.:ohwell: I let it go to Voicemail because I'm studying and honestly don't feel like dealing with men today.:look:
 
I think Im going to be single forever *le sigh* I think I really need to take a step back from "looking" because the only reasons Im considering relationships is for the wrong reason (well outside of companionship). My top reason is for someone to go half on the bills so I can shop more LOL. SMDH that just makes no sense!
 
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