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MissMasala5 said:
Why four years? Does he work or have health issues that prevented him finishing in two years? If so, maybe cut some slack. If his academics are the reason, then your values are not aligned, so you are within your right to share your concerns. Since you are in med school, doesn't he realize that you are surrounded by potential suitors and it could make it easy for you to start looking elsewhere?




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MissMasala5 No it's not health related. I honestly couldn't tell you what happened the first 3 years because he wasn't even full time. Last year, he went to a school for radio broadcasting, completed that, and now back at CC for business. I will say that he doesn't value education as much as I do because he doesnt believe in kissing butt and conforming. He thinks he can achieve his goals without school, and I don't. School isn't just about formal education. It's also about making connections and meeting people that will take you where you want to go. He disagrees. So he's full-time going into the 2nd year now but I just told him that I expect for him to have his associates by the time I start rotations. Is that too much to ask seriously? And yes he's been working and trying to build his own business, which I think is moving too slow. Maybe I just don't know a thing about being an entrepreneur.
 
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Twinspired said:
I think two years is too long. I went thru something similar in college. Dated guy for 4.5 years. Finished undergrad and went to grad school. He was playing around. As much as I believed in him, tried to help and support he didn't want it for himself. I graduated and moved to Houston. He wanted to come too. I said fine, but I'm not helping get you here. And you know what? He ain't here.

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Twinspired I moved too and he is trying to come down here. I'm definitely not helping and I told him if he moves down here then he needs to be in school.
 
I do feel uncomfortable as a single lady when I see a black man with a unattractive white woman-- especially when he isn't broke and nice-looking.

I'm at Macaroni Grill alone again... This is getting old. Boring... Well it would probably be boring with a man too... I really want to be optimistic- really!

My friend of 11 yrs is still not attractive to me and hasn't signed up for plastic surgery yet. He still calls daily and still lives with his momma.

I'm bored with everything.
 
Was in Chicago for the weekend, I've got to say Chi town men really know how to show ladies a great time! I had a fantastic time! Can't wait to go back again:grin::grin:
 
When I first started coming to this university (predominately white) boy oh boy my soul burned when I saw black guys with the white girls. It was something I'd never seen because the school system I graduated out of was 90% black. Schools I attended were 99% black. But now that it's my senior I couldn't give two fukcs about them. In fact, I think I have a stronger heart because of it. I've learn that the guys who "just date white girls" are not guys that I'd want anyway. I'm very proud of myself for developing this mindset. It sorts out some of the dogs. Yey me!
 
Keshieshimmer, well the gentleman is in grad school and works several part time jobs. I actually know of 4 jobs that he has.

I like dark men. I think they are delicious. However, I can't do a chuby face. Something about him reminds me of the Last King of Scotland...

I guess I am mean and shallow-- I like dating men that are in shape, but not a round one. I think that I can have a nice, saved, man that isn't fat.

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Rather-be-shallow
 
Why are men so annoying at times! This a-hole knew i was on my period and still kept acting a fool and messing with me. hmph! he'd better be glad he got on the grill today and made us some ribs and lanks and such. LOL. Actually, I better be glad he did :lol: :lol:
 
Sooo....after work, I stopped by the store to get some items. Saw a dude, chatted, exchanged numbers. We texted when I got home. I asked him if he was married. He said that he's been "separated" for 13 months. I told him that we can finish conversing after he handles that situation....happy labor day. :lol:
 
My last few experiences with men have made me rethink dating and relationships alltogether. I seem to be a catdaddy magnet:nono:
 
Angelicus said:
Keshieshimmer, well the gentleman is in grad school and works several part time jobs. I actually know of 4 jobs that he has.

I like dark men. I think they are delicious. However, I can't do a chuby face. Something about him reminds me of the Last King of Scotland...

I guess I am mean and shallow-- I like dating men that are in shape, but not a round one. I think that I can have a nice, saved, man that isn't fat.

Signed,

Rather-be-shallow
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Sounds like you and I are in the same boat. I have a friend who is really great but really out of shape. The other day it was beautiful outside and as he walked me to my car he said "can we cut threw the building" my heart sank a whole lot because cutting threw the building would have only saved us a few steps and maybe 30 seconds. I can see now that he is rather lazy.

So I guess you can call me shallow too because I need the sexy.
 
Booked my airfare to go visit my "friend" in October. I think this is gonna be the test to see if we're going to get back together or not. I'm nervous.
 
*SkolarStar* said:
When I first started coming to this university (predominately white) boy oh boy my soul burned when I saw black guys with the white girls. It was something I'd never seen because the school system I graduated out of was 90% black. Schools I attended were 99% black. But now that it's my senior I couldn't give two fukcs about them. In fact, I think I have a stronger heart because of it. I've learn that the guys who "just date white girls" are not guys that I'd want anyway. I'm very proud of myself for developing this mindset. It sorts out some of the dogs. Yey me!
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Do you think that because it was a predominately white school is why the black guys dated white girls, simply because there are more of them?

Angelicus said:
@Keshieshimmer, well the gentleman is in grad school and works several part time jobs. I actually know of 4 jobs that he has.

I like dark men. I think they are delicious. However, I can't do a chuby face. Something about him reminds me of the Last King of Scotland...

I guess I am mean and shallow-- I like dating men that are in shape, but not a round one. I think that I can have a nice, saved, man that isn't fat.

Signed,

Rather-be-shallow
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Not shallow at all, my BFF male is like the best person ever but he is bigger and I am not sexually attracted to him. It kinda makes me sad because I know emotionally he could make me happy. But I treasure our friendship.
 
I really need to stop looking at the pics on his FB page. It's not helping my situation at all. I hope he calls today.
 
She didn't come. Coward. This is the 2nd time she backed out at the last minute. If she is uncomfortable, then she shouldn't be dating his cousin. What is she going to do if she marries into the family?
 
You're going to be here within the hour! I cannot wait to see you and touch you and kiss you.
 
I hope this works out. I'm too lazy to start over with someone else, and I may just take a really long dating break if this falls apart. :ohwell:

In the words of RuPaul, "Don't ufck it up"
 
Yay... he texted me back and he remembers me :yay:

He's a little older than I usually go for, but I remember he was cute and pretty funny. Hecka smart too. Look forward to meeting up with him.....
 
Eharmony is looking up. I will give you guys an overview of the guys later in the week. Keep your fingers crossed for me..........

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KiSseS03 said:
Saturday night C and I went to a mutual friend's place for a bbq, and it was a lot of fun, he was super affectionate and kept telling me how pretty I looked. It was cute, he took a plate up for me while I was talking to the ladies. I was watching/listening to him talking to the other men about politics and such and felt extra attracted to him, I love his nerd swag lol.

Anyway, at the end of the night we sat outside and had a chance to be alone and talk. He was lamenting the fact that he "wasted" years on his first degree, and that had he listened to his parents he'd be already practicing by now. He'd recently had some old friends visit, who are our age and married, and it really got to him, that they are so young yet settled into careers and marriage. I listened to him talk about the plan for next stage of his life, and he confirmed that right now, settling into marriage is not on the horizon, so I finally have a clear cut answer. This isn't going anywhere, and I'd be wise to start distancing myself.....

The athlete comes into town this weekend so that will be a nice distraction, I'm excited to finally meet him.
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Quoting myself because it's crazy how things can change so much in a matter of days.

So last week I went out for dinner with the athlete when he came to town. My goodness, that man is fine... I mean cute in pictures, but in person:lick: just gorgeous! He had a super deep voice, I'm not sure why I thought it would be higher... I guess maybe due to his goofy smile in pictures, but it was low and super sexy, loved it. We had fun and he had me doubled over with laughter for much of dinner. I wouldn't say that there were fireworks or anything; as it was tough since we had limited time due to his schedule, but I'd definitely see him again... if certain circumstances change. He introduced me to a couple of his team mates, and I have my eye on one for my friend.:lol:

Now onto the change. I was willing myself to just leave C alone, after our bbq conversation in which he basically told me that career was his priority, from which I inferred that I'd basically be left in the dust at the end of the year. On top of that he wasn't forthcoming about how he felt about me. Well, I really don't know what came over this man, but a few days ago as a party for our mutual friend was winding down, we ended up alone on a balcony, again having a deep conversation about our dreams for the future, how we want to change the world, where we want to live, how many children we want etc... and out of the blue he tells me, "I'm crazy about you." He didn't stop there, he went on for an hour about how he waited for so long because he wanted to be sure about his feelings, how he wants to be with me forever, how he'd do anything for me, even change his plans.

I was, and still am shocked. His behavior has changed overnight, he's always been super sweet and considerate, but now he's super affectionate in public and with our friends (most of which apparently already knew that he was "crazy" about me, and who were on his case to tell me.) He's been super open about his feelings too, calling to tell me he misses me and he even wrote a poem for me.:blush: We had our most romantic date ever this past Friday, and now his siblings have asked to meet me...

I'm on cloud nine right now... just about ready to hand in my little black book...:yep:
 
Even though I really like you, I could see that we were on two separate pages. For once, I didn't look past the red flags and decided to take the initiative and end it.

I'm proud of myself.
 
Well he didn't call or text the other day. It's probably for the best because I am not in the best place in my life and starting something new just isn't on the agenda. When he finally does try to contact me (if he does at all) I think I will just ignore it. #ohwell
 
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