***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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I want to call but I won't. I know why he is not calling, I was taking care of my mom who just got surgery. But he has called me and texted me to see how I was doing this week. UGH.

I hate that I want to contact him more when I swore up and down that I didn't want to date a man who called me 24/7. I didn't want to talk to a dude everyday. Now I got what I want and look at me.

haha.
 
Ugh. I still keep thinking and dreaming about this man. As much as I want to contact him. That will just undue all my progress. But how much progress have I really made if he's still on my brain?
 
SUPER SWEET said:
nicki6[USER][/USER]
It's his peen. I was just so upset typing all fast....venting

hopeful[USER][/USER] Thank you, our flight was a safe one.I'll continue write in white to give others the option of reading bad stuff.

crlsweetie912[USER][/USER]:nono:I was just disgusted by the excuse he gave for the scabs. And then she disregarded it. But now she's all scared. I bet she'll be with him this weekend......

She said to me the choices she makes with men and sex shouldn't affect our friendship.:perplexed
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SUPER SWEET

Some people you have to love from a distance because they will suck the life out of you. She is definitely fits the bill. She does not love herself AT ALL!

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Why did my Ex's mom call me this morning? So not only did I have to tell both sides of my family about our breakup I had to tell his mother! Every time I think I am getting over it.  I feel like calling him and giving him a piece of my mind.
 
We've only been talking for a few days, but I like you..
Im a little overwhelmed by that..Im also overwhelmed by this email you sent me..
 
SUPER SWEET said:
nicki6[USER][/USER]
It's his peen. I was just so upset typing all fast....venting

hopeful[USER][/USER] Thank you, our flight was a safe one.I'll continue write in white to give others the option of reading bad stuff.

crlsweetie912[USER][/USER]:nono:I was just disgusted by the excuse he gave for the scabs. And then she disregarded it. But now she's all scared. I bet she'll be with him this weekend......

She said to me the choices she makes with men and sex shouldn't affect our friendship.:perplexed
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When I said be safe I'm moreso thinking about the company she keeps now: a pimp and prostitutes. She may be repeating everything you say to him and he may not like your comments. I think you see where I'm going with this. I don't think your friend would intentionally ever cause you harm. When I was in high school I had this friend I kept telling that she deserved better than this jerk of a guy she was seeing. One day at school he cornered me and was angry at me for the things I was saying to her. He didn't harm me but it was still scary. Ever since then I've been careful about what I say to a woman about her man. Just a little food for thought. I hate that your friend is making these terrible choices. The fact that she talks so openly about her escapades shows that she doesn't get it. When she wakes up and realizes what she has done I think she will be devastated. She thought being lonely was bad, but when she wakes up, I think she may become very depressed and need A LOT of help.
 
hopeful said:
When I said be safe I'm moreso thinking about the company she keeps now: a pimp and prostitutes. She may be repeating everything you say to him and he may not like your comments. I think you see where I'm going with this. I don't think your friend would intentionally ever cause you harm. When I was in high school I had this friend I kept telling that she deserved better than this jerk of a guy she was seeing. One day at school he cornered me and was angry at me for the things I was saying to her. He didn't harm me but it was still scary. Ever since then I've been careful about what I say to a woman about her man. Just a little food for thought. I hate that your friend is making these terrible choices. The fact that she talks so openly about her escapades shows that she doesn't get it. When she wakes up and realizes what she has done I think she will be devastated. She thought being lonely was bad, but when she wakes up, I think she may become very depressed and need A LOT of help.
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hopeful[USER][/USER]
You are right. I'm done. The prayers are being said.
I can't and won't expose my home,ears and life to foolishness.
She has been lonely for a long time. And it gets to her when people ask why aren't you married or have kids? Dude really didn't give her the attention she wanted so she's created it.
It hurts to see a good friend act this way. It really does:ohwell: She called and has left 3 voicemails and I refuse to listen. I told her in a nice way that I'm too busy with life to be out in the streets roaming for men. She got offended. And went off about her sexlife and choices of men shouldnt affect us going shopping or hanging out. But really it can......
 
I really want to try online dating but I'm nervous about putting my pic up and accidentally running into people I know irl.

Sometimes I wish I wasn't so shy.
 
Whats past being annoyed?

That's what I am....

Today....yesterday...the day before...the month before...

So yea, whats past annoyed? Because that's what I am.

I guess that's what I get for being too accommodating?

Now I'm second guessing...Hope I'm wrong...hope
 
Softerlove said:
Whats past being annoyed?

That's what I am....

Today....yesterday...the day before...the month before...

So yea, whats past annoyed? Because that's what I am.

I guess that's what I get for being too accommodating?

Now I'm second guessing...Hope I'm wrong...hope
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What's wrong?
 
Softerlove said:
Whats past being annoyed?

That's what I am....

Today....yesterday...the day before...the month before...

So yea, whats past annoyed? Because that's what I am.

I guess that's what I get for being too accommodating?

Now I'm second guessing...Hope I'm wrong...hope
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I'm there too...
 
It's official this break-up has made me stop caring about my looks I been leaving my house looking any kinda of way and I haven't been eating but starting tomorrow I'm gonna get my joy back actually do my hair, go running to ease my pain, & then do some homework (this is my senior year in college break-up couldn't have came at a worst time). I gotta focus on myself I haven't been selfish enough but this is the time where I'm about to be all about me.

Ladies wish me luck :)!!!

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What's wrong?
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frostydoll said:
I'm there too...
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To make a long story short:

1. I feel as though I'm under appreciated
2. I've been in a relationship for almost a year, and were not where I thought we would be
3. He moved our date night...this happens frequently.


Just hit the wall when it comes my relationship...and if I would have been more careful, I could have avoided some of this.

I tell ya, if I knew what I knew now...I don't know...
 
If I was in a better place in life at the moment I wouldn't give a second thought to dating you. Once again bad timing. And he just had to be a darn near perfect physical match. Sooooo frustrated right now.
 
I have a confession. So I live in a majority yt area and I usu just do me and stay in my own little world. Men wise I pretty much am used to nobody really checking for me much out here. So I'm out at dinner (alone as usual) and saw this cute blk dude. His girlfriend approaches and she's looking like a bootleg kim kardashian. Now I'm not much of a "soul burner" (my philosophy is I don't give much thought to stuff like that, u ain't checking for me therfore I'm also not checking for u and in essence u don't exist to me or take up any of my valuable mental energy) but I can't front my soul burned for like a millimeter of a second. Lol.

There. I feel better. Confession is good for the soul. Lol

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I don't want to start a new thread but hopefully one of you will read this and give advice:

Is it wrong for me to put my boyfriend on a timeline? I told him if I don't see any progress (school and/or career wise) within the next two years then things won't be good for us. He's making me feel like the cruelest person in the world for even saying that. I'm in med school, idk what his class standing is but he's still in community college. Has been in community college for the 4 years that we've been together. I'm trying to get married and have kids! I've been believing in him all these years and I still want to believe in him so why was it bad for me to tell him I expect to see progress within the next 2 years? Like I hurt his feelings or something UGH!

ETA: This entire conversation came about because I said "we need to worry about you graduating within the next 4 years" and he said something about life happens and setbacks and I said you shouldn't even be thinking like that. The goal is to finish school within ____ timeframe to which he replied I shouldn't be worried....ugh I don't have time for this I need to study.
 
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I don't want to start a new thread but hopefully one of you will read this and give advice:

Is it wrong for me to put my boyfriend on a timeline? I told him if I don't see any progress (school and/or career wise) within the next two years then things won't be good for us. He's making me feel like the cruelest person in the world for even saying that. I'm in med school, idk what his class standing is but he's still in community college. Has been in community college for the 4 years that we've been together. I'm trying to get married and have kids! I've been believing in him all these years and I still want to believe in him so why was it bad for me to tell him I expect to see progress within the next 2 years? Like I hurt his feelings or something UGH!

ETA: This entire conversation came about because I said "we need to worry about you graduating within the next 4 years" and he said something about life happens and setbacks and I said you shouldn't even be thinking like that. The goal is to finish school within ____ timeframe to which he replied I shouldn't be worried....ugh I don't have time for this I need to study.
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Honey. Once time is gone, it's gone forever. I say put him on a timeline, but maybe others will chime in.

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LaFemmeNaturelle said:
I don't want to start a new thread but hopefully one of you will read this and give advice:

Is it wrong for me to put my boyfriend on a timeline? I told him if I don't see any progress (school and/or career wise) within the next two years then things won't be good for us. He's making me feel like the cruelest person in the world for even saying that. I'm in med school, idk what his class standing is but he's still in community college. Has been in community college for the 4 years that we've been together. I'm trying to get married and have kids! I've been believing in him all these years and I still want to believe in him so why was it bad for me to tell him I expect to see progress within the next 2 years? Like I hurt his feelings or something UGH!

ETA: This entire conversation came about because I said "we need to worry about you graduating within the next 4 years" and he said something about life happens and setbacks and I said you shouldn't even be thinking like that. The goal is to finish school within ____ timeframe to which he replied I shouldn't be worried....ugh I don't have time for this I need to study.
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Why four years? Does he work or have health issues that prevented him finishing in two years? If so, maybe cut some slack. If his academics are the reason, then your values are not aligned, so you are within your right to share your concerns. Since you are in med school, doesn't he realize that you are surrounded by potential suitors and it could make it easy for you to start looking elsewhere?




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LaFemmeNaturelle said:
I don't want to start a new thread but hopefully one of you will read this and give advice:

Is it wrong for me to put my boyfriend on a timeline? I told him if I don't see any progress (school and/or career wise) within the next two years then things won't be good for us. He's making me feel like the cruelest person in the world for even saying that. I'm in med school, idk what his class standing is but he's still in community college. Has been in community college for the 4 years that we've been together. I'm trying to get married and have kids! I've been believing in him all these years and I still want to believe in him so why was it bad for me to tell him I expect to see progress within the next 2 years? Like I hurt his feelings or something UGH!

ETA: This entire conversation came about because I said "we need to worry about you graduating within the next 4 years" and he said something about life happens and setbacks and I said you shouldn't even be thinking like that. The goal is to finish school within ____ timeframe to which he replied I shouldn't be worried....ugh I don't have time for this I need to study.
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I think two years is too long. I went thru something similar in college. Dated guy for 4.5 years. Finished undergrad and went to grad school. He was playing around. As much as I believed in him, tried to help and support he didn't want it for himself. I graduated and moved to Houston. He wanted to come too. I said fine, but I'm not helping get you here. And you know what? He ain't here.

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