Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

Chrismiss said:
I called myself patronizing Kelis's gourmet box business on IG. Ordered one in July and it came in a timely fashion. She had a sale in September on her boxes, so I ordered 2 on 9/13. Kelis ships from the San Fernando Valley and I live an hour east from there. So three weeks later when I had no boxes, I reached out to the company(Bounty and Full). They gave me some flip flam about the boxes were with USPS...ok, give up the tracking then. Radio silence. I give it a week and reach out to PayPal and they open a case but still nothing being done. Ok, so I then take it to my credit union who refunds my money ($226). Why did I suddenly get a shipping notice that night and the boxes arrived the next day? Oh well. Of course when I opened the boxes it was not what I ordered.
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Tacckkyyy!

I finally got my wallet a month after it was supposed to ship. It's cool. I like it. But based off communication I probably won't be a second time customer.
 
Crackers Phinn said:
What a mess! How are them products tho? :look: Everytime I go to Kelis' site everything is sold out but bad service and all I've been curious about her products.
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So, the boxes come with a few of her supposed handcrafted seasonings, usually a sauce or two. The one box I was hyped about was supposed to include a smoked jalepeno salt and it was missing. Another box I got had a ginger cornbread mix, which I was anticipating. They threw a bag of some black rice in one of the boxes, which wasnt even listed as an item for that box. I was supposed to get pineapple grilling sauce but got two honey mustard sauces instead. I think the boxes get listed as sold out for hype and then they offer them a week or so later. Ive tried one of the Bbq sauce and a garlic herb seasoning and they were cool...not $100 bucks cool, but cool. Some of the stuff didn't have labels identifying them, so I don't know what the hell they are, lol!
 
Chrismiss said:
So, the boxes come with a few of her supposed handcrafted seasonings, usually a sauce or two. The one box I was hyped about was supposed to include a smoked jalepeno salt and it was missing. Another box I got had a ginger cornbread mix, which I was anticipating. They threw a bag of some black rice in one of the boxes, which wasnt even listed as an item for that box. I was supposed to get pineapple grilling sauce but got two honey mustard sauces instead. I think the boxes get listed as sold out for hype and then they offer them a week or so later. Ive tried one of the Bbq sauce and a garlic herb seasoning and they were cool...not $100 bucks cool, but cool. Some of the stuff didn't have labels identifying them, so I don't know what the hell they are, lol!
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Now that's just bootleg! I think you may be right about the sold out marketing to generate hype because I have been checking for individual items for 2 years but all that's ever listed is the $200+ boxes. I need to taste test a thing or two before I start throwing lump sums at food. And I'd be heated if I felt I'd sunk some change into this and the box come with all kind of miscellaneous thrown in. Her stuff is too high to be that sloppy.
 
Crackers Phinn said:
Now that's just bootleg! I think you may be right about the sold out marketing to generate hype because I have been checking for individual items for 2 years but all that's ever listed is the $200+ boxes. I need to taste test a thing or two before I start throwing lump sums at food. And I'd be heated if I felt I'd sunk some change into this and the box come with all kind of miscellaneous thrown in. Her stuff is too high to be that sloppy.
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I think she got notification from PayPal that a case was opened and tried to ship me some stuff real quick. What she didn't know was my credit union gave me money back and reversed it to PayPal. By the time she sent me a shipping notification my money was in my account. But judging by the timing, I knew when I saw the shipping notification come through that my order was going to be screwed. One of the boxes only had two of the items it was supposed to have. The rest of the stuff was literally just thrown in. The other box had 3 of the items it was supposed to have. Luckily I screenshot what the boxes were supposed to have in them. There are a few complaints on her Bounty and Full IG page about these shenanigans. One person complained that they ordered in July and still hadn't received their box in Sept.
 
I went to an event and ran into someone I went to high school with. I hadn't seen her since high school, which is
now over 20 years. She screamed "OMG you look exactly the same!" before I even realized she was talking to me. It took only a second for me to remember her too. She looked beautiful. Immediately all the conversations we had back then, we had again. We were asking about each other's families and the same things we knew about each other back then. We both said "what are you doing in LA?" at the same time, it was hilarious. I was really taken aback by how nice it felt to reminisce with someone from my past. We took selfiies together for the rest of the night lol.
 
Chrismiss said:
So, the boxes come with a few of her supposed handcrafted seasonings, usually a sauce or two. The one box I was hyped about was supposed to include a smoked jalepeno salt and it was missing. Another box I got had a ginger cornbread mix, which I was anticipating. They threw a bag of some black rice in one of the boxes, which wasnt even listed as an item for that box. I was supposed to get pineapple grilling sauce but got two honey mustard sauces instead. I think the boxes get listed as sold out for hype and then they offer them a week or so later. Ive tried one of the Bbq sauce and a garlic herb seasoning and they were cool...not $100 bucks cool, but cool. Some of the stuff didn't have labels identifying them, so I don't know what the hell they are, lol!
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Dang I’m sorry to hear this! I’ve ordered a few boxes and everything has arrived timely. I wonder why so inconsistent.
 
I'm starting to realize how self centered one of my friends is (Friend A). A mutual friend of ours (Friend B) was telling me about a grievance Friend A had with her and it's completely outrageous. Not to mention it's around future plans Friend A has that may not come into fruition. Plans that actually probably shouldn't. I'm almost mad for Friend B but she's an adult. She'll either keep her plans or change them as she wants.

Comparison is truly the thief of joy. My goodness.
 
My late mother was an undiagnosed habitual gambler. Her game of choice was lottery tickets. Growing up there were dream books which used numerology to convert the topic of your dreams to lottery numbers all over the house. I also grew up with the notion that if a number "followed you" then you were supposed to play it.

The last week of November 2019, I was reconciling bank accounts and I noticed that several accounts had the number 272 in some way (2,720/42.72/2.72/etc). I thought to myself, what a coincidence, 272 was the first three numbers of the phone number of my parents house, my entire childhood. I ended up getting a rental car that day and the license plate number was 272. A few other things happened involving that number. I called everybody I knew who plays numbers and was like "272 is following me", ya'll might want to play that number. I called my oldest brother who I was estranged from but the number I had was a disconnected line so I yeezy shrugged and called it a day. Less than a week later, I got the call from the coroner that my oldest brother passed away.

Last week, 272 followed me and I was like "pooh". I'm not sure how long it was later my headset which has been known to call random people randomly called my niece at 2AM. She is the daughter of the brother who died last year. She called me back the next morning worried and I told her it was an accident and we talked and she told me she was flying cross country in the middle of a pandemic to be with family and then I remembered 272 which I promptly told her everything that I just tole ya'll. Her response was "well they paid for the nonrefundable ticket, I gotta go but I'ma play 272". I almost offered to pay for her ticket but I know if I sent that money, she still would have went but with my money in her pocket. So I gave her safety advice about traveling and now I'm in the last week of November 2020 hoping that lightning does not strike in the same place twice. I also reached out to the small bus riding, test tube babies that sent the damn ticket and tried to talk sense into them but it fell on death ears.

I feel like this is my late mother trying to intervene through me on behalf of her idiot bloodline but I. Do. Not. want this responsibility. This is nerve racking because it's not just the one niece, it's potentially all of my oldest brothers children who interacted at Thanksgiving. These are people in their late 30's-40's who don't take care of themselves. If one of them or their friends, or my niece brought Covid with her from the airport to the gathering then it's a whole :censored: branch of my family tree gone.

I'll know one way or the other next week.
 
weaveadiva said:
My friend is going through an ugly divorce and their wedding anniversary is coming up. Any ideas on something I can do to cheer her up that day? We are not in the same state.
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Normally I’d suggest a gift card for a day of pampering or something At a spa. Maybe a gift card to her favorite online boutique or store? im sure she will just appreciate that you were thinking about her, whatever you decide on.
 
weaveadiva said:
My friend is going through an ugly divorce and their wedding anniversary is coming up. Any ideas on something I can do to cheer her up that day? We are not in the same state.
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Send her a bottle of champagne and a note saying cheers to you Miss Fabulous!! And a lipstick. Everybody loves new lipstick. Or a mask with cute lpstick lips on it. I have a sign hanging over my bedroom mirror that says "Put On a Little Lipstick, You'll Be Fine." I really believe that :)
 
A particular character played by different performers is starting to pop back up that I’m noticing lately, but I’m handling this character differently. I’m still learning and making mistakes, but not falling for the okie doke this time. Even though I’m in a vulnerable position right now, I’m still working on putting up boundaries. I have to trust the process and continue to move forward.
 
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Why do I always have to tell service people not to sit in the 700 year old chair? It's literally made out of a rock, kept slightly dusty and doesn't look at all comfortable but without fail, if I leave the carpet cleaners, truck drivers, delivery people alone in the lobby, they do not sit in the 7 padded regular looking chairs or sofa, they sit on the friggin cold hard stone chairs that's part of the entryway art. At this rate, the rock chairs might not make it to 800.
 
Crackers Phinn said:
Why do I always have to tell service people not to sit in the 700 year old chair? It's literally made out of a rock, kept slightly dusty and doesn't look at all comfortable but without fail, if I leave the carpet cleaners, truck drivers, delivery people alone in the lobby, they do not sit in the 7 padded regular looking chairs or sofa, they sit on the friggin cold hard stone chairs that's part of the entryway art. At this rate, the rock chairs might not make it to 800.
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Maybe put a little plaque on it, like the kind they use in museums, so that its artwork status is more obvious? But there may be some odd class aspect to it too; do non-service visitors also opt to sit on it?
 
yamilee21 said:
Maybe put a little plaque on it, like the kind they use in museums, so that its artwork status is more obvious? But there may be some odd class aspect to it too; do non-service visitors also opt to sit on it?
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I think you're right about the bolded, non-service visitors never sit on them. It looks both dusty and uncomfortable as pooh and there's literally regular cushioned chairs 3 feet away. If it was sitting outside, I don't think most people would think their clothes would get dirty or torn if they sat on it. It also looks like it would be scratchy and cold which it is.
 
I took a meal over to a family whose husband lost his leg In an accident recently. He’s still battling infection and pain from the injury. He’s a minister with 5 kids and it’s been rough on the family. I left the food under the carport and was walking back to my car when the mom came out and we talked briefly (I had my mask on and we were well over 6 ft apart). It was a good talk. I hope they will be ok.
 
Here's an email I got from a lady in my book club on Friday. Me and this woman are friendly but not friends.

Hello, I am having cataract surgery Tuesday, 12/22 and need to be in the Encino office at 7:30 am. The surgery/pre-op/recovery will take a few hours. I need a driver to take me there and home. The driver I had cancelled because he has to go out of state due to a personal family matter. Any possibility one of you could take me? I have a message to another friend. Still looking for a ride.

My response

I'm sorry. If there were no pandemic, I would have no problem taking the time away from work to help you. I've been very careful since this all started and I just don't feel comfortable being in close contact with anyone for a 40 mile round trip drive. In case other friends are unable to help, check with the medical facility where your surgery is scheduled or your insurance carrier to see if they have or can recommend a medical oriented shuttle service. I was able to find Medical Transportation companies in Yelp with good reviews that I am linking below.

Best Wishes

She has no family in California. She is a social worker and has direct contact with Covid patients. I meant what I said, if there was no pandemic I would take her, wait and bring her back. But there is a pandemic and both of us understand the concept of close contact in a car. It's California cold now, there's no riding on the freeway for 20 miles with the window down and that might not be possible on the way back after she's had her surgery.
 
@Crackers Phinn, you definitely did the right thing. I just read a story a couple weeks ago about a woman who gave her elderly neighbor a ride to the hospital and ended up catching the virus and then passing it on to her entire household. Because of that one kind act, she caught it, her husband died, and her daughter was also infected. The elderly neighbor thought she just had a cold.
 
I took a year off from work and went back late last year. During that time off from work, I cut some people off. I was going through major depression and only wanted family in my life. One of the ones that was cut off was my "sister" friend. She called me a few times at the beginning of my time off but I was so down I didn't want to talk. During that year off her father passed. Back at work she reached out and spoke a couple of times, and I spoke back. Now we just walk past each other like we don't see each other. I'm missing her, our friendship. How do I reach out and apologize?
 
Christmas will be like Thanksgiving. My brother and I video chatting with my mom and stepdad. We cooked for Thanksgiving. And while it wasn't an unbearable amount of work to cook (I've only done Mac and cheese for our much larger extended family) I ordered a meal kit from a local restaurant for Christmas. Grabbed one of their breakfast meals too.

I'm looking forward to it. We can catch up on shows during the day and we'll all watch Wonder Woman together later in the evening.
 
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