Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

Miss_Luna said:
I'm so excited to spend the weekend reading and doing some self-care. Gym, bookstore, apartment weekend. This week, I got some great news and contacted my two best friends that really encouraged me to take a risk and that they would support me, in whatever decision I make.

I've realized that I need to stay away from social media. If I'm going to sit around on my phone, then it needs to be focused on doing something productive. I'm about to move to a country where I don't speak the language very well, so instead of Facebook, I need to sit on Duolingo or reading news in the local language.

I feel really optimistic about the future. Can't wait for this next chapter to begin.
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I love that your self-care involves a bookstore. :2inlove: A woman after my own heart.
 
KammyGirl said:
@MzLady78 @Miss617 Why don't y'all like her. That is one of my biggest fears. Meeting a guy with sisters and they hate me. I always think about that because I already know I have to worry about the mom. LOL
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They have a rocky history. My brother moved back home twice the first time they were together because of her behavior. IIRC, he had to get a restraining order on her at one point (they work at the same place). They ended up getting back together, much to our dismay. Last year, they got into it so bad the 2nd day of their vacation that my brother got arrested and spent the night in jail.

My mother's thing is that my brother is not an angel and is at fault for some of the drama as well. I know he's not totally innocent. But regardless of who's to blame, I don't think they should be together.

Even before all the drama, she never really made an effort to make a good impression. She comes over to my mom's and sits up under him the whole time. I told this story in the singles thread but I remember one time he was standing up against the wall talking to us, I think this may have been during my nephew's birthday party. She goes "babe" and pats the couch next to her for him to come sit down. Like WTF, all the women here are his family, ain't nobody trying to take your man.

So it's definitely not some "nobody's good enough for my brother" type stuff. We don't operate like that. We just don't like her in particular.
 
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^^ Everything she said. And before he finally introduced her to us after however long, they would come over but she would sit in the car and wait for him instead of coming inside. And at my son's party, she didn't speak to anyone besides our brother, our mom and my DH. There was literally no reason for her to be there. She might as well have been a piece of furniture.
 
BrownBetty said:
How would folks feel about a travel buddy thread? Basically you post where you want to go and when. If someone is interested you both make your own arrangements and meet up there.
If you hit it off great if not that is fine also because you have your own space aka room.
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MzLady78 said:
I think this is a great idea. :yep:
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Sounds scary to me. I'd rather travel alone than meet up with someone I didn't really know. But if two of you like the idea I'm sure others will too. Good luck.
 
I am so happy that this thread continues to move along. It's so nice to have a space that doesn't involve men and romance. We all have so many other things going on and relationships that are fulfilling, dynamic, sometimes frustrating, but have nothing to do with romance. I think that the more we tend to those other things the happier we will all be. Every aspect of our lives needs care, attention, our energy, and appreciation.
 
KammyGirl said:
If the relationship was new I would blame this on awkwardness but she sounds rude as hell! And I would feel the same after hearing all that.
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My DH is kind of like our mom in the sense that he feels our brother made his decision and obviously won't change his mind. I mean, he is our brother and stubbornness is a family trait sooooo... But as much as I hate to admit it, he's right. And because I love my brother more than I dislike her, I probably should just suck it up.

But I will cut a b***h if she pulls some ish like she did last year again.
 
This reminds me my sis and I are going to see Wicked in 2 weeks! So excited and I'm making reservations at a New Orleans place I think she'll like. Can't wait. She better not get on my nerves before then. :lol:

Miss617 said:
Anyway. I'm super happy because @MzLady78 and I went to see Beauty and the Beast with our mom last week and we're going to see Earth Wind and Fire in August. :yay: The last time we saw them was like... four years ago, I think?
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KammyGirl said:
Your best friend didn't share that she wrote a book? That's exciting news. Why do you think she hasn't mentioned it especially since she's put it on Facebook and presumably knows you don't follow her anymore.
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She doesn't know that I unfollowed her. It wasn't a bad thing when I did it. She posts alot, and her posts aren't always my cup of tea. So I check her profile when I'm good and ready to see what's going on over there (once every 2 weeks). However, I do not rely on FB to know how people are doing in real life, I also don't post much.

The book thing was only one example of why I don't think she values me. It was just the last straw. There's the possibility that she assumes that everyone who knows her knows to find all of her business on there. But I take issue with this. 18 years of friendship and I have to find out your milestones through social media? We're too old for that :nono:
 
SurferBabe said:
Ok y'all. I'm going to try this Bumble BFF app to find some female friends nearby. I'll report back on how it goes. Have any of you tried this and had luck?
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Well there weren't many options in my city. Most of the ladies on there were white and looked like some backstabbing, sabotaging, Trump-supporting heffas so back to the drawing board.

I think I'm going to start working on throwing events for people looking to build platonic friendships. This will start locally. Meetup just isn't quite there yet for smaller metro areas.
 
It has been about 7 months since I moved back to Georgia after living in Delaware for almost four years. In the last few weeks I have been actually been making an effort to connect with women in the area by going to events or meet ups. It feels good because it is important to have a sisterhood.

My relationships have definitely shifted in the last year. I have made a lot of changes internally and a lot of relationships have changed or faded. I am learning that it is ok to see that the relationship has changed and that it has served it purpose and I can let go. Getting married and just experiencing growth showed me how people's true colors come to the forefront.
 
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