Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

This week has been emotionally draining.

It is a gift and a curse to be extremely passionate about something and then struggle to see your vision come to life. The struggle forces you to grow, but it is so painful.
It's also been extremely exhausting to deal with all of this alone, and on your period!!! I don't even know how to feel right now, but I hope that one day I can look back on this and say it was worth it, or at least say that I grew from this.

On Saturday night/Sunday morning I will have time to cry and finally release all of it.
 
So, at work, its like pulling teeth to get things replaced or repaired. We were moved and went from central air to wall ac's :rolleyes: Fine. Whatever. So the one above me and one to right were not really good. Mine was blowing out hot hair and the other one was a life-lung hazard.

Saturday, I was at work and was talking to the IT guy (who insisted I was in charge) and was nice and giggly with him. The other guy installing the wall mount for a new TV was nice, so of course I was nice and using my little girl voice :drunk: Tuesday, I was out of the office, so the girl next to me complained about our AC. She said to give us a new one. :look: Ok. So yesterday, the same guy came for the AC's. He took the one to the right out of the wall (they are above our heads) and replaced it with a refurbished one :spinning: Then, he came over to my desk. Yall know the girl voice was in full effect :oops: and he said "yours is the one blowing out hot air?" I replied yes. He said "Im going to find you a new AC". I figured I was getting a refurbished one too, because he already did that. . Nope, got a brand new model fresh off the lot. He left for a good minute too. Everyone was upset.

So, one guy said it was because I was "giggling" and he was impressed with it :lachen: The guy he complained too was mum because he was directly affect by the old AC and the hot air. The girl who sits next to me told him straight up "Go get some boobs" :lachen:

I left them to sit under my new AC, which is pretty, sleek and hums. Oh. And I acted like one of the models from the Price is Right showing off the LED display on the remote for the AC :D.
 
Miss_Luna said:
This week has been emotionally draining.

It is a gift and a curse to be extremely passionate about something and then struggle to see your vision come to life. The struggle forces you to grow, but it is so painful.
It's also been extremely exhausting to deal with all of this alone, and on your period!!! I don't even know how to feel right now, but I hope that one day I can look back on this and say it was worth it, or at least say that I grew from this.

On Saturday night/Sunday morning I will have time to cry and finally release all of it.
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Browndilocks said:
I'm sorry @ArrrBeee . I have a few older friends too. You're in my thoughts.
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Leeda.the.Paladin said:
@ArrrBeee im so sorry about your friend. That’s wonderful that you had her in your life for the time that you did but I know it must really hurt.
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Thanks ladies. I'm feeling better today. I decided last year to be more intentional about spending time with her so I'm really grateful for that.

@Miss_Luna I hope that you get a chance to unwind this weekend.
 
Have a good weekend ladies.

Thank you to everyone for the well wishes. Someone that I really admire also reminded me today that failing does not mean you're a failure; just that you tried something great and didn't get the results you wanted.

I've also realized that I put too much value on the opinion of someone that I don't respect. It's quite easy for someone that has never taken any great risk to judge you for something that they would never do. Being a double-minority, in a male-dominated field, based in Asia...it's like I stacked all the chips against me. Technically, I haven't failed, but I tried to force myself to be comfortable in a space that I'm overqualified for, just to prove a point, which was a waste of my time. Once I cracked into this space I've realized it was full of BS.

But I'm moving on, going to have some sake tonight and enjoy my life.

I really <3 you ladies!
 
Things are a bit better. I have a job. I identified a good portion of what was bothering me. I've stayed consistent with journaling and exercising, it is helping immensely. I'm no longer drowning, treading water now.
Thanks ladies for being a listening ear. It is hard for friends to understand when everyone views you as strong.
 
Not sure if this belongs here. But a few years back randomly in a thread I mentioned my home girl had married and imported this Jamaican man. I got a lot of she in danger girls from here and elsewhere. Plus my own spidey senses were telling me this was not it. But I truly hoped and prayed for the best. Fast forward almost 4 years and Y’all when I tell you it’s a big hot steaming mess. But, she’s someone whose prideful and feels like since I’m not married she prefers to put up a front like it’s marital bliss. But I’m learning to love and leave it. I don’t need to counsel nobody, and I can’t get wrapped up in other folks stuff. People gonna do people to their detriment or benefit and I will love ya through and after but I don’t need to be in the weeds with you.
 
hopeful said:
@ScorpioBeauty09 what can you do? You deserve to be happy, have an SO, and a relationship with them too. Hopefully things works out and they adjust.
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Thank you. I've been trying to balance all my relationships (not easy) and I feel like the burden is all on me. If I don't reach out, they say I'm isolating and only focusing on SO, but if I do reach out and try to spend time with them, they say how busy they are. I can't win.

The frustrating part is if the situation was reversed, if either of them were in a LTR and I had a difficult time with it, I'd be expected to put it aside and be supportive. At least that's how I feel. I know I'd be feeling it too since I'm the oldest.
 
Pet peeve: In a group chat, people asking the same questions that have already been answered already! Ugh! Just scroll tf up! I refuse to answer those questions.

Or asking me info that they can easily look up themselves...like what time an event starts even though they have their ticket and it clearly says the time on the ticket. :angry2: :arguing:

(My period is due to start in 2 days :laugh:)
 
Supposed to go on a group holiday on Thurs, but still on the fence. I've paid the flight, new passport and everything.

I know the bride to be very well but the others I've met once. They all know each other well.

Just for a party, night is fine for me if I don't know people well, but I just feel a little differently about a holiday and the group size. I've told her how I've been feeling and she said she understands.
 
So, my appearance at work is pretty modest. Ive been working on wearing more makeup, adding in color and wearing skirts/dresses. Stuff that I have but am slow to use. So, I see the executive director (i see her everyday but barely say anything to her outside of hi and have a good night) but were cool. She respects my work. Fine. A few weeks ago, one of the directors went on vacation, so I worked overtime for him 3 Saturdays. This past Saturday, I did not work :look: and within just 3 weeks, it as very obvious. Mind you, the person that always works on Saturdays was here and was complained about. Ok. Today, I am in the bathroom and guess who I run into? ED. She asked if I worked the past Saturday, because it was a disaster. I told her no. Now, I am being offered overtime whenever I want because when I work, I always do a great job and never have problems.

Im blaming it on being cute :lachen:Let me go make my money now :lachen:
 
I just started watching my 600-lb Life on Hulu and I've been texting and calling my sister all day after every surprising thing. She's getting tired of me but I can't help myself :laugh: This show is a trip. I texted her just now and said I am never eating again and she sent me a picture of oxtails she just cooked. :laugh:
 
LdyKamz said:
I just started watching my 600-lb Life on Hulu and I've been texting and calling my sister all day after every surprising thing. She's getting tired of me but I can't help myself :laugh: This show is a trip. I texted her just now and said I am never eating again and she sent me a picture of oxtails she just cooked. :laugh:
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Let me go commit myself to a few episodes. After that episode with the sisters crying because they found out their brother had another life. Maybe it was hoarders. Idk. I just need to see a few episodes so I can join these conversations :laugh:
 
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