Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread
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firecracker
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Lmbo girl I doubt if they will help. It's a weekend jazz festival. 2 nights of hell if I go thru with it.how long is the girls trip? Get some ear plugs.
shespoison
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Sleeping pills and earplugs. You won't hear a thing!
BrownBetty
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She needs her own room. I went away with my cousin and she mentioned she snored whilst on the trip. She kept me up the whole weekend. I told her never again.
I went away for a overnight stay to see a concert with a friend. I had no idea she snored like a rhino!5 of us have a girls weekend trip planned but errah because she snores I don't know if I want her to come now. I invited two friends and she is one of them.
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BrownBetty
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This chick sent me a 3 line email a year + later. No apology, no acknowledgement of wrong doing on her end. I planned on responding with all the things I wanted to say last year.
I didn't even start to type the response and was over it. I didn't respond and don't plan to.
I didn't even start to type the response and was over it. I didn't respond and don't plan to.
firecracker
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Uh I doubt if that trip is going down. I just cannot go through all of that.
oneastrocurlie
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Preggo friend's baby shower I was helping to plan went well. There was definitely a few head scratching and wth moments during planning and the shower. However I have zero desire to ever plan anything with that group of friends (or for that friend) again lol. Folks can sure be picky and/or high strung.
Anywho, Preggo friend keeps mentioning taking a girl's trip before the year is up. I keep thinking "you sure about that?". She'll have a whole 6 month old baby by the end of the year.
My brother has been staying with me for about a year and a half now. I know he's semi actively looking for a place and I'd sure miss the rent money but ready to have my condo back to myself a little bit.
Anywho, Preggo friend keeps mentioning taking a girl's trip before the year is up. I keep thinking "you sure about that?". She'll have a whole 6 month old baby by the end of the year.
My brother has been staying with me for about a year and a half now. I know he's semi actively looking for a place and I'd sure miss the rent money but ready to have my condo back to myself a little bit.
I am having a hard time respecting my own boundaries lately. First thing that made me take notice was I am finding it difficult to tell all my gym buddies that them accompanying me to the gym is going to be an occasional treat and not a regular thing. Everyday I have someone texting asking me if I want to go to the gym...because they want to go and use my membership. If I want to, I say yes but several times I've said no and I'm noticing I'm getting push back now. One person said I was a "bad accountability partner" and I'll "never make progress" because I don't go with them often enough. I was reading the text like how are you trying to manipulate me into bringing you to my gym and then expecting me to do it after this. Most of us have been so brainwashed to think that saying no is unkind when what this person is doing to me is really the unkind thing. And the worst part about it is they think it's okay and they aren't doing anything wrong but if I say that and stand firm I'm the bad guy. I just don't want to do it anymore. I like working out at home and going to the gym at leisure whenever I feel like it.
The second thing is I have a friend that has been exhausting me. We brunch regularly and hang out a lot. And she's not terrible but all we do is talk about work and boys. Both of which are boring as hell to me after a while. We work in the same field and used to work together. We are of that age where everyone around us is getting married so yeah I get that these topics are going to be common themes in our conversations. But it's like we're on a tightrope between work colleagues and relationship therapist/patient with nothing in between.
It could be that I'm just PMSing but I'm fed up with both of these problems.
The second thing is I have a friend that has been exhausting me. We brunch regularly and hang out a lot. And she's not terrible but all we do is talk about work and boys. Both of which are boring as hell to me after a while. We work in the same field and used to work together. We are of that age where everyone around us is getting married so yeah I get that these topics are going to be common themes in our conversations. But it's like we're on a tightrope between work colleagues and relationship therapist/patient with nothing in between.
It could be that I'm just PMSing but I'm fed up with both of these problems.
hopeful
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@LdyKamz I was talking to a therapist earlier today and I was watching a YouTube video this weekend that talked about how when we set a boundary it is for our benefit and our happiness and that we should expect pushback because people in general are selfish. We care about our happiness and they care about theirs. I completely understand how it would feel frustrating when people try to make something that is a pleasure for you and something you pay for become a burden. If they want a gym membership so badly then they can get their own — simple. If they don’t have the money — not your problem. If they prefer to piggyback on yours — not your problem. No need to explain yourself/ apologize for wanting to use your membership at your leisure. And no need to get angry with them either. Do what makes you happy and is best for you 
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Browndilocks
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I have a really good friend who is like an auntie that has been diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. When she first got the diagnosis, I had in my mind how much I was going to be there for her and see her almost every day. She has since turned into an evil combative witch and I can no longer bare to be around her. It’s bad. She has her husband and her children are grown, same age as me, and at this point they are just going to have to figure it out.
The doctor inserted a port inside of her so that she can get round the clock chemo while she’s at home. It looks like a little purse that she carries on her shoulder. One night she called and said she just needed to get away and she wanted to chill at my house. I was standing outside of my front door when her husband dropped her off. She waited until he drove away then proceeded to pull out a cigarette and smoke it while she was wearing her chemo bag. Yes – she is on active chemo therapy and still smoking cigarettes. When I saw her do that I guess I couldn’t hide the shock on my face. She got mad and said “I don’t $ukk!n need you judging me” and proceeded to smoke. That’s just one story yall. I can deal with being around a sick person but I can’t deal with the evil. I’m exhausted and I’ve started ignoring her calls.
The doctor inserted a port inside of her so that she can get round the clock chemo while she’s at home. It looks like a little purse that she carries on her shoulder. One night she called and said she just needed to get away and she wanted to chill at my house. I was standing outside of my front door when her husband dropped her off. She waited until he drove away then proceeded to pull out a cigarette and smoke it while she was wearing her chemo bag. Yes – she is on active chemo therapy and still smoking cigarettes. When I saw her do that I guess I couldn’t hide the shock on my face. She got mad and said “I don’t $ukk!n need you judging me” and proceeded to smoke. That’s just one story yall. I can deal with being around a sick person but I can’t deal with the evil. I’m exhausted and I’ve started ignoring her calls.
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
Repost: Cuz I know everybody don't go in the Meghan thread.
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
RUBY
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Repost: Cuz I know everybody don't go in the Meghan thread.
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
You must be ok with it? Where do you keep them at work? Aren't you afraid they may get damaged?
I would not be happy with people using my mugs. In fact that's a big no no with me.
oneastrocurlie
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Repost: Cuz I know everybody don't go in the Meghan thread.
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
Using someone else's mug is weeeiirrdddd.
People are just strange. And when you ask someone why they would do that they have no answer for you. Time to lock them up. I have never and will never use a coffee mug in the cabinet in my office. At best they are there for decoration and at worst someone else is sipping and slurping out of it everyday. *shudders* no thank you!Repost: Cuz I know everybody don't go in the Meghan thread.
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
firecracker
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I went away for the weekend. I had a great time seeing a couple of friends and hanging out with them. I didn't enjoy my time with my associate that shared a room with me.
It was a trip I had already booked and paid for before the associate asked could she go. I agreed that she could go and that we would pay half on the room and lyft rides. Well she showed her behind from start to finish. First she complained about supposedly leaving her debit card in her car at home, the prices at restaurants, didn't want to tip, said insulting ish that she apologized for afterwards, wanted to borrow my edge control, didn't want to pay her portion of the lyft, wanted to drink my wine instead of buying her own, got mad I didn't give her my inhaler, slammed my friend car doors because she was mad about the inhaler and the last straw was going in my purse when I was out the room.
The next morning she got up and said its a new day let's just get passed everything. She then proceeded to ask me why I wasn't talking to her repeatedly like a toddler would do. I didn't say a word to her ass from that point on because she had already told me she says and does things to me to get a rise out of me in hopes I will curse her out. Well she got a rise alright. I evicted her from the room the last day/night of the trip. She realized she was going to have to get a room so she tried to apologize again via text and tried to use her abusive childhood as the reason she acts the way she acts at 54. I was no longer accepting her apologies or behavior. I blocked her on my phone because she was blowing that up. I saw her ass at the airport the next day and kept it moving. That association is dead. I don't play childish games with immature adults.
I've never been through anything like that in my life. I'm too old to be opening cans of whoop ass on folks especially out of town. Ain't nobody trying to go to jail. I just had to get that off my chest.
It was a trip I had already booked and paid for before the associate asked could she go. I agreed that she could go and that we would pay half on the room and lyft rides. Well she showed her behind from start to finish. First she complained about supposedly leaving her debit card in her car at home, the prices at restaurants, didn't want to tip, said insulting ish that she apologized for afterwards, wanted to borrow my edge control, didn't want to pay her portion of the lyft, wanted to drink my wine instead of buying her own, got mad I didn't give her my inhaler, slammed my friend car doors because she was mad about the inhaler and the last straw was going in my purse when I was out the room.
The next morning she got up and said its a new day let's just get passed everything. She then proceeded to ask me why I wasn't talking to her repeatedly like a toddler would do. I didn't say a word to her ass from that point on because she had already told me she says and does things to me to get a rise out of me in hopes I will curse her out. Well she got a rise alright. I evicted her from the room the last day/night of the trip. She realized she was going to have to get a room so she tried to apologize again via text and tried to use her abusive childhood as the reason she acts the way she acts at 54. I was no longer accepting her apologies or behavior. I blocked her on my phone because she was blowing that up. I saw her ass at the airport the next day and kept it moving. That association is dead. I don't play childish games with immature adults.
I've never been through anything like that in my life. I'm too old to be opening cans of whoop ass on folks especially out of town. Ain't nobody trying to go to jail. I just had to get that off my chest.
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PrissiSippi
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Awww where did you get these cute mugs from?Repost: Cuz I know everybody don't go in the Meghan thread.
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I'm just going to put this here instead of making a Crackers Crumbs. I don't go into the office every day but when I do, quite often, I find my Duchess Meghan coffee mugs in the dishwasher. We have a full stock of company logo mugs, disposable coffee cups and people are free to bring in their own mugs (and do) but without fail, if I'm not around somebody using my mugs.
Booo You Duchess Mug Usurping Whores!
PrissiSippi
Simply Komplex
LOL Yaaaaaas at evicting her from your room. Protect your peace at ALL costs.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
I must be okay with it? How Sway? I explained it’s a whole bunch of alternatives for folks aside from using something that doesn’t belong to them including.
oneastrocurlie
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Wooo. I'd guess 14. Maybe 24. But 54?? Nah.
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
Etsy the royal duchess club
firecracker
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Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
WOW! She tried it from every angle she could think of. Borrowing edge control, sis? Maynnnnn Whooooooo!
Damaris.Elle
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Oh HELL no!
LostInAdream
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IKR?? My mom stay coming in my bathroom looking for mine. After hiding it under my bedWhat is it with the edge control though? Why are we so overprotective of it? My sister tried to use mine once and I snatched it so fast and plopped that jar of eco styler in front of her like use that, never this!
she got the hint to get her own. I bought DD her own as well
LostInAdream
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You are a saint!!! I would’ve left her ssa after she accidentally left her card. That was a premonition of things to come.
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
I promise that this is not coming from a place of smug married but there is a certain type of middle aged woman who acts like her friends need to fill in financially where either her man or lack of man ain't contributing. The only way you go on a whole vacation without your debit card is if you feel like somebody else should foot the bill for you and be happy to do it.
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
Since it technically goes on your face as well as hair it's almost like somebody asking to use your foundation or worse your chapstick.What is it with the edge control though? Why are we so overprotective of it? My sister tried to use mine once and I snatched it so fast and plopped that jar of eco styler in front of her like use that, never this!
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