Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

[hopeful]

dag... I'd leave too where the social ties are more stable but my dd needs her father so... 7 more years. yes I'm counting down.

what state you going to?


Aww thanks... truth be told she doing better than me. it' like I've been chopping onions all day

Sent you a PM.

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

dag... I'd leave too where the social ties are more stable but my dd needs her father so... 7 more years. yes I'm counting down.

what state you going to?


Aww thanks... truth be told she doing better than me. it' like I've been chopping onions all day

Cali cost of living is no joke. I’m in a sweet spot career wise though so I’m hanging in there. And it’s a beautiful place so I’m trying to take advantage of access to all that we have here.

 

[caribeandiva]

I sent handwritten cards to my family and friends when they weren’t expecting it. I got the idea from the That Girl 2018 thread. I told them how much I love and appreciate them. The results are phenomenal! I’m gonna keep doing it when they least expect it.

 

[qchelle]

I took my BFF to her first experience at an iPic theatre and she's was in heaven.

I have not had too good of time lately, but I wanted to get out of my head and do something nice for someone else.

We had such a good time, saw the movie she's been dying to see (Shape of Water) had this amazing wine (Sancerre Beau Roy) and delicious food at city perch. iPic theatres are my favorite even though I go to Cinemark most normal movie visits.

All in all, I was reminded how the spirit of Sisterhood can brighten even the darkest day.

That was so nice of you! iPic is the bomb!

 

[qchelle]

Right! Life is so much bigger than that. So many opportunities for joy and happiness that have nothing to do with men.

I would say most opportunities for joy and happiness have nothing to do with men

 

[qchelle]

I sent handwritten cards to my family and friends when they weren’t expecting it. I got the idea from the That Girl 2018 thread. I told them how much I love and appreciate them. The results are phenomenal! I’m gonna keep doing it when they least expect it.

I was thinking of doing this a few months ago. I was in the store and was walking through the cards aisle and came across thank you cards and thought it would be a nice, random thing to do for my family and friends. Then I saw the price of the thank you cards....then I thought about how much my family and friends annoy the crap outta me......then I decided against it

 

[qchelle]

I'm getting weave next week! Haven't had a sew in since 2008. It's a 3c/4a texture (unfortunately, not from a black owned company like I wanted to order from, but I'm just not spending almost $200 on one bundle of hair....for a style that I haven't worn in 10yrs..and may not even like). But! Reniece's salon is doing the install and maintenance!

Anyway, I'm excited!! I realllly hope I like it. I want to dye it like ombre (it's called ombre when it goes from dark to blonde, right?). Then, eventually I want to do purple highlights.

 

[hopeful]

I would say most opportunities for joy and happiness have nothing to do with men

Agreed!

 

[hopeful]

I'm getting weave next week! Haven't had a sew in since 2008. It's a 3c/4a texture (unfortunately, not from a black owned company like I wanted to order from, but I'm just not spending almost $200 on one bundle of hair....for a style that I haven't worn in 10yrs..and may not even like). But! Reniece's salon is doing the install and maintenance!

Anyway, I'm excited!! I realllly hope I like it. I want to dye it like ombre (it's called ombre when it goes from dark to blonde, right?). Then, eventually I want to do purple highlights.

How fun! Sounds pretty qchelle. Hope it turns out how you want!

 

[intellectualuva]

I'm getting weave next week! Haven't had a sew in since 2008. It's a 3c/4a texture (unfortunately, not from a black owned company like I wanted to order from, but I'm just not spending almost $200 on one bundle of hair....for a style that I haven't worn in 10yrs..and may not even like). But! Reniece's salon is doing the install and maintenance!

Anyway, I'm excited!! I realllly hope I like it. I want to dye it like ombre (it's called ombre when it goes from dark to blonde, right?). Then, eventually I want to do purple highlights.

I miss going to that salon. Hope you're pleased!!

 

[LdyKamz]

My new position is not all I hoped. The firm is nice, my boss is great. The staff? Unprofessional is the word I will use. And the quarters are too close for this nonsense. There is another new person starting next month and not sure how she'll fit in.

 

[caribeandiva]

I was thinking of doing this a few months ago. I was in the store and was walking through the cards aisle and came across thank you cards and thought it would be a nice, random thing to do for my family and friends. Then I saw the price of the thank you cards....then I thought about how much my family and friends annoy the crap outta me......then I decided against it

The dollar tree has nice cards there too...

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

I was thinking of doing this a few months ago. I was in the store and was walking through the cards aisle and came across thank you cards and thought it would be a nice, random thing to do for my family and friends. Then I saw the price of the thank you cards....then I thought about how much my family and friends annoy the crap outta me......then I decided against it

Michael's, TJ Maxx, Marshall's, etc all have thank you cards on clearance all the time. I have a bunch just in case LOL

 

[TinyBlu]

Back from my girls trip (and back eating right again), but I'm SO thankful for the opportunity. I haven't been anywhere in 3 years since I started caring for my elderly father. I moved him to an Assisted Living Facility and, though I didn't realize it at the time, inwardly punished myself for not being able to keep him in my home. As a result, I essentially cut myself off from everything. Though this wasn't ridiculously painful since I'm an introvert, I didn't see the rut I'd fallen into until I climbed out of it.

If anything, I learned that it is completely OK to take time away and recharge, and I now have "the bug" again to travel. Knowing that Dad is taken care of without me monitoring every single aspect of his care gives me the freedom to get back to the things I enjoy. Heading to Aruba this summer!

 

[crlsweetie912]

The dollar tree has nice cards there too...

I have so many thank you cards from there! I use them for work and they are bomb. It would be nice to have some higher quality ones too.
My family ain't getting jack though.
I need to have some adult fun. Work has been hellish. I'm waiting on something big to come through and it seems like it's taking FOREVER and driving me nuts! I've been cooped up for so long and need to just get out shake my tail and enjoy myself.

 

[hopeful]

...
I've been cooped up for so long and need to just get out shake my tail and enjoy myself.

Yes! Do it! Shake your tail feather! You deserve to have fun and to focus on your pretty self.

 

[caribeandiva]

I have so many thank you cards from there! I use them for work and they are bomb. It would be nice to have some higher quality ones too.
My family ain't getting jack though.
I need to have some adult fun. Work has been hellish. I'm waiting on something big to come through and it seems like it's taking FOREVER and driving me nuts! I've been cooped up for so long and need to just get out shake my tail and enjoy myself.

To you: cheers!

 

[crlsweetie912]

Yes! Do it! Shake your tail feather! You deserve to have fun and to focus on your pretty self.

Aww thank you sis @hopeful

To you: cheers!

 

[LdyKamz]

So I posted this in the career section but I'm adding stuff that I think is more appropriate for this thread.

So this dream job is not what I expected and I am so disappointed. It technically is my dream job. Area of law I want - check. Successful attorney who is also a decent human being to work under - check. Finally getting into the real work that I want to do - check. Staff and office support/policies and procedures - NEGATIVE!!! I feel like the wool has been pulled over my eyes. I have been here a few days and I am actually contemplating going to lunch and not coming back. In the first few days I am already sure that I will spend less time doing what I am meant to be doing and more time doing daily, banal, mindless office tasks. There are some specifics to this that I'll probably share later but the basic idea is...I've been lied to.

I was so nervous and anxious about this job - unusually so even for me and I wondered why. I'm talking stomach in knots, hands and knees shaking, stuttering whenever I think about this place nervous. lol I thought it was because I figured I had finally landed something I thought would catapult me to where I wanted to be professionally and was understandably concerned about making a good impression. I also imagined that after getting the first day over with and meeting everyone I would feel more comfortable. Not so. The second day I was less nervous but strangely even more anxious than the day before. What the heck, right?

So I spoke to my mother and sister about it (giving them the bare bones not wanting them to worry about me) hoping they would calm me down and get me in the right head space. They both said perhaps my gut was telling me something and I chalked it up to nerves instead of recognizing it for what it was. When I spoke with my sister I did confide in her that my anxiety level increased like 1000% in one day and although it is normal to be nervous during the first couple weeks in a new job this isn't that but I can't put my finger on it. That's when she said the stuff about my gut and that I need to think long and hard about what I want and decide before I end up stuck in a job I thought I would love but actually hate. She's right. But I have no idea what to do.

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

I miss having a group of close female friends to hang out with on the weekends or talk to on the phone during the week.
I'm part of a few meetups and they're cool, but it's not the same....

 

[MzLady78]

Typing this on my flight to Mexico with my sis for my birthday (tomorrow).

Last night, I had dinner with 3 of my cousins and my good guy friend. Got $100 in spending money, which was really nice. I’ve been looking forward to this trip for like 3 years, so happy it’s finally here!

 

[caribeandiva]

Typing this on my flight to Mexico with my sis for my birthday (tomorrow).

Last night, I had dinner with 3 of my cousins and my good guy friend. Got $100 in spending money, which was really nice. I’ve been looking forward to this trip for like 3 years, so happy it’s finally here!

Have fun in Mejico!! Stay off the burros!

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

Typing this on my flight to Mexico with my sis for my birthday (tomorrow).

Last night, I had dinner with 3 of my cousins and my good guy friend. Got $100 in spending money, which was really nice. I’ve been looking forward to this trip for like 3 years, so happy it’s finally here!

Enjoy!!!

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

Got up and took DS to the park. The place we went to is geared more towards older kids or at least a bit bigger than him (he’s almost 14 mos). He wasn’t deterred, he ran around underneath the jungle gyms which are perfect height for him, terrible height for me. I’m sore as heck but the weather is so gorgeous today I couldn’t not get out there. Hopefully I can start getting in my hikes again.

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

So I posted this in the career section but I'm adding stuff that I think is more appropriate for this thread.

So this dream job is not what I expected and I am so disappointed. It technically is my dream job. Area of law I want - check. Successful attorney who is also a decent human being to work under - check. Finally getting into the real work that I want to do - check. Staff and office support/policies and procedures - NEGATIVE!!! I feel like the wool has been pulled over my eyes. I have been here a few days and I am actually contemplating going to lunch and not coming back. In the first few days I am already sure that I will spend less time doing what I am meant to be doing and more time doing daily, banal, mindless office tasks. There are some specifics to this that I'll probably share later but the basic idea is...I've been lied to.

I was so nervous and anxious about this job - unusually so even for me and I wondered why. I'm talking stomach in knots, hands and knees shaking, stuttering whenever I think about this place nervous. lol I thought it was because I figured I had finally landed something I thought would catapult me to where I wanted to be professionally and was understandably concerned about making a good impression. I also imagined that after getting the first day over with and meeting everyone I would feel more comfortable. Not so. The second day I was less nervous but strangely even more anxious than the day before. What the heck, right?

So I spoke to my mother and sister about it (giving them the bare bones not wanting them to worry about me) hoping they would calm me down and get me in the right head space. They both said perhaps my gut was telling me something and I chalked it up to nerves instead of recognizing it for what it was. When I spoke with my sister I did confide in her that my anxiety level increased like 1000% in one day and although it is normal to be nervous during the first couple weeks in a new job this isn't that but I can't put my finger on it. That's when she said the stuff about my gut and that I need to think long and hard about what I want and decide before I end up stuck in a job I thought I would love but actually hate. She's right. But I have no idea what to do.

Trust your gut, start working on a plan b just in case

 

[LdyKamz]

Typing this on my flight to Mexico with my sis for my birthday (tomorrow).

Last night, I had dinner with 3 of my cousins and my good guy friend. Got $100 in spending money, which was really nice. I’ve been looking forward to this trip for like 3 years, so happy it’s finally here!

Happy Birthday!!! You and sis have a great time!

 

[mz.rae]

I feel like me and my best friend’s friendship is back on track. When she was dating that girl our friendship always felt tense and I don’t even know why.

Anyways I really want to get back out there, I feel like last year around this time I was doing much more. This year I want to go to concerts, sips and paints, and I want to travel a lot. I’m going to be living out the saying: Catch flights and not feelings!

 

[caribeandiva]

I’m going to be living out the saying: Catch flights and not feelings!

I’m gonna make that one of my mottos! I love it and I agree with it. Traveling does something for the soul that few things in life can.

 

[sarumoki]

I keep getting the feeling that I need to distance myself from my best friend and it's making me really sad because I don't make friends easily in the first place.

 

[hopeful]

I keep getting the feeling that I need to distance myself from my best friend and it's making me really sad because I don't make friends easily in the first place.

You have got to figure out how to make friends more easily. Everyone needs friends for companionship and fun. You don’t want to feel like you need to hold onto friends because you don’t make them easily. That will make you vulnerable to accepting mistreatment. Gotta love your own company and be able to find and make friends.