Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

LovelyRo said:
My girl has a child that is dealing with some medical issues. Now, she is a self-proclaimed drama queen. But, all things considered, I get it. So.... she says out of all of our children (8 between all of us), why does hers have to have medical issues. That rubbed me the wrong way.
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Really? As opposed to what? It being one of your children? I'm sure she didn't mean that and was thinking more of "why me?" out loud. But still. Some people really don't think before they speak.
 
KammyGirl said:
Really? As opposed to what? It being one of your children? I'm sure she didn't mean that and was thinking more of "why me?" out loud. But still. Some people really don't think before they speak.
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That’s how I took it... but, I don’t even feel right taking it that way because heck, I wish kid her wasn’t having any medical issues. She was definitely having a why me moment...
 
caribeandiva said:
@shespoison Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman? My crazy friends and I have! :lol: We’ve been friends for 2 decades also. Traveled together, Seen each other naked, etc... We’re basically family at this point. :lol:

I understand why you’re so ticked off at your friend. When she invited you over, you didn’t expect her to be drunk and acting like that. You didn’t get to connect with her at all like you planned on.
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I would fight if another woman got in the bed with me and she didn’t have on pajamas. I would have left. I don’t like people getting too comfortable around me like that..
 
shortdub78 said:
I would fight if another woman got in the bed with me and she didn’t have on pajamas. I would have left. I don’t like people getting too comfortable around me like that..
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I wanted to leave but it was late and I was in bk and I live in the bx. I don’t take the train alone past 9pm (I’ve been followed home.) and a cab would have costs me money I wasn’t willing to spend.
 
shespoison said:
What to do when it’s either be kind or be smart and protect myself?
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Sometimes you have to love people from a distance. I would go with the latter.
I had a friend with similar bad energy. Not what you expressed with your friend, but just everything about her was just messing up my aura. Being around her was so stressful and there was literally nothing I could say to change her or her situation. So I distanced myself when she was going through a really rough time but I couldn't do it. Her negative energy would leave me exhausted and just as miserable and all she did was complain and cry. My shoulder she used to cry on just became too heavy.

When she would call I would keep it short and it got to the point where I asked her to never mention a certain topic with me, a topic she ALWAYS discussed to the point of crying. It was related to men, but it impacted every aspect of her life. So I told her to not discuss men with me, only ways she was improving herself, spiritually, career-wise, and her immediate family.

You have to protect your energy because if you let them, people will suck you dry.
 
Well the group of “frenemies” I was hanging with has imploded on itself. After an incident back in October where I pretty much when went off on everyone things weren’t the same. And then people and their significant others that were in the group started breaking up. Which eh... I guess not better for them. After the incident in October everyone tried to apologize but it just didn’t feel genuine. When people are like see I apologized why aren’t you saying anything, I know you saw it. The apology came across as they were doing me a favor. And then saying I need to apologize for taking things the wrong way. When it’s like how else is a person suppose to take things when every time they come around you are talking about them for two hours?!?

Right now I am in a place where I am learning to enjoy my own company and make new friends.
 
mz.rae said:
Well the group of “frenemies” I was hanging with has imploded on itself. After an incident back in October where I pretty much when went off on everyone things weren’t the same. And then people and their significant others that were in the group started breaking up. Which eh... I guess not better for them. After the incident in October everyone tried to apologize but it just didn’t feel genuine. When people are like see I apologized why aren’t you saying anything, I know you saw it. The apology came across as they were doing me a favor. And then saying I need to apologize for taking things the wrong way. When it’s like how else is a person suppose to take things when every time they come around you are talking about them for two hours?!?

Right now I am in a place where I am learning to enjoy my own company and make new friends.
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Good for you!
 
mz.rae said:
Thank you, it’s really hard. I do feel a little lonely and depressed.
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You are your best company. You know what you like, what you don't like. No one is there to question you or your choices. You are free to find ways to make yourself laugh, cry, smile.
There is so much to experience in self-exploration. This is your opportunity to really get to know yourself and a clean slate for friendships. These new friendships will be built in the space where you are able to be unapologetically yourself. No one can tell you who you 'used to be' or claim you've changed.

It's a great space to be in if you really take advantage of this time. Before you know it, your social calendar will begin to fill up with your new authentic friendships and relationships. Live it up!
 
Miss_Luna said:
You are your best company. You know what you like, what you don't like. No one is there to question you or your choices. You are free to find ways to make yourself laugh, cry, smile.
There is so much to experience in self-exploration. This is your opportunity to really get to know yourself and a clean slate for friendships. These new friendships will be built in the space where you are able to be unapologetically yourself. No one can tell you who you 'used to be' or claim you've changed.

It's a great space to be in if you really take advantage of this time. Before you know it, your social calendar will begin to fill up with your new authentic friendships and relationships. Live it up!
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Thank you so much!!
 
qchelle said:
Just had a glass of wine and am tipsy smh. I haven't had a drink since Thanksgiving. It's almost 1am smh. I'm about to catch up on some work that I didn't do today :look:

I just texted my friends that I want to go to NYC for my 28th bday in March! :yay:

I'm going to do some work and have another glass of wine. I googled and apparently being tipsy is good for work :yep: http://www.businessinsider.com/having-a-drink-or-two-at-work-could-boost-your-productivity-2012-3
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Omg yes! Come to New York!
 
I had to come to my hometown unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. My mom was admitted to the hospital. She ended up passing 16 days later in a hospice of end stage congestive heart failure. 2018 is definitely starting off rough. I’ve been here 3 weeks and finally heading home today. But I did get to spend a lot of time with family and friends which was much needed. But it’s just tough to really exhale like you want to in other people’s homes.
 
First weekend in a while without my man and his two kids. It’s almost 1 p.m. and I’m still in bed after getting up to make lunch for me and my son.

We’ll get outside to ride his bike in a bit and then we’re going to a dine-in movie theater later for a mommy/son date. Tomorrow: church and more lounging.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
I had to come to my hometown unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. My mom was admitted to the hospital. She ended up passing 16 days later in a hospice of end stage congestive heart failure. 2018 is definitely starting off rough. I’ve been here 3 weeks and finally heading home today. But I did get to spend a lot of time with family and friends which was much needed. But it’s just tough to really exhale like you want to in other people’s homes.
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(((Hugs))) @RoundEyedGirl504. I’m so sorry for your loss. I am happy that you were surrounded by friends and family.
 
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