Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

RoundEyedGirl504 said:
I had to come to my hometown unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. My mom was admitted to the hospital. She ended up passing 16 days later in a hospice of end stage congestive heart failure. 2018 is definitely starting off rough. I’ve been here 3 weeks and finally heading home today. But I did get to spend a lot of time with family and friends which was much needed. But it’s just tough to really exhale like you want to in other people’s homes.
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I'm glad you got to spend time with her before she passed. :bighug:
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
I had to come to my hometown unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. My mom was admitted to the hospital. She ended up passing 16 days later in a hospice of end stage congestive heart failure. 2018 is definitely starting off rough. I’ve been here 3 weeks and finally heading home today. But I did get to spend a lot of time with family and friends which was much needed. But it’s just tough to really exhale like you want to in other people’s homes.
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I’m sorry for your loss
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
I had to come to my hometown unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. My mom was admitted to the hospital. She ended up passing 16 days later in a hospice of end stage congestive heart failure. 2018 is definitely starting off rough. I’ve been here 3 weeks and finally heading home today. But I did get to spend a lot of time with family and friends which was much needed. But it’s just tough to really exhale like you want to in other people’s homes.
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My deepest condolence and I’m so glad you were able to be with her.

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So, my one yt friend bought tickets for us to see this white band. I honestly don't even remember agreeing to go but when she called and said the tickets came in the mail I was like whatever. The show is this Saturday. I don't even remember the name of the band and the only reason I didn't make a big fuss out of it is because it's at the Hard Rock and I figure I'll just go to the casino while she's at the show. So she sent me a text message a few days ago saying that her dad is going to pay for us to stay at a hotel so we don't have to drive back home so late. I respond with no that's OK I can't stay. She sends me back to back text messages asking why and asking what I have to do between midnight and 8:30AM the next morning. My response was: "Well, I don't want to stay at a hotel I'd rather stay at my own home.... do you like that answer better?" She responded that she doesn't know why I'm being nasty and forget about the concert Saturday we will just get together another night for dinner.

I said what I said y'all. I'm tired of having to explain myself as a 33-year-old woman. I'm tired of it. So, I said what I said. They gon' learn.
 
My therapist has been bugging me to schedule an appointment. I haven't seen him in weeks. Since the last time I posted about him in here I think. I told him I would let him know when I wanted to schedule. The first time he emailed me I told him I would let him know...again. He said no worries he was just scheduling. Then he kept on emailing and I was sick for the first 2 weeks of January so even if I wanted to schedule something (which I didn't) I couldn't have anyway. I told him so. He suggested a phone session. I said no I'm sick and my throat hurts. And once again I told him I would let him know. He is the one who always insists on me having boundaries and here he is pressing me when I told him I would let him know. Which is why I gave him a firm NO on the phone session. This past week he has emailed me twice a day everyday. I was already feeling cool on him since our last session and wanted to discuss it with him and let him convince me on why we shouldn't end things. But him pressing me and just straight up ignoring the "I'll let you know" has made my decision for me. I'm making an appointment and I'm dumping him. I feel like his insistence is less about me and more about him filling his schedule/getting money - which I can't be mad about. After all it is a business. But he's starting to feel like an over the top salesman with the way he's trying to get me to come in.
 
One of my friends in Cali, who is also a New Orleans native and lost her mom brought me a basket with food, candles, journal, tea, and a snuggly blanket. Love my girls! Between them and family I have been well taken care of. Love you ladies too, and I appreciate all the hugs and support.

This week I am feeling so grateful for my the village I have. I have really picked my friends wisely over the years, which living away from family is a huge deal!!
 
bellatiamarie said:
So, my one yt friend bought tickets for us to see this white band. I honestly don't even remember agreeing to go but when she called and said the tickets came in the mail I was like whatever. The show is this Saturday. I don't even remember the name of the band and the only reason I didn't make a big fuss out of it is because it's at the Hard Rock and I figure I'll just go to the casino while she's at the show. So she sent me a text message a few days ago saying that her dad is going to pay for us to stay at a hotel so we don't have to drive back home so late. I respond with no that's OK I can't stay. She sends me back to back text messages asking why and asking what I have to do between midnight and 8:30AM the next morning. My response was: "Well, I don't want to stay at a hotel I'd rather stay at my own home.... do you like that answer better?" She responded that she doesn't know why I'm being nasty and forget about the concert Saturday we will just get together another night for dinner.

I said what I said y'all. I'm tired of having to explain myself as a 33-year-old woman. I'm tired of it. So, I said what I said. They gon' learn.
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I'd be so happy she took her ticket back.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
One of my friends in Cali, who is also a New Orleans native and lost her mom brought me a basket with food, candles, journal, tea, and a snuggly blanket. Love my girls! Between them and family I have been well taken care of. Love you ladies too, and I appreciate all the hugs and support.

This week I am feeling so grateful for my the village I have. I have really picked my friends wisely over the years, which living away from family is a huge deal!!
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I’m glad you have good people around you! Hope you are doing ok today.
 
I just don't know sometimes...am I naive to think that there are people out there in the world that don't complain or gossip or have something wrong 24/7? I just don't get it. When I was first out of college I used to be like this. I wouldn't have anything to talk about other than what was going wrong in my life. I started therapy, read some books, started doing something with myself and that slowly changed. But I notice there are a lot of people like that around me. One person in particular she calls me after she gets off work to complain about work, or complain about her commute home. She calls me on the weekend to complain about something someone text her or somethings someone said or did. And I'm always like ok...what else is happening.

It just feels awful. Especially since I wanted today to be a day full of good energy and relaxing before my first say at a new job. Why don't people ever call me and talk to me about new books they read, or a fun thing they did or something that makes them happy. And I also notice that these same people seem less interested when I call with good news or have something fun and inspiring to talk about. Almost like that is boring to them. Guess it's time to join some meetups and make new friends.
 
KammyGirl said:
I just don't know sometimes...am I naive to think that there are people out there in the world that don't complain or gossip or have something wrong 24/7? I just don't get it. When I was first out of college I used to be like this. I wouldn't have anything to talk about other than what was going wrong in my life. I started therapy, read some books, started doing something with myself and that slowly changed. But I notice there are a lot of people like that around me. One person in particular she calls me after she gets off work to complain about work, or complain about her commute home. She calls me on the weekend to complain about something someone text her or somethings someone said or did. And I'm always like ok...what else is happening.

It just feels awful. Especially since I wanted today to be a day full of good energy and relaxing before my first say at a new job. Why don't people ever call me and talk to me about new books they read, or a fun thing they did or something that makes them happy. And I also notice that these same people seem less interested when I call with good news or have something fun and inspiring to talk about. Almost like that is boring to them. Guess it's time to join some meetups and make new friends.
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Yeah my bff can be like that. I’m like girl please find something that gives you pleasure besides a guy. It’s a bit draining.
 
Today is my daughter's bff last day here. They've been like sisters since they were 4 and are turning 12 this year. she's here most days. The family is moving out the Bay Area for COL reasons to the South. So typical. I've lost countless the last 15 years for this exact reason. This area os tough. Why I keep ppl at a distance... anyhow I'm rambling.

This is her second major loss (death of her paternal great granny was her first). I'll support my baby as best I can through this transition.
 
I took my BFF to her first experience at an iPic theatre and she's was in heaven.

I have not had too good of time lately, but I wanted to get out of my head and do something nice for someone else.

We had such a good time, saw the movie she's been dying to see (Shape of Water) had this amazing wine (Sancerre Beau Roy) and delicious food at city perch. iPic theatres are my favorite even though I go to Cinemark most normal movie visits.

All in all, I was reminded how the spirit of Sisterhood can brighten even the darkest day.
 
DarkJoy said:
Today is my daughter's bff last day here. They've been like sisters since they were 4 and are turning 12 this year. she's here most days. The family is moving out the Bay Area for COL reasons to the South. So typical. I've lost countless the last 15 years for this exact reason. This area os tough. Why I keep ppl at a distance... anyhow I'm rambling.

This is her second major loss (death of her paternal great granny was her first). I'll support my baby as best I can through this transition.
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What does COL mean?
 
KammyGirl said:
I just don't know sometimes...am I naive to think that there are people out there in the world that don't complain or gossip or have something wrong 24/7? I just don't get it. When I was first out of college I used to be like this. I wouldn't have anything to talk about other than what was going wrong in my life. I started therapy, read some books, started doing something with myself and that slowly changed. But I notice there are a lot of people like that around me. One person in particular she calls me after she gets off work to complain about work, or complain about her commute home. She calls me on the weekend to complain about something someone text her or somethings someone said or did. And I'm always like ok...what else is happening.

It just feels awful. Especially since I wanted today to be a day full of good energy and relaxing before my first say at a new job. Why don't people ever call me and talk to me about new books they read, or a fun thing they did or something that makes them happy. And I also notice that these same people seem less interested when I call with good news or have something fun and inspiring to talk about. Almost like that is boring to them. Guess it's time to join some meetups and make new friends.
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No, you are not naive to think there are people in the world who don’t always complain or have something wrong. Keep at it, get out into the world and meet new people. Also set better boundaries re responding to negative energy. You don’t have to take your girlfriend’s calls or respond to her texts. Respond when and if you want to. And you don’t have to be mean or tell her to stop it or anything. Accept her for who she is and act accordingly — limit contact with her, keep interactions and conversations brief.
 
intellectualuva said:
I took my BFF to her first experience at an iPic theatre and she's was in heaven.

I have not had too good of time lately, but I wanted to get out of my head and do something nice for someone else.

We had such a good time, saw the movie she's been dying to see (Shape of Water) had this amazing wine (Sancerre Beau Roy) and delicious food at city perch. iPic theatres are my favorite even though I go to Cinemark most normal movie visits.

All in all, I was reminded how the spirit of Sisterhood can brighten even the darkest day.
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That sounds like fun! I had a similar weekend with a good friend and it was delightful. I’m glad you and your friend had such a good time.
 
DarkJoy said:
Today is my daughter's bff last day here. They've been like sisters since they were 4 and are turning 12 this year. she's here most days. The family is moving out the Bay Area for COL reasons to the South. So typical. I've lost countless the last 15 years for this exact reason. This area os tough. Why I keep ppl at a distance... anyhow I'm rambling.

This is her second major loss (death of her paternal great granny was her first). I'll support my baby as best I can through this transition.
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Sorry about your daughter losing a close friend. Hopefully they will be able to maintain contact and visit each other from time to time.
 
hopeful said:
Thank you! I’m leaving Cali too for the same reason. My friends are sad too.
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dag... I'd leave too where the social ties are more stable but my dd needs her father so... 7 more years. yes I'm counting down:look:.

what state you going to?

hopeful said:
Sorry about your daughter losing a close friend. Hopefully they will be able to maintain contact and visit each other from time to time.
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Aww thanks... truth be told she doing better than me. it' like I've been chopping onions all day :cry3:
 
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