caribeandiva
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Cheers!! I’ll drink to that
Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread
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mz.rae
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I find it so annoying when a friend breaks up with someone, and the ex still tries to be cool with everyone. It’s like please go away, and why are y’all tagging her in posts. I don’t care if she was there it’s out of sight out of mind towards her. Why is she tagging y’all in Facebook posts? I’m convinced this is what happens when people get in relationships and stop having a life of their own. When the relationship ends they have nothing and cling to the friends and family their ex significant other has. Matter of fact I just remembered I need to unfriend her on Facebook...
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
I'm on my last legs with this chick. She seems incapable of retaining information let alone connecting the dots to take one batch of information and apply it to different situations. I was trying to explain something to her today and she would say uh-huh before I got the sentence out. I'm going to admit that after 2 years my patience is almost all gone and I snapped at her and said "let me finish telling you what I'm saying before you say uh-huh".
The ONLY reason she's still here is that I don't have time to shadow her database work so I can train a new person. Nice lady but I'm over alladis.
The ONLY reason she's still here is that I don't have time to shadow her database work so I can train a new person. Nice lady but I'm over alladis.
hopeful
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Time for her to go! She sounds so annoying!
shespoison
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Please don’t quote.
My long-time, close friend told me how she thinks she is “a creative” and I offered to work with her on something.
We agreed to meet yesterday at 7pm. I show up at her apt and she answers the door in panties...drunk af. I am immediately annoyed. One, because a meeting about anything with her drunk arse would be a waste of time. And secondly, because I was spending the night.
I attempted to go through some of the stuff with her and she couldn’t even sit without wobbling. She kept saying stupid nonsense and asking the same questions over and over. I don’t know what I said to her but she says “ you always treat me like I’m dumb.” I tell her I know she isn’t dumb but I know she is drunk even though her stupid butt was trying to deny it. She finally admits it and I ask her how did she get so drunk when she JUST got in from work?!!
Y’all, she said she was drinking at work! Whatever I go on with the “meeting” to humor her even though I know I will never waste my time trying to work with her.
Then....I go to take a shower and I see she has a new toothbrush and I ask for it because I forget mine. She says of course. Then comes in the bathroom and says oh no, don’t use that one. Use this one and hands me a mangled used toothbrush. I look at her crazy and say it’s used and she says it not.
I say ****! I’m not blind I can see this is used and she gives me the new one. We laughed about it because it was so dumb but in the back of my mind I’m pissed. I would never offer a used toothbrush to anyone. Especially if I had a brand new one.
We get ready to go to bed and this girl rolls into the bed with her panties on. I am so freakin annoyed. We’ve been friends for 2 decades but Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman.
I am honestly through with her. She’s a liar and a drunk. I’m done feeling bad. I am done forgiving. I can’t even invite her anywhere for fear she’ll show her butt. We don’t hang out often so I forget how terrible she can be....she gotten so much worse these days.
This would be funny if wasn’t so sad.
My long-time, close friend told me how she thinks she is “a creative” and I offered to work with her on something.
We agreed to meet yesterday at 7pm. I show up at her apt and she answers the door in panties...drunk af. I am immediately annoyed. One, because a meeting about anything with her drunk arse would be a waste of time. And secondly, because I was spending the night.
I attempted to go through some of the stuff with her and she couldn’t even sit without wobbling. She kept saying stupid nonsense and asking the same questions over and over. I don’t know what I said to her but she says “ you always treat me like I’m dumb.” I tell her I know she isn’t dumb but I know she is drunk even though her stupid butt was trying to deny it. She finally admits it and I ask her how did she get so drunk when she JUST got in from work?!!
Y’all, she said she was drinking at work! Whatever I go on with the “meeting” to humor her even though I know I will never waste my time trying to work with her.
Then....I go to take a shower and I see she has a new toothbrush and I ask for it because I forget mine. She says of course. Then comes in the bathroom and says oh no, don’t use that one. Use this one and hands me a mangled used toothbrush. I look at her crazy and say it’s used and she says it not.
I say ****! I’m not blind I can see this is used and she gives me the new one. We laughed about it because it was so dumb but in the back of my mind I’m pissed. I would never offer a used toothbrush to anyone. Especially if I had a brand new one.
We get ready to go to bed and this girl rolls into the bed with her panties on. I am so freakin annoyed. We’ve been friends for 2 decades but Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman.
I am honestly through with her. She’s a liar and a drunk. I’m done feeling bad. I am done forgiving. I can’t even invite her anywhere for fear she’ll show her butt. We don’t hang out often so I forget how terrible she can be....she gotten so much worse these days.
This would be funny if wasn’t so sad.
caribeandiva
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@shespoison Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman? My crazy friends and I have! 
We’ve been friends for 2 decades also. Traveled together, Seen each other naked, etc... We’re basically family at this point.
I understand why you’re so ticked off at your friend. When she invited you over, you didn’t expect her to be drunk and acting like that. You didn’t get to connect with her at all like you planned on.
We’ve been friends for 2 decades also. Traveled together, Seen each other naked, etc... We’re basically family at this point. I understand why you’re so ticked off at your friend. When she invited you over, you didn’t expect her to be drunk and acting like that. You didn’t get to connect with her at all like you planned on.
shespoison
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That is so funny. My friends have no issue being naked around me and I have to pretend that I don’t care. I HATE it!@shespoison Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman? My crazy friends and I have!
I understand why you’re so ticked off at your friend. When she invited you over, you didn’t expect her to be drunk and acting like that. You didn’t get to connect with her at all like you planned on.
It wasn’t even regular drunkness. I started to question whether she was on drugs. There were other things she did but y’all would call me stupid for still spending the night.
hopeful
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@shespoison
I completely understand! I would have been very annoyed as well. The combo of being drunk and in panties when she asked you to help her with something is just ugh.
ETA: I will edit if I said too much. Let me know.
I completely understand! I would have been very annoyed as well. The combo of being drunk and in panties when she asked you to help her with something is just ugh.
ETA: I will edit if I said too much. Let me know.
movingforward
Moving forward and onward
I dont like this coffee mask.
I feel this joy on the inside that great things are about to happen for me.
I feel this joy on the inside that great things are about to happen for me.
shespoison
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No, that’s fine
hopeful
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caribeandiva
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@shespoison Tell your friends the truth. That you are uncomfortable with their nudity. No need to pretend with them. Real friends will comply. As for the one who was intoxicated, tell her the truth too. You were disappointed about how things went down and will keep your distance from her unless things change.
shespoison
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She is the only close friend that lives anywhere near me these days. The nudity thing was when we were younger...and I’m sure they would ignore me if I told them anyway. We had/have terrible boundaries.
I did tell her how I felt about the drinking. Many,many times. It is usually over the phone and she lies about it. I told her yesterday that I was worried and it made me uncomfortable.
We are not young folks. I shouldn’t have to worry about her antics embarrassing me or causing me harm. At this point it doesn’t matter what I say to her or what she’s says she’s going to change. Some behaviors are poison and she has made me look bad too many tones.
Am I tripping for being more pissed about the raggedy toothbrush?
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
Our office décor is white. All the office furniture (except chairs) is white and has been white for the whole
7 years this chick has worked here. We needed a three shelf file cabinet for a white desk so I tell ole girl to order it. Keep in mind that her desk is white and her file cabinets are white. Why did I come out and there is a tan filing cabinet under the desk?We purchased an existing company and the staff are used to the owners holding their hands to do everything and some people are having a harder time than others with not being given a check list to do basic
things. She literally received a tan file cabinet and looked at all the surrounding white furniture and didn't think anything of it. Threw away the box because you know "whatevs" and on top of that I asked for the keys because the desk has an obvious lock on the top shelf and she didn't think to look for any.This person's job title, job description and pay grade are above and beyond receptionist but what she does is data entry, ordering office supplies and answering phones. Until I update this antiquated database ($$$$$) I can't easily replace her so it's not as simple as just hire someone else.
MzLady78
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I think I’m gonna go spend the night at my cousin’s tomorrow.
I called her to get an update on some family drama and she sounded really down when she answered. When I asked what was wrong, she said “my life is s***”.
We talked for almost an hour but only about the stuff I was calling to get the update on.
We shall eat, drink and be merry.
I called her to get an update on some family drama and she sounded really down when she answered. When I asked what was wrong, she said “my life is s***”.
We talked for almost an hour but only about the stuff I was calling to get the update on.We shall eat, drink and be merry.
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weaveadiva
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I'm about to break down and order one too. I'm tired of stalking the subreddit every dayMy moviepass card just arrived! My life is about to be so lit with all these movies I'm bout to see!!!
I still don't know how useful it'll be for me. Like I said, I see most of my movies for free. But as a movie addict, I couldn't resist
How long did yours take to come?
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caribeandiva
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My siblings and I are planning to go see Black Panther together when it comes out next month. Since some of them are out of the country right now and will be flying home around the same time the movie comes out nothing is set in stone yet. I’m so excited! I’ll go see it with or without them no matter what happens.
MzLady78
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I think I’m gonna go spend the night at my cousin’s tomorrow.
I called her to get an update on some family drama and she sounded really down when she answered. When I asked what was wrong, she said “my life is s***”.
We shall eat, drink and be merry.
Had such a good time with my cuz. We watched Big Little Lies, and she finally got me to check out Game of Thrones, I’ve been resisting for years.
Her kids’ father came by and made us some bomb arse mussels (which I LOVE), and it turns out she put some aside for me to take home.She admitted she’s been having a hard time lately (she’s out of work, among other things) and thanked me for coming over to spend time with her.
This is what it’s about. Family and really, just people in general who value you and appreciate your company. Screw those who don’t.
Babysaffy
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Had such a good time with my cuz. We watched Big Little Lies, and she finally got me to check out Game of Thrones, I’ve been resisting for years.
She admitted she’s been having a hard time lately (she’s out of work, among other things) and thanked me for coming over to spend time with her.
This is what it’s about. Family and really, just people in general who value you and appreciate your company. Screw those who don’t.
Yes, yes, yes!!! This is my 2018 promise to myself! To spend my time and only give sh@ts about these people in my life!
MzLady78
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shespoison
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My drunkard friend who I was venting about, lost her job the day after I posted in here.
She texted me and I didn’t respond. I feel like a terrible friend and I guess I am. I just am not the kind of person to co-sign or enable stupid behaviors. I feel like she is a bad person but we’ve been friends for so long and she’s always praising our friendship and me in general for being a solid friend.
I think the smart thing to do is distance myself but the kind thing to do is be available for her.
What to do when it’s either be kind or be smart and protect myself?
She texted me and I didn’t respond. I feel like a terrible friend and I guess I am. I just am not the kind of person to co-sign or enable stupid behaviors. I feel like she is a bad person but we’ve been friends for so long and she’s always praising our friendship and me in general for being a solid friend.
I think the smart thing to do is distance myself but the kind thing to do is be available for her.
What to do when it’s either be kind or be smart and protect myself?
Babysaffy
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Maybe just see her less and cut what you do for/with her in half but let her know she can always message you to vent..
It sounds like she drains and frustrates you so you need to put yourself first. I've learnt the hard way that being kind is sometimes borderline self harm if that makes sense.
LovelyRo
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My girl has a child that is dealing with some medical issues. Now, she is a self-proclaimed drama queen. But, all things considered, I get it. So.... she says out of all of our children (8 between all of us), why does hers have to have medical issues. That rubbed me the wrong way.
BrownBetty
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@shespoison Who the hell lays in the bed with her panties on with another woman? My crazy friends and I have!
I understand why you’re so ticked off at your friend. When she invited you over, you didn’t expect her to be drunk and acting like that. You didn’t get to connect with her at all like you planned on.
Same @caribeandiva lol
Hey Ladies! Happy New Year!
The year has been good so far. I had a hiccup with a friend but I decided that it is proabably a blessing in disguise so I won't stay angry.
I've been consistent with the gym and eating semi-healthy. Mentally and emotionally I have been feeling good.
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