Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

hopeful said:
Thank you @Crackers Phinn for sharing like you just did with @RoundEyedGirl504 and the rest of us. You are the best, so kind, and so brave. I am so so sorry about the loss of your mom. And I am so happy that you are starting to really live now. I can feel how much lighter and joyful you are now. You and @RoundEyedGirl504 deserve all the happiness your hearts can hold.
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Thank you. I'm still raw from the passing of my mother and two childhood friends this year but with the help of a loving family and therapy I know that I will eventually get back to normal.

It took 40 years but I seem to be stepping into the carefree black girl phase of my life and it is a truly a liberating experience. I feel (and look) lighter and more joyful than I probably have ever been.
 
My brother, who lost his job and has since found another, is thinking about downsizing and finding a roommate situation for the time being. The new job was a pay cut and he's trying to get things back together financially. I didn't even bat an eye at it. He did ask if he could stay with me for a short time if he didn't find a place so he can move out of his current place and save a little until a place with a good roommate popped up. I wasn't opposed to it. But it looks like he might have found a good place he likes.

My mom is losing her ish about it. To the point where my brother is getting annoyed at even talking to her about it.

Now I'm like am I tripping? Should I be more concerned he's looking to live with a stranger? Should I push for him to stay with me instead? Is Christmas about to be weird? - _-
 
oneastrocurlie said:
My brother, who lost his job and has since found another, is thinking about downsizing and finding a roommate situation for the time being. The new job was a pay cut and he's trying to get things back together financially. I didn't even bat an eye at it. He did ask if he could stay with me for a short time if he didn't find a place so he can move out of his current place and save a little until a place with a good roommate popped up. I wasn't opposed to it. But it looks like he might have found a good place he likes.

My mom is losing her ish about it. To the point where my brother is getting annoyed at even talking to her about it.

Now I'm like am I tripping? Should I be more concerned he's looking to live with a stranger? Should I push for him to stay with me instead? Is Christmas about to be weird? - _-
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Is your brother an adult? Is there some reason why you should be concerned or why your mom is so upset? Sounds like he is moving forward and problem solving for himself just fine. But maybe there is a piece to the story that I am missing?
 
hopeful said:
Is your brother an adult? Is there some reason why you should be concerned or why your mom is so upset? Sounds like he is moving forward and problem solving for himself just fine. But maybe there is a piece to the story that I am missing?
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A whole adult lol. I'm not concerned really. Guess I feel a certain way that she's super concerned. She literally said she doesn't get this generation. Huh? He'll be fine I'm sure. I just hope she drops it cause my mom and brother are so much alike sometimes that when they clash its so dramatic.
 
My mommy left for her trip this morning. She had some issues at the airport and ended up having to wait for the next flight. So she is basically traveling alone now when she's supposed to be with her church. Smh I don't know about her sometimes.
 
Had DS's birthday party on Saturday. We have such a loving village, all his aunties and uncles showed up and loved on him. He really enjoyed himself.

This my last week of work for the year, I am cracking open some of my good wine and relaxing going to get through a few books too. I want to finish these last couple weeks of 2017 on a good note. My apartments had a get to know your neighbors event, and it was really cool, we have some nice folks in the building. One lady invited me to a kids party at her church. I am not a church person, but it will be nice to socialize and check out one of the big churches here, I recognize it's a big social thing for a lot of black folks so what they hey? Free food and entertainment for both of us.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
Had DS's birthday party on Saturday. We have such a loving village, all his aunties and uncles showed up and loved on him. He really enjoyed himself.

This my last week of work for the year, I am cracking open some of my good wine and relaxing going to get through a few books too. I want to finish these last couple weeks of 2017 on a good note. My apartments had a get to know your neighbors event, and it was really cool, we have some nice folks in the building. One lady invited me to a kids party at her church. I am not a church person, but it will be nice to socialize and check out one of the big churches here, I recognize it's a big social thing for a lot of black folks so what they hey? Free food and entertainment for both of us.
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I love it! Closing out the year very nicely, taking care of you, socializing, etc. Reading your plans made me smile.
 
Reconnected with a close friend who is a bit younger than I am. It feels as if we didn't lose contact. She is engaged to be married next year and lately she has been asking so many great questions. I'm no expert but it's refreshing chatting about various topic's. She doesn't know yet but our conversations has truly helped me and have brought so much into perspective.
 
I know this is the man free thread so apologies in advance. I called my older brother yesterday and he couldn’t pick up because he was at work. I hate voicemails so I don’t leave them as a general rule but he heard me crying in the .02 second snippet left when he got off. I came back from drop off this morning to find all three of my brothers on my door step (ready to fight DH but anyway :lachen:) .

He rounded them all up at 6a so they could get on the road right after he dropped all four of his kiddos off.

They suck but I love them.
 
IslandMummy said:
I know this is the man free thread so apologies in advance. I called my older brother yesterday and he couldn’t pick up because he was at work. I hate voicemails so I don’t leave them as a general rule but he heard me crying in the .02 second snippet left when he got off. I came back from drop off this morning to find all three of my brothers on my door step (ready to fight DH but anyway :lachen:) .

He rounded them all up at 6a so they could get on the road right after he dropped all four of his kiddos off.

They suck but I love them.
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This is wonderful! This is the non-romantic relationship thread! Brothers, dads, platonic male friends are welcome! Your brothers rock! Thank you for sharing your story.
 
Had a Lunch date with my sister and daughter. It was a nice day in NYC today. We went to Sun in Bloom (Vegan cafe) in TriBeCa. I’m vegan, DD is vegetarian, and my sister is starting her vegan journey. I love going to vegan restaurants and glad I can share that with my family. They enjoy my suggestions even though they complain initially:lachen:
 
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LostInAdream said:
Had a Lunch date with my sister and daughter. It was a nice day in NYC today. We went to Sun in Bloom (Vegan cafe) in TriBeCa. I’m vegan, DD is vegetarian, and my sister is starting her vegan journey. I love going to vegan restaurants and glad I can share that with my family. They enjoy my suggestions even though the complain initially:lachen:
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Most vegan restaurants to me are good, aside from this vegan soul food place I tried. But at home, I'm like where is my meat LOL!
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
Most vegan restaurants to me are good, aside from this vegan soul food place I tried. But at home, I'm like where is my meat LOL!
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What’s the name of it? So I can avoid it LOL. I noticed that a lot of the soul food ones aren’t great. I think because there’s no real way to mimic the dishes. The best one I’ve been to is The Seasoned Vegan in Harlem.
 
LostInAdream said:
What’s the name of it? So I can avoid it LOL. I noticed that a lot of the soul food ones aren’t great. I think because there’s no real way to mimic the dishes. The best one I’ve been to is The Seasoned Vegan in Harlem.
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It's called Souley Vegan in Oakland. I hated everything I had LOL! I think you're right, trying to mimic fried fish with tofu and such is just not the move. Now their greens were good, but I think liquid smoke makes it fairly easy to make those. The other stuff fell flat for me. But they keep a line, so I may just have the wrong expectations.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
It's called Souley Vegan in Oakland. I hated everything I had LOL! I think you're right, trying to mimic fried fish with tofu and such is just not the move. Now their greens were good, but I think liquid smoke makes it fairly easy to make those. The other stuff fell flat for me. But they keep a line, so I may just have the wrong expectations.
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Ha! We’re both in Cali. Souley Vegan sucks :yep:. I do like their salads though, some of their desserts, and I think they’re known for their cocktails if I recall correctly, but the faux meat dishes are not the business. Most of the other vegan/vegetarian places I’ve been too are pretty good though.
 
hopeful said:
Ha! We’re both in Cali. Souley Vegan sucks :yep:. I do like their salads though, some of their desserts, and I think they’re known for their cocktails if I recall correctly, but the faux meat dishes are not the business. Most of the other vegan/vegetarian places I’ve been too are pretty good though.
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Yes their desserts are not bad either. I think I had peach cobbler, which was pretty good. But I definitely am not looking to go back. It is black owned so I gave it more chances than I normally would have!
 
TwoSnapsUp said:
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

And this chick sure is showing me who she is.

I’m going to consider this a blessing.
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I watch actions. This person took it to a place where I don't think we could ever recover and be the same. This is how you feel? Over a minor (barely) disagreement? *shrugs. OK.

When someone shows you who they are, indeed.

The people around us will see that I haven't said anything, but you are the one being shady.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
Lounging around. I only have gifts for DS and I’m not wrapping those. Making a pot of red beans watching 227 reruns lol! This is your first Christmas as a single woman in a long time right? Starting any traditions?
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Yes m’am, first time officially single, but we were already separated last Christmas. No new traditions just yet. Just enjoying the freedom and my daughters. Red beans and 227 reruns sounds great!

ETA: the one new holiday tradition I started was sending out Thanksgiving cards. I started that last year. I had always sent out Christmas cards. It was fun adding something new to kind of mark my new life and adding something just because and because it made me happy.
 
Why is it so hard to say yes or no? I already told you I had a long day at work, and you can't give me a simple answer? Just the "we'll see." I'm not freaking 12 years old Mom. I would have much rather you said you didn't feel like leaving the house, not this hokey pokey nonsense.
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
It's called Souley Vegan in Oakland. I hated everything I had LOL! I think you're right, trying to mimic fried fish with tofu and such is just not the move. Now their greens were good, but I think liquid smoke makes it fairly easy to make those. The other stuff fell flat for me. But they keep a line, so I may just have the wrong expectations.
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The meal I had was terrible too. I refuse it. Absolutely refuse... it was brrakfast... and tofu "eggs" are not the business. Why even bother? pffft

However, since I don't do dairy, I drop in and may pick up a vegan slice of cake. it's quite tasty.
 
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