Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

So one of my friends/acquaintances has kind of been flaking on me for the past two weeks. She texted me on Thursday to go out on Friday (last night) for her birthday (her actual birthday is on Monday). I already had plans for last night so I told her on Thursday I wouldn't be able to make it. She texts again last night to ask again if I can come out for her birthday. I tell her no and tell her to have fun. She just responds back "Alright fine".

Part of me feels *kind of* bad that I couldn't come out for her birthday last night, but she didn't tell me about it until the day before and she's been flakey, so I don't feel that bad. I'm just irritated that she has been flaking on the plans we've made lately, but now she feels some type of way because I couldn't meet up with her last night.

This is the same girl I hung out with while I was in school for my undergrad degree. We lost contact and stopped hanging out...this is reminding me of why I probably stopped hanging out with her back then.
 
@Damaris.Elle so it’s ok when she flakes? But when she invites you somewhere last minute you are supposed to jump, drop your plans, and come running? You would have been really mad at yourself if you had changed your plans and then she flaked on you again. She could have given you more notice and if/when she invites you somewhere it’s ok for you to say you can’t make it. You have that right.
 
My relationship with my dad (and step mom) is pretty non-existent. Can't think of the last time I've seen them. Why on Earth did my step mom text me at 1am asking if I was coming home for Thanksgiving. She knows good and dang well without fail I go home (to see my Mom's side of the family) for Thanksgiving. Then then then lol my dad text me earlier today.

Something is up. They never hit me up pre-Thanksgiving. I might get a text or call from him the day of.
 
Damaris.Elle said:
So one of my friends/acquaintances has kind of been flaking on me for the past two weeks. She texted me on Thursday to go out on Friday (last night) for her birthday (her actual birthday is on Monday). I already had plans for last night so I told her on Thursday I wouldn't be able to make it. She texts again last night to ask again if I can come out for her birthday. I tell her no and tell her to have fun. She just responds back "Alright fine".

Part of me feels *kind of* bad that I couldn't come out for her birthday last night, but she didn't tell me about it until the day before and she's been flakey, so I don't feel that bad. I'm just irritated that she has been flaking on the plans we've made lately, but now she feels some type of way because I couldn't meet up with her last night.

This is the same girl I hung out with while I was in school for my undergrad degree. We lost contact and stopped hanging out...this is reminding me of why I probably stopped hanging out with her back then.
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This situation sounds similar to mine. How can a friend think they can do whatever they want yet get upset when you can't jump at the last minute. It's just very inconsiderate. I used to think some people were just this way but that's never true. Because when people like this really wants to see someone, make plans with someone or be with someone they find a way and it won't be at the last second. Rude. Don't feel bad at all. She should feel bad.
 
hopeful said:
@Damaris.Elle so it’s ok when she flakes? But when she invites you somewhere last minute you are supposed to jump, drop your plans, and come running? You would have been really mad at yourself if you had changed your plans and then she flaked on you again. She could have given you more notice and if/when she invites you somewhere it’s ok for you to say you can’t make it. You have that right.
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That's what was so irritating to me...it's like when she flaked, she really didn't even apologize for it. But then I was supposed to drop my plans and meet up with her at the last minute because it's her birthday weekend. I could see if she had told me about her plans in advance, but she didn't. I'm tired of wishy-washy behavior lol.

KammyGirl said:
This situation sounds similar to mine. How can a friend think they can do whatever they want yet get upset when you can't jump at the last minute. It's just very inconsiderate. I used to think some people were just this way but that's never true. Because when people like this really wants to see someone, make plans with someone or be with someone they find a way and it won't be at the last second. Rude. Don't feel bad at all. She should feel bad.
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Exactly! I was thinking she must not have really wanted to see me. I'm going to kind of step back from hanging out with her for a bit.

On a more positive note, I had fun sipping mimosas girl-talking and talking about books at my book club meeting yesterday. It's a really cool group of girls and one of them invited a few of us to her birthday celebration in January.
 
My sister broke up with her boyfriend today, they’ve been together since they were teenagers. She is heartbroken, by proxy now I’m upset too. I have to find a humane way to show my support. I want to go bash his head in (for the way he did it, very repugnant) and slash his tires.

I think I’ll fly her down her with me for the weekend.
 
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IslandMummy said:
My sister broke up with her boyfriend today, they’ve been together since they were teenagers. She is heartbroken, by proxy now I’m upset too. I have to find a humane way to show my support. I want to go bash his head in (for the way he did it, very repugnant) and slash his tires.

I think I’ll fly her down her with my for the weekend.
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So sorry about your sister. She is lucky to have your sisterly love and support. Hopefully one day she will look back at this as a wonderful blessing. Sounds like he was a jerk.
 
hopeful said:
So sorry about your sister. She is lucky to have your sisterly love and support. Hopefully one day she will look back at this as a wonderful blessing. Sounds like he was a jerk.
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Ugh, he had his MOTHER call her. His bloody mother. It’s taking everything in me not to get on the 6:40 JetBlue flight tomorrow and fight everyone. I am seething. I did not like him, or the relationship but I learned to bite my tongue.

I’m going to see if one my cousins can go key his stupid new car.

I’m going to give her three months to grieve and that’s it. This is a blessing.
 
IslandMummy said:
Ugh, he had his MOTHER call her. His bloody mother. It’s taking everything in me not to get on the 6:40 JetBlue flight tomorrow and fight everyone. I am seething. I did not like him, or the relationship but I learned to bite my tongue.

I’m going to see if one my cousins can go key his stupid new car.

I’m going to give her three months to grieve and that’s it. This is a blessing.
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Bolded: it sure is! He had his mother break up with her for him? He's obviously crazy.
 
Are you ladies getting excited about the holidays? I planned to be uber chilled, hanging out at the house, wrapping gifts, drinking cocoa. But I’ve been invited to two holiday parties and I can’t wait to wear my pretty new clothes and socialize.

I put up my tree over the weekend, added colorful lights and a tree topper. Next I need to add ornaments and garland.

I’m planning on having lots of fun, to look really pretty, and take good care of myself.
 
qchelle said:
Yes!! I had popcorn and watched The Grinch (Jim carey) today! I bought my tree yesterday and will decorate it tonight! I've put out my Christmas decorations!

I need to book my December massage soon.
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RoundEyedGirl504 said:
YES! I love the holidays. Put up my tree this weekend, have all DS's gifts. His bday is on the 17th so I am planning for that as well. I am giong to plan a vision board party too. I love this time of year, it brings me a lot of joy.
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Yay! Sounds so fun!
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
YES! I love the holidays. Put up my tree this weekend, have all DS's gifts. His bday is on the 17th so I am planning for that as well. I am giong to plan a vision board party too. I love this time of year, it brings me a lot of joy.
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Omg this is such a good idea! :lol: my friends are trying to spend the night again next weekend. If they do, I'm gonna make it a vision board party! :yay:

It's my favorite time of year, too :yep:
 
hopeful said:
Are you ladies getting excited about the holidays? I planned to be uber chilled, hanging out at the house, wrapping gifts, drinking cocoa. But I’ve been invited to two holiday parties and I can’t wait to wear my pretty new clothes and socialize.

I put up my tree over the weekend, added colorful lights and a tree topper. Next I need to add ornaments and garland.

I’m planning on having lots of fun, to look really pretty, and take good care of myself.
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Yes! I love the holidays. I can't wait to go to some ugly Christmas sweater parties, spend time with family, drink some egg nog and Bailey's and get lit! Lol. Some friends and I had a vision board party yesterday. I haven't even started Christmas shopping yet though :look:
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
YES! I love the holidays. Put up my tree this weekend, have all DS's gifts. His bday is on the 17th so I am planning for that as well. I am giong to plan a vision board party too. I love this time of year, it brings me a lot of joy.
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Seems like just last month when you were announcing his birth on the pregnancy forum. Time sure flies. Happy early birthday to him.
 
Damaris.Elle said:
Yes! I love the holidays. I can't wait to go to some ugly Christmas sweater parties, spend time with family, drink some egg nog and Bailey's and get lit! Lol. Some friends and I had a vision board party yesterday. I haven't even started Christmas shopping yet though :look:
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Ha! Me either! I have not bought one single Christmas present:oops:. How was the vision board party?
 
Crackers Phinn said:


I. Can't.
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And now, neither can he. Visa snatched like a drag queen’s wig.

Damaris.Elle said:
Yes! I love the holidays. I can't wait to go to some ugly Christmas sweater parties, spend time with family, drink some egg nog and Bailey's and get lit! Lol. Some friends and I had a vision board party yesterday. I haven't even started Christmas shopping yet though :look:
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I can’t WAIT for the ugly sweater party! DS found a Christmas lights necklace for me to wear since I broke out my ugly sweaters.

I’m sending a thank you note and a Christmas card to a stranger since she gave me such great customer service today. She was pleasant and helpful and made my holiday spirit spill over.

Also went to get my Christmas tree but the CSR in Target told me to come back on Sunday because all of their trees will be 50% off even the displays.

I love black women.
 
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