Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

TwoSnapsUp said:
Kids party this weekend:
1 and 3 years old.

Should I get a general gift card, clothing store card, or cash?
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Depends on your relationship with the kids.

at that age I always got my niece and neph in laws a little outfit (mom and dad love this) and a toy (baby loved this) and used a gift receipt. usually toys r us or target.

kept the gift budget to $30 per child. they're 2 weeks apart.
 
I wish I had a good male friend. The last one I had passed away. I miss having male platonic friends. An old friend from years ago reached out to me on social media and I got all excited when he said he wanted to meet up and catch up. I declined since it was short notice that day and he never followed up again. Ugh! I was hoping he'd end up being my male BFF.
 
TwoSnapsUp said:
I wish I had a good male friend. The last one I had passed away. I miss having male platonic friends. An old friend from years ago reached out to me on social media and I got all excited when he said he wanted to meet up and catch up. I declined since it was short notice that day and he never followed up again. Ugh! I was hoping he'd end up being my male BFF.
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Why don't you reach out to him to reschedule?
 
hopeful said:
Why don't you reach out to him to reschedule?
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Because I feel that if he were really interested he would have rescheduled. He was offering to treat me. I gave a time frame when I declined. I didn't just say no. Further, he hasn't asked for my number and has only contacted me via social media.. He can't be that excited to see me if he can't ask for something so simple.

I think it's one of those "let's hangout one day, but not really" type of things.
 
TwoSnapsUp said:
Because I feel that if he were really interested he would have rescheduled. He was offering to treat me. I gave a time frame when I declined. I didn't just say no. Further, he hasn't asked for my number and has only contacted me via social media.. He can't be that excited to see me if he can't ask for something so simple.

I think it's one of those "let's hangout one day, but not really" type of things.
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Okay, I understand.
 
crlsweetie912 said:
An old friend from church reached out and asked me if I wanted to see girls trip last weekend. I was just lamenting being home all the time. We had a ball. I just have to be proactive and reach out! It's hard for me.
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I'm glad you had a good time. It takes wild horses to drag me out of the house! I'm trying to figure out why is that the case for me. I don't know if it's some pyschological conditioning that has been placed o me.. it's exhausting for me to leave. It's exhausting for me to stay out when I'm with my children.
Do you feel you are naturally a homebody, or is it something else?
Do you feel you have energy to go out and do for your boys, but have none left for yourself? Is it a trust issue?
 
caribeandiva said:
About to cut off a long time "friend" and I'm struggling with it. I mentioned her and her shenanigans in another thread in the past. I'm conflicted though. Maybe because we were high school friends.
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I had a friend like this from college. I cannot completely cut her loose. But I feed her with a verrrry long handled spoon, talk very seldom, try not to overshare etc. It has worked out fine. At one point I cut her off completely but something happened where we had to speak again. I think it's hard because friends like this are almost like family.
 
shortdub78 said:
I'm glad you had a good time. It takes wild horses to drag me out of the house! I'm trying to figure out why is that the case for me. I don't know if it's some pyschological conditioning that has been placed o me.. it's exhausting for me to leave. It's exhausting for me to stay out when I'm with my children.
Do you feel you are naturally a homebody, or is it something else?
Do you feel you have energy to go out and do for your boys, but have none left for yourself? Is it a trust issue?
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GREAT QUESTIONS!!!!
I am naturally a homebody. I love being at home in my room reading, crochet, tv. Just being. I think since my son left I got into this pattern where I go straight home and revel in the silence and that I don't have to "do" anything. It's amazing. Don't have to worry about dinner, lay naked across my bed without somebody busting in,....lol. But I don't want to be a hermit all my life. So I need to find a balance.
And I DEFINITELY have trust issues. Trying to get better, put myself out there a little bit more. Give people a chance.
The friend that I mentioned, we were pretty tight. I've known her almost 15 years. But she's bad about calling, texting, or returning messages. I got tired of being the one always reaching out and planning stuff. So I retreated. For her to call me and invite me out was HUGE.
 
People get on my nerves. I had planned to meet up with 2 friends today after work to celebrate one's new job quietly and separately before the big group celebration next week. So on Monday the one with the new job says he'll have to let us know tomorrow (which was yesterday) if we're still on because he might have other plans. Cool. Get back to us. So last night rolls around and we don't still don't hear from him so me and friend #2 do a group text "hey, are we still on for tomorrow?" I mean he has to know by now right? We cement the plans the day before so we all know what we're doing tomorrow and I can pick my outfit and all that. lol Friend #2 says she bets he's planning on letting us know at 4:30 when we're about to leave work. Is that right? He hasn't responded so in my head we are not going out. I took myself out a nice big juicy porkchop defrosting in the refrigerator as we speak. And I will be heading home straight after work to put that bad boy on the grill, make myself a drink and call it a night. I'll see you at the group party next week my friend.
 
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crlsweetie912 said:
GREAT QUESTIONS!!!!
I am naturally a homebody. I love being at home in my room reading, crochet, tv. Just being. I think since my son left I got into this pattern where I go straight home and revel in the silence and that I don't have to "do" anything. It's amazing. Don't have to worry about dinner, lay naked across my bed without somebody busting in,....lol. But I don't want to be a hermit all my life. So I need to find a balance.
And I DEFINITELY have trust issues. Trying to get better, put myself out there a little bit more. Give people a chance.
The friend that I mentioned, we were pretty tight. I've known her almost 15 years. But she's bad about calling, texting, or returning messages. I got tired of being the one always reaching out and planning stuff. So I retreated. For her to call me and invite me out was HUGE.
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I'm the same and for homebodies and introverts it can feel like such a chore inviting people out or even accepting invites. I get in my friendly moods sometimes and I'm gung ho to hang and when the day rolls around I will scramble to make an excuse so I can stay inside. I've gotten better with this because (I've said this before) the few friends I have I would like to keep and I have to make sure I nurture those relationships if I want to do that. A few years ago one of my good friends wanted to hang out. We agreed on a time and place and the day before I had sent her a text just bs'ing about nothing because I saw something that reminded me of her. You know what she said? Are you texting because you want to cancel? It's ok if you do. That made me feel bad because it had become my "thing". I vowed to really try to keep my friendships alive with the ones that were trying with me. So now it's an equal balance of both of us reaching out and it doesn't feel so difficult for me anymore. Now...new friends is a different story. :lol:
 
crlsweetie912 said:
GREAT QUESTIONS!!!!
I am naturally a homebody. I love being at home in my room reading, crochet, tv. Just being. I think since my son left I got into this pattern where I go straight home and revel in the silence and that I don't have to "do" anything. It's amazing. Don't have to worry about dinner, lay naked across my bed without somebody busting in,....lol. But I don't want to be a hermit all my life. So I need to find a balance.
And I DEFINITELY have trust issues. Trying to get better, put myself out there a little bit more. Give people a chance.
The friend that I mentioned, we were pretty tight. I've known her almost 15 years. But she's bad about calling, texting, or returning messages. I got tired of being the one always reaching out and planning stuff. So I retreated. For her to call me and invite me out was HUGE.
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I'm the same. #introvertproblems I'm about to take a day off and I'm looking forward to just doing nothing :lol: But I know what you mean. It's like I need time to recharge and have my me time but at the same time I feel like I need to go out and do things.
 
caribeandiva said:
About to cut off a long time "friend" and I'm struggling with it. I mentioned her and her shenanigans in another thread in the past. I'm conflicted though. Maybe because we were high school friends.
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I just had to pull all the way back from a good friend. She got married and had a kid within a short time span. We, her friends, were heavily involved and very supportive. I think she has become accustomed to everything being about her and has forgotten that friendships need to be nurtured on both sides.

She has become selfish and so self involved. Every conversation is about how exhausting motherhood and marriage are. How she doesn't have time for anything. How miserable she is. If you offer her a solution she can't bother to consider it. The infamous "you wouldn't understand because you are single" line is always the response.

I'm very much over it. She rarely asks about anyone else's life or well being. I have distanced myself and let her be. I've given more than enough.
 
Regarding IG video posts (not stories):

You know how you get a little preview of the video as you are scrolling down the timelime? It starts playing without sound even though you didn't press play? Does that count as a "view" and will the person see me on their list of viewers., even though I never manually pressed play?
 
I'm moving to the other side of the planet in ~48hrs!!
So crazy...I don't feel stressed or anything, like this is what supposed to happen. The movers are here to pack up my stuff and I'm sitting here like :drunk: :eek: :abducted:

Everyone is asking me if I'm nervous, but I'm not lol I'm just like, :look:, I'm going to go work in a new office. ::shrugs:: Ready for this new adventure!
 
Miss_Luna said:
I'm moving to the other side of the planet in ~48hrs!!
So crazy...I don't feel stressed or anything, like this is what supposed to happen. The movers are here to pack up my stuff and I'm sitting here like :drunk: :eek: :abducted:

Everyone is asking me if I'm nervous, but I'm not lol I'm just like, :look:, I'm going to go work in a new office. ::shrugs:: Ready for this new adventure!
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Yay! This is so exciting! I am so happy for you to be starting a new and wonderful adventure! Go Miss_Luna :woot:.
 
TwoSnapsUp said:
Regarding IG video posts (not stories):

You know how you get a little preview of the video as you are scrolling down the timelime? It starts playing without sound even though you didn't press play? Does that count as a "view" and will the person see me on their list of viewers., even though I never manually pressed play?
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Idk. Did you figure this out?

Browndilocks said:
Homecation is winding down & im trying not to get in my feelings. Grateful for the good time I had. :)
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Good for you! What did you do?
 
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