Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

crlsweetie912 said:
Yeah. My sister said the same thing. You lived your whole life for those kids.... BE SELFISH AND DO YOU! I realized I don't even know how...
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Take it one day at a time. I understand how you feel. Go back to crafting! That's a first! Sit in your room naked and eat cookies with ice cream! You are naked and you don't have to share! Lol make yourself a nice adult gourmet meal! No more chicken tenders and French fries! Lol change the scent in your home!
 
shortdub78 said:
Take it one day at a time. I understand how you feel. Go back to crafting! That's a first! Sit in your room naked and eat cookies with ice cream! You are naked and you don't have to share! Lol make yourself a nice adult gourmet meal! No more chicken tenders and French fries! Lol change the scent in your home!
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Wanted to add have sex, lots and lots of sex. Get some toys too while you're at it. :yep: You're welcome.
 
hopeful said:
You may not know how yet but you can learn! Listen to your sister. Time for your life to be about YOU.
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Thanks. I'm really trying!!!
shortdub78 said:
Take it one day at a time. I understand how you feel. Go back to crafting! That's a first! Sit in your room naked and eat cookies with ice cream! You are naked
and you don't have to share! Lol make yourself a nice adult gourmet meal! No more chicken tenders and French fries! Lol change the scent in your home!
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:lachen: Great advice. Thank you!
caribeandiva said:
Wanted to add have sex, lots and lots of sex. Get some toys too while you're at it. :yep: You're welcome.
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:dead:
Yall are a mess. Won't nobody act right for all of that!!!!
 
caribeandiva said:
:lachen::lachen:It's cuz we love you boo :angeldevil:
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Right! And report back! You deserve all the happiness your heart can hold. And decide moving forward to never be the sacrifice again for anybody. Putting others before us on a consistent basis never pays off. Self first. Self preservation is the first law of nature. Remember that. So party, laugh, make gourmet meals for one, and :bdance::kiss4::naughtycouch::oops::driver:. All about you now chica.
 
I'm moving far far away, very soon. I've only told my close friends and family and strangely enough, coworkers.

None of my social media has my information so my distant family, literally like 150 people (first and second cousins), don't know that I'm moving.

I leave in like 10 days. I'm not sure if I want to put it on social media or not. I was going to just wait until I got there, but I would feel bad that I didn't give people a chance to see me before I left. I won't be back, permanently, for another ~5 years.
 
@Miss_Luna
What's holding you back from posting on social media? Maybe you can send a private message to a group of people that you believe might miss you and would want to see you. Not 150 people, but maybe 50? Whatever you are up to, good luck. Are you excited about the move?
 
hopeful said:
@Miss_Luna
What's holding you back from posting on social media? Maybe you can send a private message to a group of people that you believe might miss you and would want to see you. Not 150 people, but maybe 50? Whatever you are up to, good luck. Are you excited about the move?
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Thank you @hopeful

I don't want to post, because I don't want to make it seem like I'm boasting. I know for a fact that there are people in my circle that aren't happy for me, people very close to me. If I tell a few, it will eventually get to the people close to me because I know some of these people through the 'bad' connections. For example, I know Suzy through Becky;Becky is resentful because she feels like she should have what I have, but Suzy doesn't know that and will definitely discuss her happiness for me with Becky. I just don't want that bad energy going into this new chapter.

I am very excited about this move...like, life-changing and nothing I could have ever imagined. So many opportunities came to me once I just let go of controlling everything, only after literally almost losing it all. My life is far from perfect and people like Becky don't know how many nights I cried to get to this point, so I don't care to share this with people like her. However, for every Becky, there are 100+ Suzy's rooting for me and I would love to share this with them.
 
I understand. Go with your gut. If I were you I'd just go and share later. Sounds like the positive energy and support is very important to you. Once you get there and get settled you probably won't care who knows. Congrats my dear! Way to go! The most important people already know. The rest will learn soon enough.
 
Miss_Luna said:
Thank you @hopeful

I don't want to post, because I don't want to make it seem like I'm boasting. I know for a fact that there are people in my circle that aren't happy for me, people very close to me. If I tell a few, it will eventually get to the people close to me because I know some of these people through the 'bad' connections. For example, I know Suzy through Becky;Becky is resentful because she feels like she should have what I have, but Suzy doesn't know that and will definitely discuss her happiness for me with Becky. I just don't want that bad energy going into this new chapter.

I am very excited about this move...like, life-changing and nothing I could have ever imagined. So many opportunities came to me once I just let go of controlling everything, only after literally almost losing it all. My life is far from perfect and people like Becky don't know how many nights I cried to get to this point, so I don't care to share this with people like her. However, for every Becky, there are 100+ Suzy's rooting for me and I would love to share this with them.
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I think you should post, due to the bolded.

Realistically, if you have a few hating arse Beckys, you're only around for 10 more days. I'm sure you'll be so busy getting yourself in order, they won't even be on your radar.
 
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MzLady78 said:
I think you should post, due to the bolded.

Realistically, if you have a few hating arse Becky's, you're only around for 10 more days. I'm sure you'll be so busy getting yourself in order, they won't even be on your radar.
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Agreed. I will probably wait until a day or two before.

I might just text a few family members and ask them to share. I live in a different state from them, but I'm also changing my number :look: so they'll get the new number to contact me while I'm away.

Thanks for the advice ladies @hopeful and @MzLady78
 
Miss_Luna said:
Agreed. I will probably wait until a day or two before.

I might just text a few family members and ask them to share. I live in a different state from them, but I'm also changing my number :look: so they'll get the new number to contact me while I'm away.

Thanks for the advice ladies @hopeful and @MzLady78
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You're welcome! I hope everything goes well and best of luck in this new chapter!
 
outspokenwallflower said:
Need to do something about my self esteem/how I gauge my self-worth. It's seriously lacking and the way I let people treat/hurt me is evidence of such. If I had my head on right and I was a little selfish for once, maybe I'd stop having the same issues. :nono:
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It all starts with you. Self first. It takes practice. Choosing you and your needs again and again. Choosing and honoring you isn't selfish. It's being smart and kind.
 
I have come to realize the EVERYONE in my life uses me. In the past few years (probably since turning 40) I came to this epiphany. Everybody is out for something. I have been a giving, loving and caring person in my whole life. And everyone that is close to me takes advantage of that. I have changed a lot, my NO game is strong. But still this happens. SMH. Just venting I guess.
 
hopeful said:
@Miss_Luna
How's everything going? Any updates? .
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Hello @hopeful Thanks for checking in. :bighug:
Flight was pushed back a week because I couldn't get all my stuff shipped in time, but making progress. I made a slightly cryptic post on social media last week because I was overwhelmed with packing and got bored lol. The only comments were from people that actually know I'm leaving; it may have went over everyone else's head, which is fine with me.

I'm excited. Signed my lease today, but since the time difference is 10hrs, I'm always behind in getting my paperwork to them. Overall, I'm just ready to go. I've unfollowed people on FB so if they are talking about me I won't see it anyway, which is better for me.
 
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