Men-free Zone ~ The Non-romantic Relationship Thread

caribeandiva said:
Not at all. Better yet, next time he says that just give him the blank stare for an uncomfortably long time. You're a grown woman. You can decide how to wear your damn hair.
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It was a fool commenting on my FB post about wearing my hair again after getting bored with my wig. I asked him if he was coming over to do my hair every morning.

I'm not even sure why I'm still friends with him (ex bf from over 20 years ago). I find him grosss on multiple levels.
 
MzLady78 said:
It was a fool commenting on my FB post about wearing my hair again after getting bored with my wig. I asked him if he was coming over to do my hair every morning.

I'm not even sure why I'm still friends with him (ex bf from over 20 years ago). I find him grosss on multiple levels.
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I would delete or hide his comment and unfriend him as well. Why give anymore energy to this fool? Or give him any attention? He may care about your hair or just want to annoy you. But I'm sure you could care less about who he dates. It's all just a waste of time and energy.
 
hopeful said:
I would delete or hide his comment and unfriend him as well. Why give anymore energy to this fool? Or give him any attention? He may care about your hair or just want to annoy you. But I'm sure you could care less about who he dates. It's all just a waste of time and energy.
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He rarely comments on my posts and I'm not following him. I forget we're even friends until pops up outta nowhere.

I'm just over negros and their unsolicited opinions about BW's hair, makeup, clothes, etc. Especially coming from this one who probably hasn't been with one since me.
 
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Found out that someone I considered a friend tried to twist something I said to her in front of DH and a few other acquaintances. Thankfully I hate talking on the phone and communicate via text and I'm trying to see where I ever told this girl half of the crap she was spewing and could not find a thing.

Bye Felicia.

This is why I stick to the people that know me. I told DH I am not engaging with her ever again and he's like you can't just stop talking to people like that.

Psssh :abducted:
 
IslandMummy said:
Found out that someone I considered a friend tried to twist something I said to her in front of DH and a few other acquaintances. Thankfully I hate talking on the phone and communicate via text and I'm trying to see where I ever told this girl half of the crap she was spewing and could not find a thing.

Bye Felicia.

This is why I stick to the people that know me. I told DH I am not engaging with her ever again and he's like you can't just stop talking to people like that.

Psssh :abducted:
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Why not? :look:
 
Y'all! My sister is bugged out. I haven't spoken to her in 2 weeks - or rather she hasn't spoke to me. On Thursday my phone was acting weird and it wouldn't connect. I couldn't make calls, I couldn't get on the internet nothing. I noticed it early in the morning and restarted my phone but it still wasn't fixed. My mother called me at work asking me why I wasn't answering her text messages.

Anyway...so on Friday when my phone was back to normal all the text messages from the day before came in from everyone. There was one from my sister saying "did you block me?" Weird question considering the day she stopped speaking to me she said she was going to block me. So I just responded "no". She writes back "well I'm blocked on social media but that's ok" Y'all I don't even have social media. I have an Instagram account that used to be hers that I barely use. I hardly ever go on and while I'm sure it's pretty simple I don't readily know how to block people. She's taking screen shots and everything talking about she can't see my posts so she knows I blocked her. She was gaslighting me like a mug because she knows I'm social media challenged and I don't know how any of it works. I was looking at my phone like she's really sitting her trying to convince me I blocked her with some bogus arse screenshots?

I was like yo wtf is your problem bro? lmao Are you crazy? This is ridiculous! I sent her one last text saying I couldn't believe she reached out just to start another argument. She lies again and says no she reached out to tell me she saw a picture of me with the baby and wanted to tell me it was cute. For real though? How come aint none of those messages come through except the one where you asked if I blocked you? My mother was like why am I letting her suck me in and all I could say was ma, the twilight zone is real and she lives in it. She was the reason I had trouble meditating over the weekend. What am I gonna do about this?
 
KammyGirl said:
Y'all! My sister is bugged out. I haven't spoken to her in 2 weeks - or rather she hasn't spoke to me. On Thursday my phone was acting weird and it wouldn't connect. I couldn't make calls, I couldn't get on the internet nothing. I noticed it early in the morning and restarted my phone but it still wasn't fixed. My mother called me at work asking me why I wasn't answering her text messages.

Anyway...so on Friday when my phone was back to normal all the text messages from the day before came in from everyone. There was one from my sister saying "did you block me?" Weird question considering the day she stopped speaking to me she said she was going to block me. So I just responded "no". She writes back "well I'm blocked on social media but that's ok" Y'all I don't even have social media. I have an Instagram account that used to be hers that I barely use. I hardly ever go on and while I'm sure it's pretty simple I don't readily know how to block people. She's taking screen shots and everything talking about she can't see my posts so she knows I blocked her. She was gaslighting me like a mug because she knows I'm social media challenged and I don't know how any of it works. I was looking at my phone like she's really sitting her trying to convince me I blocked her with some bogus arse screenshots?

I was like yo wtf is your problem bro? lmao Are you crazy? This is ridiculous! I sent her one last text saying I couldn't believe she reached out just to start another argument. She lies again and says no she reached out to tell me she saw a picture of me with the baby and wanted to tell me it was cute. For real though? How come aint none of those messages come through except the one where you asked if I blocked you? My mother was like why am I letting her suck me in and all I could say was ma, the twilight zone is real and she lives in it. She was the reason I had trouble meditating over the weekend. What am I gonna do about this?
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See my above post re:

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Everybody can get it.
 
IslandMummy said:
Found out that someone I considered a friend tried to twist something I said to her in front of DH and a few other acquaintances. Thankfully I hate talking on the phone and communicate via text and I'm trying to see where I ever told this girl half of the crap she was spewing and could not find a thing.

Bye Felicia.

This is why I stick to the people that know me. I told DH I am not engaging with her ever again and he's like you can't just stop talking to people like that.

Psssh :abducted:
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I fall off of the earth! lol I will go ghost on somebody in a minute. I don't get in mess when it comes to women.
 
So a lot of the things I'm reading, and watching are about focusing on self. Is focusing on self hard to do? I can't stay focused on self. I will get busy, then become bored, or complacent. I don't want to be in a relationship, and I don't want to know how to deal with, or charm men. I'll be 40 next year, and I really wanna go into my 40's in a new direction. I wanna be comfortable with being alone. I have to much at stake to want to entertain another man. I usually always have a replacement, when the old relationship doesn't work out anymore. Every time I get my life back in order, i allow an out of order man to come in and jack everything up. I'm tired of the cycle. I wanna evolve.
 
This weekend will be a nice one. I'm going to have a girls day with my mom tomorrow. Errands, shopping and lunch. And Sunday is all mine. Brunch, bookstore and beauty supply store. I am so excited to spend some time with myself. I need it because work has been sucking big time lately.
 
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I stay repeating myself! lol that's why I don't like journals! Lol
I had a good day yesterday. I spent time with my family, and got some great news!
I'm all about school today.
I am so thankful for my sister. She has really been my rock. She lets me cry, vent, share my thoughts, etc...
I wanna make something for her grandbaby. I need to hurry up with this class, so I can get started!
 
I've noticed that everytime I talk to this acquaintance of mine, she disrupts my spirit. She has told me that she has a spiritual gift and she speaks as if God only talks to people through her. I don't think that God-sent people should be disrupting the spirit of other folks.

I have distanced myself from her. She wanted to talk daily and I minimized it to once a week at best. I think I should just fall all the way back.
 
TwoSnapsUp said:
I'm annoyed with my (recently reunited) friend. He expressed his wish to see me soon to catch up, but he hasn't even asked for my number. What are we going to do? DM each otber for directions?

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I had a friend like this. I knew her for years and years. We met at happy hour. Both of us were alone just having a drink after work and we hit it off. It wasn't weird when she gave me her email address instead of number because I assumed we wouldn't talk again after that but she emailed me the next day and we hung out that weekend. And this was how we communicated, made plans, caught up, etc. for years. I think in all the years I knew her we spoke on the phone one time. The last straw was we planned to meet up on Christmas Eve once. I couldn't find the restaurant and she hadn't called me or responded to my emails. She finally emailed me from some random email address after a half hour of me walking around lost talking about she forgot to tell me she changed her email. :rolleyes: I kindly went home and spent Christmas Eve alone. This is part of the reason we don't talk anymore.
 
Just like with a romantic relationship we sometimes start to reminisce about an old friendship and tend to forget why you lost touch. Sometimes a friendship lost stem because of flaky or bad behavior............

For instance, an old friend invited us over for cookout/crabs - cool! I "forgot" that she is a messy drunk and it got very MESSY!
 
CurliDiva said:
Just like with a romantic relationship we sometimes start to reminisce about an old friendship and tend to forget why you lost touch. Sometimes a friendship lost stem because of flaky or bad behavior............

For instance, an old friend invited us over for cookout/crabs - cool! I "forgot" that she is a messy drunk and it got very MESSY!
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we have to protect our space!
 
shortdub78 said:
I stay repeating myself! lol that's why I don't like journals!
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I know right? :lol: What helps me is to talk about my feelings, my true feelings about things, events, people? Etc.. It's where I dump out all of those thoughts and emotions. I don't censor myself at all. If it comes to mind I write it down. So my journal is riddled with profanity. :lachen:The point is, it's the one place you can truly be yourself and not get judged for it
 
caribeandiva said:
I know right? :lol: What helps me is to talk about my feelings, my true feelings about things, events, people? Etc.. It's where I dump out all of those thoughts and emotions. I don't censor myself at all. If it comes to mind I write it down. So my journal is riddled with profanity. :lachen:The point is, it's the one place you can truly be yourself and not get judged for it
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Girl my journals would look like a crazy person wrote them. Mindset is stuck. It's been stuck for years. I wrote an email 4 years ago, and it saying the exact same thing I said a months ago. That's insane! That's the definition of insanity!
I can talk reckless to my sister and brother and they will still love me in the morning! Lol
 
My friends and I were supposed to go to the beach last Saturday. Well we get there and it's pouring rain! We checked all nearby beaches within a 50 mile radius and it's raining there too... for hours! So we changed plans. We found out that one of our favorite bands was playing that same night in Miami. It was our friend's birthday So we turned it into an impromptu girls trip, booked a hotel and turnt up all weekend!! Man, it was fun!! We got in for free AND got VIP seats with bottle service included! I'm glad I wasn't the designated driver because I got drunk and could barely walk straight by the time we got back to our hotel. :lol: we danced with so many guys! We decided to go watch: "Girls trip" as a fitting end to OUR girls trip. That movie had the whole theater howling! It was so good!! Now I'm tired as heck tryna recover from my weekend. I wore heels all weekend so my feet as sore right now. :lol:
 
shortdub78 said:
Girl my journals would look like a crazy person wrote them. Mindset is stuck. It's been stuck for years. I wrote an email 4 years ago, and it saying the exact same thing I said a months ago. That's insane! That's the definition of insanity!
I can talk reckless to my sister and brother and they will still love me in the morning! Lol
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This is why I got rid of mine. They were literally never-ending gripe sessions about what dude I was dealing with or trying to get over at the time. Me proclaiming "never again" but writing the same crap about someone else a year later. Same script, different cast. It was depressing to read and feel like I hadn't grown or made any progress. You would think I had NOTHING good happening in my life cuz that's all I talked about.
 
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