You should tell your cousin to date older woman (over 40). He doesn't sound like a "successful" catch for any one who's in their prime (under 35). He's got not only emotional baggage, but financial baggage by being only 37 with two kids (especially if the kids are under the age of 10). What young woman would want to seriously see a future (financially) with a man who has two young kids he has to take care of and pay child support for? That's money taken away from her and their relationship. I think women who are under 30 shouldn't date men with kids period, but especially men with two young children. Over 30, but under 35, I would say not to date men who has more than one child, from a financial long-term stand point.
I don't feel like typing an entire long response to these recent posts, but I do want to say I think @Menina Preta @barbiesocialite and @ScorpioBeauty09 can all be right. I posted something years ago about Black UE men not getting me because I was too wild and carefree. Then I changed how I presented myself.
My SO knows I'm wild AF and doesn't mind. I can drink basically to oblivion and he's my DD. He'll have water with some Advil next to my side of the bed and bacon and eggs ready the next morning. My second time to his place I showed up in sweats. He was the one who told me to go ahead and bring my dog along for sleepovers. His place isn't dog friendly.
He and I have an ease around each other that neither of us felt with anyone else. Granted, we are both into zodiac signs, birth charts, chakras and the like so we..."read" situations (for lack of a better term) differently than most. But, basically, there are highly successful, chivalrous, caring, handsome, eligible BM out there. Approaching people while your mind isn't set to "neutral" might have you miss that.
My Black friend in grad school told me she doesn't date Black guys. When we'd go out, I would literally be disgusted because she'd give the most ugly white dudes a chance to buy her a drink and chat her up...but she'd have the screw face on when a Black guy would approach her. She turned them and herself off before giving them a chance.
I SAID I wasn't going to type much.
Girl, don't fall for the okie dokie with these "successful" men! I dated a man who was a divorcee 38 years old, with two young children (under the age of 12) who owned a house and he fronted like he had money. I was snooping one day, and found out the amount his bills were and how much he paid for child support, and with more observations, he had help (i.e. parents, ex-wife) buying his house, car, and his lifestyle, that this "seemingly" perfect man was more of liability than an asset in the long term. Not worth it! Women do better dating men with less baggage for long-term economic perseverance.
I've said before that I have never come across any bw married to bm who are housewives and errbody ran forth to tell me how just cuz I didn't see it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Well, the descriptions here of what IBM's (impossible black man) ambition requirements support my experience. Even in the "why are your good black male friends single" dudes are not about that SAH life for a partner.....unless they go on to choose non black but I digress.
Pardon, you are correct. I did not provide citation for one of my statements..
If you have never met a black housewife married to a black man then that explains a whole lot regarding your experiences with black marriage and dating in general. Heck my mom has 2 sisters who never worked outside the home until their children no longer required them ( finished high school) and then they got "hobby jobs" to keep them occupied. My own mother didn't work until my parents divorced. I never had to look far for examples of the possibilities of black love so I never thought it was impossible.
Well, unlike giant talking M&Ms, they DO exist. I know some.
