NYLegalNewbie
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So, about a month and a half ago or so, I went out with my friend, as well as a bunch of her friends, her boyfriend and a few of her boyfriend's friends. One of her boyfriend's friends was a pretty cute guy who was checking me out from the moment he got there. We chatted and he seemed nice. He asked me what I did and I told him (I'm an attorney at a large law firm in Manhattan), however, I didn't ask him what he did in return at that moment. We continued talking, and he mentioned something about working late, and I was like "What the heck do you do that makes you have to work so late?" And he responded, "Oh, I'm a security guard."
I'll admit, my interest level decreased quite a bit. Whenever I meet a guy who I know makes a lot less than me, a flood of questions goes through my head - I wonder if we'd really have much to talk about or much in common. I also wonder if both of us would be okay with the income disparity (i.e. would he feel emasculated). And, because I've found myself in this situation before, I wonder if I'll be looked to to foot the bill for everything.
We continued talking for a bit, and then I went off to talk to some of my other friends and my friend's friends. We spoke a few times the rest of the night, but not a whole ton. When I left, I made sure to say bye to him, but he didn't ask for my number. I would've given it to him if he would've asked - he was an attractive guy, nice and funny, so, why not?
So, the other day, I saw my friend and she was mentioning to me, "Oh, my boyfriend's friend really liked you A LOT. But, here's the crazy thing...I found out that he LIED to you about what he does. He's an attorney too!"
I was like "WTF!?!?!? WHY?"
Her: "I dunno...but my boyfriend says he does that to women sometimes."
What kind of sh*t is that????? Does he think he's somehow "testing" somebody by LYING about his job? Honestly, to me, it shows he's had some issues with women and his job in the past. But, seriously, negro, I ain't lookin' to nobody to be my gravy train...
I'll admit, my interest level decreased quite a bit. Whenever I meet a guy who I know makes a lot less than me, a flood of questions goes through my head - I wonder if we'd really have much to talk about or much in common. I also wonder if both of us would be okay with the income disparity (i.e. would he feel emasculated). And, because I've found myself in this situation before, I wonder if I'll be looked to to foot the bill for everything.
We continued talking for a bit, and then I went off to talk to some of my other friends and my friend's friends. We spoke a few times the rest of the night, but not a whole ton. When I left, I made sure to say bye to him, but he didn't ask for my number. I would've given it to him if he would've asked - he was an attractive guy, nice and funny, so, why not?
So, the other day, I saw my friend and she was mentioning to me, "Oh, my boyfriend's friend really liked you A LOT. But, here's the crazy thing...I found out that he LIED to you about what he does. He's an attorney too!"
I was like "WTF!?!?!? WHY?"
Her: "I dunno...but my boyfriend says he does that to women sometimes."
What kind of sh*t is that????? Does he think he's somehow "testing" somebody by LYING about his job? Honestly, to me, it shows he's had some issues with women and his job in the past. But, seriously, negro, I ain't lookin' to nobody to be my gravy train...