bklynLadee
Well-Known Member
Okay so...Im reading through this thread:
https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/entitlement-value-the-pedestal-black-girl-to-wife.799201/
And I begin to really think through my marriage...my relationships with men actually.
Growing up, I always got what I wanted, at least more than my sisters. My sisters felt that I was inconsiderate and I just felt like "you have not because you ask not" the word "no" never really mattered to me because some how my parents would always turn around and give me what I wanted.
Fast forward to me being married and I find myself always bending to his needs. Even before marriage it was like this but it got worse when I received this advice from a Christian woman who was successfully married for 19 years and counting.
"Develop an appetite according to what your husband can provide" --she said.
"Don't put your trust and expectations in your husband -give it to God" --she said.
"You're husband is not your source, God is your source" -- she said.
And so, two years into my marriage I began to put on my muzzle --- demanded even less and decided to understand.
Now --- I'm left hungry. And it's my fault because I allowed it. But i'd like to consider the advice she gave as a BETA trial period. Can I roll out a new motto? Has anyone re-routed a selfish husband into a selfless one? I need some role reversal.
https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/entitlement-value-the-pedestal-black-girl-to-wife.799201/
And I begin to really think through my marriage...my relationships with men actually.
Growing up, I always got what I wanted, at least more than my sisters. My sisters felt that I was inconsiderate and I just felt like "you have not because you ask not" the word "no" never really mattered to me because some how my parents would always turn around and give me what I wanted.
Fast forward to me being married and I find myself always bending to his needs. Even before marriage it was like this but it got worse when I received this advice from a Christian woman who was successfully married for 19 years and counting.
"Develop an appetite according to what your husband can provide" --she said.
"Don't put your trust and expectations in your husband -give it to God" --she said.
"You're husband is not your source, God is your source" -- she said.
And so, two years into my marriage I began to put on my muzzle --- demanded even less and decided to understand.
Now --- I'm left hungry. And it's my fault because I allowed it. But i'd like to consider the advice she gave as a BETA trial period. Can I roll out a new motto? Has anyone re-routed a selfish husband into a selfless one? I need some role reversal.