Dating with HIV

[PlatinumBronze]

WOW ladies! THat was a FAST response! He just came in to talk to me and I minimized the screen coz I felt bad that I was putting him on blast.

I'm not sleeping with him, never have. Never had any contact with him physically.

One of his boys is bi and has it and spreads it to married men, women everyone he can, so it is good that he was honest![/quote]

I wouldn't date him, but as far as his bi friend is concerned that is a serious crime. He should be in prison for MURDER/ATTEMPTED MURDER for trying to spread this disease.

I totally agree. If I knew of someone who was spreading HIV I would report him or her to the police ASAP. That's a serious crime and to me, the person who knows that another person is going around doing that and has not reported it is just as guilty in my book.

As for the friend, I applaud him for being honest but NO I would not date someone who is HIV positive.

 

[Romey]

Heyl nawl! This would be a waste of time, especially if he thinks a relationship is in the future. The idea of dating, last time I checked, was in hopes to have a lasting nonplatonic partnership.

If that truly is the goal then I'd hope you reconsider this. I had two sisters die of this disease. It's very personal to me. Your health is something you don't take for granted. Pray for him and move on quickly.

 

[starfish79]

THANK GOD HE TOLD YOU

but NO
and this is why

1. He has a disease that there is no cure for.
2. there are places where he can meet other people with the same disease.
3. condoms are not 200% safe.
4. why should you risk you life with something that can ravage your health, WHY DOESNT HE CARE ENOUGH TO LEAVE PEOPLE WITHOUT THIS DISEASE ALONE.

I feel that he is selfish and maybe is trying to fit in with regular people as if he does not have a disease that is very disabling.

Hey while we're at it let's just round 'em all up and ship 'em to a deserted island so us regular people can get on with our lives.

 

[Zaynab]

THANK GOD HE TOLD YOU

but NO
and this is why

1. He has a disease that there is no cure for.
2. there are places where he can meet other people with the same disease.
3. condoms are not 200% safe.
4. why should you risk you life with something that can ravage your health, WHY DOESNT HE CARE ENOUGH TO LEAVE PEOPLE WITHOUT THIS DISEASE ALONE.

I feel that he is selfish and maybe is trying to fit in with regular people as if he does not have a disease that is very disabling.

WOW, so these folks aren't regular people Reminds me of how we weren't even considered "whole" people during slavery timeserplexed

 

[determined_to_grow]

Ladies thank you for this thread.

 

[Nefertiti0906]

A gay infected guy I know of openly admits his status up front and was once in a poly-amorous relationship with 3 guys. In his words, they all loved him. But I'm not sure about their status...

 

[caltron]

I voted maybe.

My fiance knows a black woman with HIV who dated HIV- men and ended up marrying an HIV- man. They have been together for a few years and the man is still negative and they had a child together. HIV is no longer considered a terminal disease as long as your seek medical treatment.

So it is possible to date someone with HIV, but it's definitely not something I would enter into casually. I would have to feel very strongly about the person and take things a lot slower--though I guess that is what you're supposed to do anyway.

 

[Bachelorette]

One of his boys is bi and has it and spreads it to married men, women everyone he can, so it is good that he was honest!

Doubt I'd date someone who considers a monster like this as "one of his boys". Probably got it form him anyway

 

[Tru_Mind]

I voted no, because I don't think that I'm prepared for that type of relationship, but give him a lot of credit for being honest and telling you.

I believe that there is a hidden cure, or there will be a cure soon...but until then....

 

[brownbeauty196]

No i would not, thats too much stress to begin a new relationship.

 

[Almaz]

Wow that was EXTREMELY Decent of him to tell you from the get go and give you the option of dating him. G-d Bless him for that. As far as dating I would not. Just couldn't risk it

 

[LadieCrn]

No I couldn't. I wouldn't knowingly date someone with herpes either (ya'll can say what ya'll want and also those valtrex commercials are complete bs)

 

[LivingDol1]

absolutely not.

there's no cure and you'd be putting yourself at risk for contracting an incurable disease... i would never date someone with an incurable, contagious disease. especially if you want to get married and have children of your own. you couldn't do that with someone who has HIV....

thank goodness he was honest. yes, there are places for people with HIV to meet and mingle but unfortunately, a person cannot limit their "soul mates" to a group of people who also have the same disease. so there is nothing wrong with him seeking a relationship with someone who doesn't have HIV... he would just have to meet the "right" person who would be willing to accept that...

so unfortunate.

 

[prettyFine]

He has a Bi HIV spreader friend? Nah, stay far away from him. Who cares what his story is...[/quote] red flags! more than one. plus he has surrounded himself with much to much negativity. good people don't do that. isolated mistakes are 1 thing. a cloud of negative ish is another.

WOW ladies! THat was a FAST response! He just came in to talk to me and I minimized the screen coz I felt bad that I was putting him on blast.

I'm not sleeping with him, never have. Never had any contact with him physically.

One of his boys is bi and has it and spreads it to married men, women everyone he can, so it is good that he was honest!

MAN YOU JUST SCARED THE ISH OUT OF ME! I hear this but you saying it brings it right to my door step! so innocent wives like me are sleeping with their husbands and getting hiv becuase they are creeping? with MEN????
DISGUSTING!!!

you should secretly find out this persons name and report them. no one has to know. you would be saving some poor ladies life. can you imagine if you could keep your moms or sister from getting hiv from their husbands all by reporting them to the health dept??? or police??? do it anonymously and report.

 

[prettyFine]

Yeah, makes me wonder as well. Also, I couldn't be friends with a man that would be selfish enough to spread his positive seed to married men. So the fact that he's friends with someone like that would be a red flag as well.

you are talking just. like. me. i was thinking the same thing girl. he would disgust me and i couldn't stand to hang with dude.

 

[Ivonnovi]

WOW ladies! THat was a FAST response! He just came in to talk to me and I minimized the screen coz I felt bad that I was putting him on blast.

I'm not sleeping with him, never have. Never had any contact with him physically.

One of his boys is bi and has it and spreads it to married men, women everyone he can, so it is good that he was honest!

I'm late chiming in......I know. But have you met this friend? (I'm thinking this could be himself....and maybe he's trying you to see what it would the experience would be if he were honest about his condition)

 

[music-bnatural-smile]

theres a lot of healthy men out there... maybe yall can be friends =)

 

[music-bnatural-smile]

and btw... my SO, brother, father, cousins, and also my puppy (all the males in my life) hang out with STRAIGHT men because they are STRAIGHT...
I have nothing against gay men or lesbians... in fact, I have a lesbian friend from childhood (whom I talk to on the phone lol)
however... theres somethin different about a straight black man chillin with bi guys... i just havent seen it before... i also roll with a foreign few (jamaicans africans trinis etc.) and culturally my folks just don't really get down with that...
yikes

 

[weaveadiva]

yes, there are places for people with HIV to meet and mingle but unfortunately, a person cannot limit their "soul mates" to a group of people who also have the same disease. so there is nothing wrong with him seeking a relationship with someone who doesn't have HIV... he would just have to meet the "right" person who would be willing to accept that...

so unfortunate.

thanks so much for the bolded
we're not better than him because we are HIV-free, nor should we dictate who he can or can't date

 

[BrooklynSouth]

No, knowing the person is positive..NO! I empathize with the people who are positive but I'd have to decline.

 

[Kerryann]

thank god he told you but dont treat him bad he can still be a good friend. just imagine all the people you came across with it that looks fine as heck but u dont have the slightest idea they are sick