I read more posts and sometimes I feel like I'm gyping my man. I did however get inspired by this thread and I read the article and immediately emailed to him. I think we have some talking to do. (For better or worse).
I think libido has a lot to do with your overall health and emotional state. If you're feeling good, you want to share your body with your SO, but if you're feeling insecure (ie weight gain or loss or scars or a pooch, whatever), or you're hanging on to bad feelings (ie: you're still mad about Valentines day or even Christmas) then getting turned on just doesn't happen very easily. So it seems the key to a healthy libidois being happy with yourself, your situation, and of course your SO.