With my last long term relationship I indirectly offered him my number and he called the same night (I thought I had lost an item and asked him to call me in case he found it). I never did find the shirt but we dated for 6.5 years.
With DH when we first met I told him that he needed some chapstick and proceeded to give him some. He's been stuck since
i missed dis memo. there are a lot of places to go in da dmv. i've met men at the Safeway (Clinton, MD)(late night). Neva go on a early sat or sun. NEVER. Fish Market in Clinton, ummm.....there are a ton of places that I go to. In fact, a friend of mines (him and his wife) are having a Christmas Party at his mansion in Fort Washington Maryland and there will be tons of men there, cuz trust n believe, where there are men, I'm there lololol.. he has this party every year.
i really don't think there is a specific place to go to get approached. it could be anywhere. the car wash, home depot, gas station, da licka sto, U Street in da summer time...(that outdoor flea market), Adams Morgan, you'd be surprised.
for example, this morning, i was buying my coffee at the 7-11, and was short $.69. I knew I had it, but had to dig down my bottomless pit bag to find it. This nice looking brother (blue collar) said do you need some change. I said yes, I sure do. He said here you go sweetheart, and I looked him in his eyes (eye contact) and said thank you, you're a lifesaver and a sweetheartHe smiled, we chit chatted out the door. his car was parked next to mines, and we exchanged numbers.
oh, and for da record, i was lookin a hot mess. da wig was on crooked (wasn't pulled down all da way in da back cuz i felt a draft), i had on my "runnin to da 7-11 right quick to get coffee" jeans n sneakers on.
men love to feel needed. even tho it was only 69 cents, he offered, which was nice of him. it was the thought that counts. now just because i have his number and vice versa doesn't mean we will become intimate friends. i look at it as i met a nice man today. das it n das all.
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Celina, we are going to have to stage an intervention for you. This is getting out of control. Do any LHCFers live in your area?
I was a magnet when I was younger because I got out when I was younger. Short of God sending me a cat burglar or washer of skyscraper windows (because heaven knows I stare wistful out of my office window often), I am probably not going to be able to couple up at this point in my life until I can have an actual social life.
OP, how much do you get out?
I have a demanding job (as I have mentioned before) that means sometimes, I don't get to go out in the daytime at all for weeks on end. Needless to say, I don't get approached when I am at my desk, except to do more work. During those dull periods, I can really get myself down wondering why I am single. I used to be such a magnet when I was younger.
And then I get to go to a party or event, get approached, and realize that, duh, this is the longest I have been single because in this period of my life, I am simply not getting to go out at all for the most part.
In my experience, though, I don't get approached at parties and clubs . . . too much competition. I'm more likely to be approached walking down the street. (Which goes back to the first problem you noted . . . gotta go outside more - literally!)
