there was an episode of scandal like this it was soooo goodI knew a mistress who was with a well known and respected man in the community. She had a baby for him. He upped and died and she was not even allowed at the funeral. She had to view the body in the middle of the night like a thief after the deceased persons brother arranged it with the funeral home. This is does not apply to everyone who chooses this lifestyle. But I have known a few mistresses. Some of them seem to be the kind of women who are so afraid of being hurt by men that the pre-empt what they think is the inevitable. They think that being the mistress means that they will never be hurt by lies and deceit. Because they know the score from the get go... But in the end they are just damaged flowers trying to protect themselves from the pain they think is inevitable...
If you do decide to stay please please use protection forever. The average marriage is well under 20 years. Well under. You have to be your own forever.
There are plenty of couples who chose condoms. And she now knows he doesn't protect himself (thereby his family) when with others and will bring back an Std. She has a choice to protect HERSELF now that she knows.But how realistic is that? They're married. What's done is done. He needs to keep his penis in his pants. They need therapy or she may decide that he isn't worth the investment anymore, which he may very well not be. There's nothing wrong with either choice, staying married or leaving. If staying married a the choice, I don't think using protection forever is realistic. Eventually she will have to trust again which should take as long as she feels comfortable.
............There are plenty of couples who chose condoms. And she now knows he doesn't protect himself (thereby his family) when with others and will bring back an Std. She has a choice to protect HERSELF now that she knows.
He did use condoms. Unfortunately condoms are not infallible. One came off.
I'm not ok with giving relationship advice given the serious of the posters condition. Sometimes you just listen and nod.
I have no comment on relationship. But condom usage when non monogamous I shout from the mountain top.I'm not ok with giving relationship advice given the serious of the posters condition. Sometimes you just listen and nod.
It actually is helping; being honest. I haven't spoken with a counselor and this is next best...
I see I may have made some people uncomfortable so I did delete the post. I can't delete the quotes though. That wasn't my intent. I really appreciate everyone that gave me words of support because until now I hadn't told anyone.Kilacurlz my mind is still trying to process everything you just posted. But, you may want to think about deleting it. Please go see a counselor to help you through this. You have to get better for your sake and for your children. The ish he did was so ****** wrong, but don't let it break you. Be strong. You will get through this. Sent from my SCH-I545 using LHCF