i thought it was just me. yall are being super sensitive in this thread considering literally only one poster said "i was a mistress and id do it again."
Yeah I don't get where the shade is coming from.
i thought it was just me. yall are being super sensitive in this thread considering literally only one poster said "i was a mistress and id do it again."
I get your point inch high. And femme fatale I think married men and affairs happen SO often it's not eyebrow raising anymore, so maybe that's what you are seeing. Moreso resignation that this is the truth, than its cool to be bad. I would also like to ask about those women who have said they wouldn't date an older man who had never been married before, because something must be wrong with him. So does it stand to reason by that lhcf logic men who are married are better boyfriends somehow? I have seen that sentiment very often around here and it's quite curious to me. Any takers?
That may cover a few hundred years of western history but I believe marriage was more than that for most of the world, most of the time.
Lawd. Rom-coms got y'all all effed up.
Welp. Good luck out there.
Universal law is more powerful. I don't agree with cheating, but I believe in free will.You can't control what other people do. I mean the very title of thread shows you, your going to read things you don't agree with. I'm married and of course I don't want to be hearing about women cheating with married men, but at the end of the day it exist. Just lead your life by example and fck what other people do.Half the people sharing don't even like men anyway lolYeah I've peeped the "it's cool to be lawless" air, it's trending like those ratchet on fleek eyebrows and MCM bags, lol.
I would also like to ask about those women who have said they wouldn't date an older man who had never been married before, because something must be wrong with him. So does it stand to reason by that lhcf logic men who are married are better boyfriends somehow? I have seen that sentiment very often around here and it's quite curious to me. Any takers?
...or they have proof that they can exist in a relationship or that their minds/emotions were once geared towards a serious relationship - unlike the perpetually single 45 year old. I question that in all of this 40+ years, has he not fallen in love to the point of marriage? Is he anti-marriage? Has he not been serious or been taken seriously? If so, why did it not lead to marriage. Is he avoiding something? To me, the whole history of marriage and commitment let's me know where they have been and maybe where I will be if I choose to date him.
Is he better boyfriend material doe? carcajada Dont avoid me
Is he better boyfriend material doe? carcajada Dont avoid me
No, I don't think people were in denial, they just think it's f-d up that people are cool with it.
Universal law is more powerful. I don't agree with cheating, but I believe in free while. You can't control what other people do. I mean the very title of thread shows you, your going to read things you don't agree with. I'm married and of course I don't want to be hearing about women cheating with married men, but at the end of the day it exist. Just lead your life by example and fck what other people do.
When in reality the man is using them and the woman is getting an ego boost thinking she is favored so much she can make a man disregard his marriage vows. .
Would I be a mistress.. I'd say no. However, as a married woman for almost 25 years, it's been tough to remain faithful and there are plenty of reasons for that, mostly because of an emotional disconnect. Men are physical creatures.. They're easy!!! Just about any women can get a single/married man to sleep with her. That's old as the beginning of time. Great men in the bible were tempted and failed. Men want to leave this earth with as many conquest as possible. However, not sure if most men want to be bothered with a mistress if they are in a more stable married relationship. If they can get sex from time to time with no strings attached, that's one thing but a mistress is work. I know it's hard for the younger women to accept but men will probably have sex outside the marriage without your knowledge. I work in a male dominated environment and have had plenty of discussions with some of the best people that have had outside sexual relationships. Just sex though. They love their wives and families and wouldn't risk that at all. The men that are less fulfilled have mistresses. One in particular has had his mistress for 20 years and still married. Kids are grown now. As a more mature married woman, I don't worry about any of it. I've raised kids, have a great career, close family, good friends, accomplished children and a full life and try to do what's right. I just worry about me and what I need to do in this life. I can't worry myself about what DH is doing. If you live a fulfilled life and do you, there's no time left to worry about something you have no control over.
It was directed toward anybody unwilling to deal with reality.I'm confused. Can you elaborate?
Is this directed at the "I'm a mistress and I'm proud" crowd, the "I've done it before but never again" crowd, the "No way not me" crowd or the "I accept that some men cheat but as long as it's not me and mine then I'm good" crowd. #NoShade #SeriousQuestion
Everyone is being used. The husband is using the mistress for a good time. The husband is using the wife for status and a good mom to his kids. The wife is using the husband for wifely status and a good, dependable household income. The mistress is using the husband for a good time and to fill her pockets. Both husband and wife are using the kids as a distraction for the other and a reason to stay. Friends use one another for company and connections.
Everyone in any relationship on earth is being used for something the other person finds useful. The question is are you receiving what you need to also make it worth your while to be used in that way? For some women it's yes, others no I deserve/ want more. Depends on the person.
It was directed toward anybody unwilling to deal with reality. People seem to be confusing acceptance of the actual world we live in with prescriptive advice. It does me no good to imagine these problems might not come up in a ltr. I came to terms with this as a child. I honestly cannot believe that real life grown women are basically doing the rhetorical equivalent of "". But I'm not entirely surprised.
yep.........I didn't read most of this thread but out of curiosity...is it similar to the *** buddy thread?
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As a more mature married woman, I don't worry about any of it. I've raised kids, have a great career, close family, good friends, accomplished children and a full life and try to do what's right. I just worry about me and what I need to do in this life. I can't worry myself about what DH is doing. If you live a fulfilled life and do you, there's no time left to worry about something you have no control over.
I didn't read most of this thread but out of curiosity...is it similar to the *** buddy thread?