SophieDulce
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Yeah my contingency on fidelity is based on income and lifestyle. So he's currently in stabbing position.lol
Yeah my contingency on fidelity is based on income and lifestyle. So he's currently in stabbing position.lol
But my point was, it still is an acceptable part of society for some.
There's no one-size-fits-all rule in modernity. You'll have to work it out amongst yourselves in a clear and cogent conversation. (ie, 'You know I'll ruin your life, right? Oh, ok, just wanted to be clear. ')
A lot of people (mostly women) get their feelings hurt because they think they're in one type of relationship and the husband is on some other ish. Yeah, there are liars, but if you tell a man while you're dating, 'I. Will. Stab. You.', he knows where you stand. With that information, he can decide whether or not he wants to get stabbed.
As for the mistress jump offwhatever I would ruin her.. You hear me... Her credit would be ruined, her pictures would be plastered all over Internet porn sites and sent those escort pages. Publish any personal things about her on Craig's list. Send all her info out to former future employers. Find someone to harass her boss, Email dirty details to her co-workers. Hack her email, Open up utilities bills in her name, hospital bills. I'd go to car dealerships and give them all her info. Send her phone to the prisoners. I do it without getting caught too. I'd hire a PI every couple of years, so that once she gets her life straightened out I'd fck with her again just for the hell of it. My Dh would get it the worst though because His family and friends would suffer. I should delete this lol.....
A few years ago this guy found out his wife was cheating on him with one of her classmates. She went to the same school as me. He got into her e-mail and sent all the e-mails betweene her and the guy she cheated with to faculty, staff, and students.
I think i still have those e-mails....
I don't want to be THAT girl.
But since all I run into are horny married men, I have been pondering this question for myself. erplexed
What say you?
Would love to here from the resident LHCF side pieces especially.
Can you go to jail for stabbing your spouse?
From a woman's stand point, the only acceptable reason go be a mistress is to add value to your life ie money, property, connections and so on. Otherwise it's a waste of time. If you really want the all from a man first (only) wife and only woman to have his children is the way to go.
I know a guy who keeps mad women around him and I don't mean 2 or 3. I mean 10+. Pays the bills and hands out money like candy. These chicks think they are riding high. Lol The first wife got homes, alimony, a career, child support and a business. And let's not forget a cut of the life insurance when he dies. He will tell u he wants to marry again but it is cheaper to trick.
Why a woman would be with a married man for any other reason is baffling to me.
And this is why I'm not a stabber. My way, he won't even know what happened, just that his stuff stopped working. So sad.Yes.
And the husband will get full custody and alimony is out of the question.
That's cuz every woman who gets approached by a married man (which is any and everybody) ain't cut out for such perilous work.I think for some, it's an emotional high or an ego stroke. They think the man is getting something from them that the wife is lacking. It makes them feel special I guess. Oftentimes, they are just a receptacle for some wayward man. Very few women actually walk away from those relationships financially better off than they arrived.
In real life, I know of three women that regularly (more than once) dated married men, and they are all a mess. Pretty women with poor self-esteem, messy lives, and just general aimlessness, like you can tell their lives aren't going anywhere. They exist on rapidly changing highs and lows. They pretend that they are so unaffected and detached but it's not true.
I won't generalize and say this is true for every sidepiece, obviously not.
And this is why I'm not a stabber. My way, he won't even know what happened, just that his stuff stopped working. So sad.
And it's reversible in case he decide to ack right.
That's cuz every woman who gets approached by a married man (which is any and everybody) ain't cut out for such perilous work.
This is why Augustine said it's best to leave it to the professionals.
First of all, this negro ain't even that slick. I have all his passwords for everything. He don't even have a lock on his phone. He's like a young old man, knows nothing about fb, "the gram", none of that. A woman would have to waylay him somewhere between home and his office. And then she'd have to offer him something amazing cuz we start sexting before he gets home.I don't understand the point of all of that. Just serperate for a while, don't file for divorce, go to therapy and get over it to go back to your regularly scheduled life. People do what they want to do. I'd he's apologetic it will never happen again, if he isn't it will. Know your audience.
First of all, this negro ain't even that slick. I have all his passwords for everything. He don't even have a lock on his phone. He's like a young old man, knows nothing about fb, "the gram", none of that. A woman would have to waylay him somewhere between home and his office. And then she'd have to offer him something amazing cuz we start sexting before he gets home.
That's my audience. #sanguineaf
The problem I have with the moral stance is that it's not universal. You might think it is, but it isn't. For 99% of human history, marriage was about maintaining the orderly transfer of property. In those periods, mistresses and all assorted varieties of sex workers were necessary to the societal structure. For example, the Middle Ages, a time when the Church ran everything: Do you think they accumulated bad karma? Shoot, them heaux might be useful now. You might think, 'Well, marriage is different now, it's based on love', but for people born into wealth, the old ways still hold true. And for those who plan to acquire wealth in this generation, who study how others accomplished it, dissolving a union whose primary goal is to siphon wealth to the next generation over what? momentary weakness? would be head-shakingly frivolous. Many women would tell you, 'Let him have his whores', and really mean it. I say all that to say, there are times and circumstances when mistresses (and assorted heaux) provide a valuable service. For some, those times and circumstances exist even today. That's just the way of the world.
Nevermind....
people who care about mistresses are the type who would always be threatened, preoccupied, and jealous of other women in the first place. i think thats the disconnect im seeing in both expressed sides of his issue. some women are all "but that women feels and thinks and blah blah blah" and the other side is like "i aint thinkin bout that ho" thats the bottom line
Everyone has different life experiences. I personally know of 2 women who had serious health issues due to their husband's extramarital activities. Both contracted STD's which lead to cervical cancer and death for one woman at the age of 29 and the other had an infection that left her sterile. For me it has nothing to do with being threatened by another woman. It has to do with morals and my female health. I know LHCF would say that you should use condoms even within your marriage but that doesn't make sense to me. If I feel the need to protect myself against STDs from my husband I don't think I need to walk down the isle with that man.
Everyone has different life experiences. I personally know of 2 women who had serious health issues due to their husband's extramarital activities. Both contracted STD's which lead to cervical cancer and death for one woman at the age of 29 and the other had an infection that left her sterile. For me it has nothing to do with being threatened by another woman. It has to do with morals and my female health. I know LHCF would say that you should use condoms even within your marriage but that doesn't make sense to me. If I feel the need to protect myself against STDs from my husband I don't think I need to walk down the isle with that man.
barbiesocalite the scary thing is before they found out they had STDs they were all sure that their man would never cheat. Plus because a mistress is only getting a piece of a relationship I
have no expectation of them only sleeping with the married man. I would not appreciate swapping germs with two unknown individuals. Plus the mistress has no idea whether Mrs. has a friend on the side either. All that body fluid swapping is too much for me. Like I said the health conditions of this upset me more than feeling threatened by some woman. Half of the time we as women think women are threatened by us and they really wouldn't give us a second thought.
Everyone has different life experiences. I personally know of 2 women who had serious health issues due to their husband's extramarital activities. Both contracted STD's which lead to cervical cancer and death for one woman at the age of 29 and the other had an infection that left her sterile. For me it has nothing to do with being threatened by another woman. It has to do with morals and my female health. I know LHCF would say that you should use condoms even within your marriage but that doesn't make sense to me. If I feel the need to protect myself against STDs from my husband I don't think I need to walk down the isle with that man.
And you know what the messed up part is....life is not fair.
You can never predict what will happen. No one should live a life of fear. Sometimea you just have to take a leap of faith. But as stated up thread g-d makes no mistakes. Maybe he was trying to tell them something......