umm Glib...lololol...why did u put "who recently married at 34" lolol
maybe those "things" works for her.
umm Glib...lololol...why did u put "who recently married at 34" lolol
but anyway,
for me, it would hafta be
A good Christian,
A good looking man
A good lover
A good provider
A good friend.
Add an ambitious man and you got what I need.
My aunt who married around the age of 46/47 told me that she asked God for a man that loved God...and that's what she got. She told me she didn't think about "other" things that were important so she told me be specific with God in what you want.
Mind you, she loves her husband BUT he's not educated, he's not financially doing well, he's not motivated, she can't have kids so I dont know about the good father thing, and she steady complains about him but he is a God fearing man.
I took heed of what she said so I have a list.![]()
You know, I have heard that from so many women - about being SPECIFIC with God about what you desire in a mate . . . and yeah, that is good advice![]()
be specific all you want - i am a living witness that God is not (usually) going to give you every little thing on YOUR list....
...but He is gonna give you want you NEED....
God gave me JUST what I asked for!
I believe that you should be specific in your prayers.
I think those are 100% correct...for her. And my list will be 100% correct...for me.
I hate the idea floating around (whether through folk wisdom or the self-help industry) that there is one-size-fits all relationship advice. There's not. Human beings may share core needs but we each arrive at them and attempt to fulfill them in wildly different ways. It is folly to chart the course of one's life or relationship based on someone else's idea of what works for people generally.
If your friend keeps pushing her axioms on you, I'd smile and say, "That sounds like good advice for your relationship," and hope she takes that as a cue to not press the issue.
God gave me JUST what I asked for!
I believe that you should be specific in your prayers.
I think there's a difference between having a list and being specific. I believe having a list leads to inflexibility but being specific in prayer is more about your non-negotiables.
Hmmm...yeah, I never thought about it this way.
For example, I have a friend who's been dating this guy for about 2 years. Everything she said was non negotiable, has become acceptable. Does this happen when you want it that bad??erplexed
Hmmm...yeah, I never thought about it this way.
For example, I have a friend who's been dating this guy for about 2 years. Everything she said was non negotiable, has become acceptable. Does this happen when you want it that bad??erplexed
I don't necessarily think it's about wanting it that bad, but moreso getting in too deep. I always use the example of wanting children as a non-negotiable. Both parties need to be on the same page on this issue. However, it's still very possible for a person who deeply desires to have children to fall in love with someone who vehemently does not want any.
I think some non-negotiables are based in attraction and others are based in practicality given desired lifestyle choices. When we start dating and ultimately fall for people who do not fit the non-negotiable practical traits we desire in a mate it doesn't necessarily mean that the unacceptable has become acceptable but rather that we've placed ourself in the dangerous predicament of being emotionally tied to someone who is ultimately incompatible.
That's why we have to be careful about who we allow ourselves to get emotionally tied to. The whole idea that we can't help who we fall for is a crock. 99.9% of us in this forum have found ourselves drawn to someone we knew would be wrong for us in the long run. Some of us made a conscious effort to remove ourselves from the situations, others kept spending time with that person and then act all surprised when we fall in love. Well what did we expect to happen when we're consistently spending time with someone who's company we enjoy and to whom we're attracted?I think the bolded is so true and can happen. I mean it happened to my friend. For example, sHe's muslim & he's christian...that was non-negotiable for her to marry somone outside her religion because religion is VERY important to her but now, she's willing to work it out.
In every way, he's not the type of guy she wanted...but the emotional ties are there.![]()
That's why we have to be careful about who we allow ourselves to get emotionally tied to. The whole idea that we can't help who we fall for is a crock. 99.9% of us in this forum have found ourselves drawn to someone we knew would be wrong for us in the long run. Some of us made a conscious effort to remove ourselves from the situations, others kept spending time with that person and then act all surprised when we fall in love. Well what did we expect to happen when we're consistently spending time with someone who's company we enjoy and to whom we're attracted?
Some couples work the issues out, eventually realizing that the differences aren't that important after all. But I'd dare to say that the majority just wound up heartbroken in the end when they realize that they have to break it off with someone they never should've been with in the first place. I hope your friend figures it out before too much more time and investment is made.
Nope, its too late because they are planning to get engaged. She's had all the warning signs.![]()
Nope, its too late because they are planning to get engaged. She's had all the warning signs.![]()