MzSwift
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OK. I'll stop lurking and start posting...
I'm coming out of a long marriage (14+ years). The marriage wasn't terrible - we had a lot of fun with each other. But I knew early on that we weren't right for each other. About 5 yeas into the marriage it was confirmed. He hurt me a lot during those first few married years. I kept thinking that if I worked on me more, the marriage would get better. I spent most of the marriage "alone" so I've gotten to know myself pretty well. But instead of growing closer as husband and wife, we grew into best friends. Having a best friend is cool but I want the safety and security (emotionally) of having a husband so I left. He's worked very hard to become a better husband and he has become what I wanted in the beginning. But "when a woman's fed up, there is nothing you can do about it" (thanks R-Kelly). I think he'll be a great catch to some lady (Master's degree, great job, 3000 sqft home, a writing career that's taking off) - he's just not for me.
Now I'm in a new state and I miss my best friend.
Even though he doesn't want it, the separation/divorce has been very amicable and we often share jokes about our son. I miss having someone share my daily struggles. I've had that for the last 16 years (since 1997) and now there's a void. I have no desire to remain married to him but I don't know how to fill this void. I'm so lonely.
I'm not an FWB or F-buddy kinda lady so I have no idea where to go from here. I've joined some local girlfriend meet up groups so I'm hoping that'll help. But I've never derived the same kind of pleasure from my "Ladies Nights" with my girls that I get from a night of cuddling with my guy or even going out by myself. It's just not the same.
I'm coming out of a long marriage (14+ years). The marriage wasn't terrible - we had a lot of fun with each other. But I knew early on that we weren't right for each other. About 5 yeas into the marriage it was confirmed. He hurt me a lot during those first few married years. I kept thinking that if I worked on me more, the marriage would get better. I spent most of the marriage "alone" so I've gotten to know myself pretty well. But instead of growing closer as husband and wife, we grew into best friends. Having a best friend is cool but I want the safety and security (emotionally) of having a husband so I left. He's worked very hard to become a better husband and he has become what I wanted in the beginning. But "when a woman's fed up, there is nothing you can do about it" (thanks R-Kelly). I think he'll be a great catch to some lady (Master's degree, great job, 3000 sqft home, a writing career that's taking off) - he's just not for me.
Now I'm in a new state and I miss my best friend.
Even though he doesn't want it, the separation/divorce has been very amicable and we often share jokes about our son. I miss having someone share my daily struggles. I've had that for the last 16 years (since 1997) and now there's a void. I have no desire to remain married to him but I don't know how to fill this void. I'm so lonely.I'm not an FWB or F-buddy kinda lady so I have no idea where to go from here. I've joined some local girlfriend meet up groups so I'm hoping that'll help. But I've never derived the same kind of pleasure from my "Ladies Nights" with my girls that I get from a night of cuddling with my guy or even going out by myself. It's just not the same.
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....BUT he did inquire about the "special toys" I ordered at a pleasure party
I'm picking them up Friday....right on time for our trip. I have to be careful...
:superbanana: thanks to the high winds!!!!
