RoseTintedCheeks
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Broke up with SO after a year. He didn't know where things were going..
Broke up with SO after a year. He didn't know where things were going..
Broke up with SO after a year. He didn't know where things were going..
He's going through something and withdrawing. I don't know how I feel about it......
Sorry to hear this too. So you asked him and he couldn't give you an answer?
How did you feel about the relationship before this? What age group are you guys in? Folks see situations like this differently depending on where they are in life. Hope you didn't leave something good behind
Been there. My bf shuts down completely. Well he used to. When I say shut down, I mean it. No calls, texts, e-mails, time together nothing. The first time it scared the **** out of me. His father died. I reminded myself he's a black man, he's a man's man's (meaning getting him to express an emotion can be stressful) he's an Army vet that did go to war (again the show no emotion mentality) and he lost his dad. I kept in communication with him the entire time although initially there were no responses and reassured him that I'm always there for him. I also talked about my day and stuff we both liked etc. hoping I could be a good diversion. Now I know when communication slows down something is going on and I ask which prompts him to share. It's still a struggle but better. Now this may not work for every man but it worked for him.
I asked him if he saw a future for us and he said he isn't thinking about long term since he's about to start a new job which means he's unsure of how things will play out. I was happy with things, but I wanted to make sure we were still on the same page about where things were headed. I'm 23, he's 35.
At 35 he should have been beating your door down with a ring trying to keep you or did he think because you are much younger he would take his sweet time and occupy your precious space? Don't be surprised when he comes back and he'll be back very soon. They don't know how good they have it till it is gone. 35 is too old for a man not to know what's up after a year of dating. A new job is a lame excuse.
I had a dream he wrote me a check for $1,000,000 dollars and instead of using Lucie _ _ _ _ _. He used his last name instead. I should go play the lotto, LOL!