sky_blu
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Yeah we had the conversation right after I posted this LOL
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Yeah we had the conversation right after I posted this LOL
sky_blu
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And he continues to step his game up....he had to work Sunday but I woke up to a nice Mothers Day msg then he called to tell me again...then after working all day he came straight from work with these 
Made my freaking day! Because I know he was tired after a 10 hour shift. He doesn't even have children but I'm glad he acknowledged my motherhood =)
Made my freaking day! Because I know he was tired after a 10 hour shift. He doesn't even have children but I'm glad he acknowledged my motherhood =)
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Good therapy session. Getting to the deep stuff now.
Tis funny that good couple therapy is not all about the couple by a long shot. She picked up on some patterns of thinking and dealing with things that she thought originated in my childhood and she was dead right. Doesn't just affect love relationships for me. Also relationships with family and friends at times. All very interesting.
Can't recommend transactional analysis enough. Even just to go alone would be beneficial.
Tis funny that good couple therapy is not all about the couple by a long shot. She picked up on some patterns of thinking and dealing with things that she thought originated in my childhood and she was dead right. Doesn't just affect love relationships for me. Also relationships with family and friends at times. All very interesting.
Can't recommend transactional analysis enough. Even just to go alone would be beneficial.
I think our unhelpful communication patterns during non positive interactions were getting unbearable and putting a shadow over us at times.
Put simply, we are reluctant to give up 80% good for that 20% that needs some work without even trying to learn some new ways to relate in difficult situations.
The success rate for couples therapy/counselling isn't that great. People tend to leave it until well into a marriage, relationship where resentment has set in. I'm a big believer now in going early if you can afford it and want to try and sort out a struggling./unclear part of the relationship. If he's willing do it while you're still in love lol.
Put simply, we are reluctant to give up 80% good for that 20% that needs some work without even trying to learn some new ways to relate in difficult situations.
The success rate for couples therapy/counselling isn't that great. People tend to leave it until well into a marriage, relationship where resentment has set in. I'm a big believer now in going early if you can afford it and want to try and sort out a struggling./unclear part of the relationship. If he's willing do it while you're still in love lol.
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Briabiggles
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Why do we miss each other after less than 2 days apart?! Mannnnn....this sucks.... Can't wait to see him Friday....
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crlsweetie912
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I miss him....
erplexed
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
It's over. I asked him a question about something that I was concerned about and he went off. My heart hurts. I really did care about him. But I will have to just move on. People don't change. Especially a man like him. This hurts. And it sucks. I was looking forward to so much with him.
crlsweetie912
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Fine 4s
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Lucie
What about the question set him off?
It's much easier to let go early BUT I'm also concerned about being hasty. However it may not apply here but...
He sounded like such a good dude. No one is perfect NO ONE!
If this is a deal breaker than keep it moving. You fly girl so, love will come again or at least you will project it again.
Kimbé fèm
What about the question set him off?
It's much easier to let go early BUT I'm also concerned about being hasty. However it may not apply here but...
He sounded like such a good dude. No one is perfect NO ONE!
If this is a deal breaker than keep it moving. You fly girl so, love will come again or at least you will project it again.
Kimbé fèm
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
Just spent Sunday thru Monday straight together. 8 days whew!
he surprised me one night w/ tickets to knicks playoffs at MSG. best night, was so buzzed from my wine lol. Im cheering and yelling and i look down and my iphone is marinating in my glass of wine. it died a slow death
.....got a htc one.
did better this time, fewer arguments. spent some time w/ his mom.
miss him like crazy already.
I just text him "I truly love you" He text back "I'm nothing without you"
he surprised me one night w/ tickets to knicks playoffs at MSG. best night, was so buzzed from my wine lol. Im cheering and yelling and i look down and my iphone is marinating in my glass of wine. it died a slow death
.....got a htc one. did better this time, fewer arguments. spent some time w/ his mom.
miss him like crazy already.
I just text him "I truly love you" He text back "I'm nothing without you"
Just spent Sunday thru Monday straight together. 8 days whew!
he surprised me one night w/ tickets to knicks playoffs at MSG. best night, was so buzzed from my wine lol. Im cheering and yelling and i look down and my iphone is marinating in my glass of wine. it died a slow death
did better this time, fewer arguments. spent some time w/ his mom.
miss him like crazy already.
I just text him "I truly love you" He text back "I'm nothing without you"
Aww, that was sweet. I'm
at your phone in the glass. 
hopeful
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Do not do it
. Who is the prize? You or him? Has he given you reason to not trust him? I'm confused.
MzLady78
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Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
Fine 4s, don't do it!
Understand this and understand well cherie, you NEVER have to look through a man's things or accounts! Whatever is done in the dark WILL come into the light. So do what you have to do pertaining to his account but don't go through any call logs lovie.
If you do not listen to me and the lovely ladies here you could irreparably damage your relationship and cause yourself MUCH embarrassment.
Understand this and understand well cherie, you NEVER have to look through a man's things or accounts! Whatever is done in the dark WILL come into the light. So do what you have to do pertaining to his account but don't go through any call logs lovie.
If you do not listen to me and the lovely ladies here you could irreparably damage your relationship and cause yourself MUCH embarrassment.
MzLady78
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Then what's the problem?
You would be bulls**t if he did that to you, right? Then doesn't he deserve the same respect?
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
Should I put a hex on you and say that if you snoop your hair will forever remain the length it is at currently? That would suck if you are WL and then you wouldn't care! LMBO!
GIRL, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! Plus I don't know how to do hexes!
Seriously, don't do it! I'd be POed if he did it to you! Go workout or something. Or be even more productive and make me a 5-star Haitian meal! I need some tassot and griot in my life!
GIRL, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! Plus I don't know how to do hexes!
Seriously, don't do it! I'd be POed if he did it to you! Go workout or something. Or be even more productive and make me a 5-star Haitian meal! I need some tassot and griot in my life!
Fine 4s
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It wouldn't bother me (and maybe that's the problem) much if he went through my phone or call log b/c there's nothing there!
@Lucie, I'm on a no meat diet going on week 4 so ou pa nan ayin ki bon! MERDE!!!!!
ETA: He's going to take care of it himself
Well, that takes care of that.
Thanks for weathering this storm with me ladies LOLOLOL
@Lucie, I'm on a no meat diet going on week 4 so ou pa nan ayin ki bon! MERDE!!!!!
ETA: He's going to take care of it himself
Well, that takes care of that.
Thanks for weathering this storm with me ladies LOLOLOL
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